"Where are they now?": Follow up to your 2010 posts!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I started this one which erupted into a feminist argument:
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/109044.page

Funny that it erupted into a flamefest. I am married to my "baby's daddy" and I have to say to all the haters that my husband is still so great. I suffered from PPD, had a new job in a new country with a new baby at 40. My baby's daddy is still the best and still wakes up every night, every morning so that I can rest, takes care of his daughter in ways that his parents never did and has overcome the silence of his father's generation. God bless that man.

I loved your post and was sad when it turned into a flamefest, too.

[Anonymous]

I posted this thread, wondering if it was OK to stay together just for the kids:
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/119185.page#1005614
I am happy to say that my husband and I have worked, worked, and worked some more and are in a happy place. We still have issues, but I think he understands now that it's OK for us to have separate interests outside of our family, that it's OK for him to go out with his friends every once in a while, and that he's not boxed in. I started back to work and we are in great shape financially, and are planning a beach vacation away in a month. I took a lot of what people responded to heart and this was the thread that I actually felt like there was a sense of community here - even the harsher posts. That's what you need to hear sometimes!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a great thread, OP! This was my thread: www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/99719.page

My Dad is now onto girlfriend #2, so I am thankful that I didn't have girlfriend #1 meet my new baby. I have realized, however, that life is so very short and companionship is good for my Dad. I will probably meet girlfriend #2 sometime in the next few months (maybe for DD's first birthday). I miss my Mom tremendously and wish that she had been able to meet my daughter. I talk to her a lot while I am driving in the car and when it is quiet and keep asking her for a sign that she is around and ok, but haven't had a sign yet!

You don't need a sign - your love for her, and hers for you keeps her in your heart forever, which tells you that she is very much ok.

[Anonymous]

I posted a bunch of threads earlier this year asking for advice as I was identifying and dealing with an ectopic pregnancy. One of those threads was this one, asking to hear happy stories of people who went on to have healthy pregnancies after their ectopic.

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/100120.page

Now I have a happy story of my own to add: I got through the ectopic mess and am now 20 weeks pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Way to go, 21:04! OP - what a great idea. I will be following this thread!

[Anonymous]

21:04 in 20 weeks your life will change in the most amazing way you ever thought possible, and you earned it. Good for you, I'm really happy to hear this!

[Anonymous]

What a great way to cap off another year of DCUM!

I have to say that I have received lots of good advice, TONS of entertainment, and read enough snarky comments to realize that although we are nameless and faceless on this board, some things are better left unsaid. Meaning, journal your thoughts, vent to your husband/partner/friend, but don't hurt another nameless, faceless person who has serious questions and good intentions with posts that only serve as sandpaper on their soul.

Let's continue to take care of each other, with appropriate snark and helpful advice.

Enough out of me. Keep on keepin on people. And a shout out to Jeff, who enables us to do everything we love and hate on this board.

[Anonymous]

to 20:22 i was one of the responders who urged you to work through it. I'm so glad to hear things are going well; and frankly, when DH and I go through rough patches (and we do) I remind myself that relationships ebb and flow, but the foundation is there and the family is our glue. I hope you have a terrific new year (and beach vacation!).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I posted this thread, wondering if it was OK to stay together just for the kids:
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/119185.page#1005614
I am happy to say that my husband and I have worked, worked, and worked some more and are in a happy place. We still have issues, but I think he understands now that it's OK for us to have separate interests outside of our family, that it's OK for him to go out with his friends every once in a while, and that he's not boxed in. I started back to work and we are in great shape financially, and are planning a beach vacation away in a month. I took a lot of what people responded to heart and this was the thread that I actually felt like there was a sense of community here - even the harsher posts. That's what you need to hear sometimes!

I am so glad for you!

[Anonymous]

I posted this one: http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/108613.page

I did go on to have a cerclage, but wasn't put on any activity restrictions. My son was born full term but three weeks early: I went into labor the day before the cerclage was due to come out and had to go into the hospital to get it removed before returning home for my planned home birth! He was tiny and had jaundice, but has nursed like a champion and grown his way up to the 75th percentile in all measures by three months. He's great, of course, and all the ups and downs of the pregnancy are dim memories (although not so dim that I'm wavering in our plan to just have the one child).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I posted that I thought my house was haunted, because the cats kept puffing up for no reasons and children's fingerprints would suddenly appear on the fridge.

Stainless steel cleaner got rid of the fingerprints, and the cats stopped puffing up, so I never got the house smudged or blessed. The house is next to a lot of trees, so I think branches outside were making noises that scared the cats. All is fine now!

HA! I remember -- I replied to you saying something like, "honey, get stainless steel cleaner. it's not ghosts. stainless steel is just a bitch to clean." I seriously think of you every week or two when I glance at my own stainless steel fridge and see the smudges that won't go away. Glad your house is seeming less haunted!

[Anonymous]

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/91661.page

Baby name advice poster here! We named him Cole. Top 50, I think, but we love it (and still do!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/91661.page

Baby name advice poster here! We named him Cole. Top 50, I think, but we love it (and still do!)

Oh wait, it's 84

[Anonymous]

Oooh fun!

This was me:
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/134088.page

I needed crash diet tips.

I ended up losing 6 pounds in 2 weeks and had a fabulous vacation! I gained 2 back on the trip but lost it again once I got back. I still don't fit into all my pre-pregnancy clothes, but I'm fine with that.

I did it by severely cutting calories and watching my carb/sugar/starch intake, but not strictly doing no carbs.

[Anonymous]

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/138253.page#1209476

This was me, just a month ago. DC did not watch the euthanasia, but stayed at a friend's house. We wisely did not use the "sleep" language, on respondents' advice. DC talks about the dog all the time and I do think DC understands dog is gone for good.

We read "Saying Goodbye to Lulu" before and after (a book which wasn't suggested but I found it at Child's Play in Chevy Chase Circle (which had a section of books organized around serious topics, like death, adoption, hospitalization)). I find I still am unable to say "died" and the dog's name in the same sentence to DC. I think DC is too young to really get it. So we talk about how the dog went away forever.

We may get a new dog this spring. We miss this one terribly.