"Where are they now?": Follow up to your 2010 posts!

[Anonymous]

Love this idea! I am the "Breastfeeding Angst" OP from this thread: http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/140349.page#1232306

Baby is now 3 weeks old and my nipples did toughen up so I'm still BF and other than the first few seconds after latching it's not painful at all anymore. But I'm still not producing enough milk for him and so I'm supplementing, but I've made peace with it and have decided not to do extra pumping to try to increase my supply. My husband loves being able to feed the baby (as does my 2.5 year old) and I love having the freedom to do things with my 2.5 year old, like put her to bed and play with her when she wants mommy. So a breastmilk/formula combo is working well for our family and I expect to continue it until at least I go back to work and maybe longer. I really appreciated all the posts on my thread as they made me feel so much better about my decision.

Hope everyone has a great new year!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/138253.page#1209476

This was me, just a month ago. DC did not watch the euthanasia, but stayed at a friend's house. We wisely did not use the "sleep" language, on respondents' advice. DC talks about the dog all the time and I do think DC understands dog is gone for good.

We read "Saying Goodbye to Lulu" before and after (a book which wasn't suggested but I found it at Child's Play in Chevy Chase Circle (which had a section of books organized around serious topics, like death, adoption, hospitalization)). I find I still am unable to say "died" and the dog's name in the same sentence to DC. I think DC is too young to really get it. So we talk about how the dog went away forever.

We may get a new dog this spring. We miss this one terribly.

Sorry to hear it, OP. I posted on your thread. It's been about a year and a half for us and it does get easier, but we still talk about him all the time. We do have a new dog. I think we may have gotten him a little too soon for me emotionally, but he seems to have helped everybody else, especially the kids. Good luck to you and your family.

[Anonymous]

Here is one other thread that I started: http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/111307.page#927737

It links some with the previous thread, because my DS recently mentioned my Mom and I told him I missed her (I think we were nearing Thanksgiving). Then, in a sweet voice DS says: "but you still have your Dad". So, back to why I can't be mad at him forever about wanting companionship and trying to move on after my Mom's passing...

Very, very sweet!

[Anonymous]

I asked for naming advice - Rory or Noreen - and got lots and lots of good advice and funny viewpoints. So much so, in fact, that we named her Lucy!

Happy new year, DCUMs!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I asked for naming advice - Rory or Noreen - and got lots and lots of good advice and funny viewpoints. So much so, in fact, that we named her Lucy!

Happy new year, DCUMs!!

Funny, Noreen is my maiden name and we considered it for DDs middle name. I'm curious what people's opinions were. . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I asked for naming advice - Rory or Noreen - and got lots and lots of good advice and funny viewpoints. So much so, in fact, that we named her Lucy!

Happy new year, DCUMs!!

Lucy is a sweet, simple name.

[Anonymous]

I love this thread idea! Thanks OP!!

I'm the OP of this thread:
New Mom Coping with going back to work

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/133823.page


So now, 2 months later, I can say that my situation has only gotten marginally better. I'm learning to adjust with the fact that I just can't be there when I want to be for my daughter. But I am trying to make as many accommodations as I possibly can to be the best mother I can be. I take random days off work to stay at home and snuggle. I cherish every second I have with my daughter on the weekends. Both DH and I are so in love with this kid that we fight each other to hold and care for her. It's been the best 5 months of my life since she was born.

There was a nanny who read and responded to the post saying that if she were my nanny that she would bring DD by my work place. It made me cry - hard, and it was such a sweet thing to say to me at the time when I was so vulnerable.

All in all, I am glad I started the thread. I hope that next year I can post again saying that things are much, much better. But for now, we are still a work in progress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love this thread idea! Thanks OP!!

I'm the OP of this thread:
New Mom Coping with going back to work

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/133823.page


So now, 2 months later, I can say that my situation has only gotten marginally better. I'm learning to adjust with the fact that I just can't be there when I want to be for my daughter. But I am trying to make as many accommodations as I possibly can to be the best mother I can be. I take random days off work to stay at home and snuggle. I cherish every second I have with my daughter on the weekends. Both DH and I are so in love with this kid that we fight each other to hold and care for her. It's been the best 5 months of my life since she was born.

There was a nanny who read and responded to the post saying that if she were my nanny that she would bring DD by my work place. It made me cry - hard, and it was such a sweet thing to say to me at the time when I was so vulnerable.

All in all, I am glad I started the thread. I hope that next year I can post again saying that things are much, much better. But for now, we are still a work in progress.

As another FTM who's also recently gone back to work, I read your post and the replies with tears in my eyes. I'm glad things are even a bit better for you, and I hope you've gotten a lot of quality time with your DD over the holidays. Here's to a 2011 full of snow days!

[Anonymous]

I was the mom who wanted to send her child to daycare in a onesie:
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/108594.page

So we sent her to daycare in onesies for the summer, but there was a definite point at which it became kind of strange to see her not wearing pants. I think around 4 months, she stopped looking so much like a newborn, and it seemed obscene for her not to wear pants, so we started putting her in pants and dresses more. Now I look back and wonder why we didn't put pants on her sooner! Daycare never said anything either way, I think they would be fine with her being naked.

I was really surprised by how many heated responses there were. Though I did see a toddler running around in just a onesie and I could see what people were saying about it being a little trashy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was the mom who wanted to send her child to daycare in a onesie:
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/108594.page

So we sent her to daycare in onesies for the summer, but there was a definite point at which it became kind of strange to see her not wearing pants. I think around 4 months, she stopped looking so much like a newborn, and it seemed obscene for her not to wear pants, so we started putting her in pants and dresses more. Now I look back and wonder why we didn't put pants on her sooner! Daycare never said anything either way, I think they would be fine with her being naked.

I was really surprised by how many heated responses there were. Though I did see a toddler running around in just a onesie and I could see what people were saying about it being a little trashy.

Ahh, that one was a classic! So glad you checked in! FWIW, I was someone who said I think of onesies as shirts and it would be weird to wear just thatbut I know means said (or would ever say) it was trashy. I don;t think a newborn can be trashy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was the mom who wanted to send her child to daycare in a onesie:
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/108594.page

So we sent her to daycare in onesies for the summer, but there was a definite point at which it became kind of strange to see her not wearing pants. I think around 4 months, she stopped looking so much like a newborn, and it seemed obscene for her not to wear pants, so we started putting her in pants and dresses more. Now I look back and wonder why we didn't put pants on her sooner! Daycare never said anything either way, I think they would be fine with her being naked.

I was really surprised by how many heated responses there were. Though I did see a toddler running around in just a onesie and I could see what people were saying about it being a little trashy.

Ahh, that one was a classic! So glad you checked in! FWIW, I was someone who said I think of onesies as shirts and it would be weird to wear just thatbut I know means said (or would ever say) it was trashy. I don;t think a newborn can be trashy.

Can I be my own grammar police?? So much wrong with that post!

[Anonymous]

I started the post "6 week old baby, when will it get easier?" http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/118081.page

People were very kind and gave me a lot of encouragement and advice which I appreciated!

I am happy to say that things are SO much better now. Thank God. Really, the newborn period was the roughest thing ever. I think that I am afraid to have another because I never want to go through that again. Now my little guy is 6 months old and goes to bed in his crib at 6pm nurses once overnight and wakes up at 6am. I never ever thought that it would happen, but it did. He went from being a "high needs" newborn to being a motor driven ball of constant jabbering rolling and wiggling and smiles. Certainly he will never be described as easy going though!

Naps are still a bit of an issue. He only wants to nap in bed nursing/ latched. But hey, he sleeps in the crib at night, is on a regular schedule, and neither of us is sleep deprived so I just roll with it knowing it will not last forever.

[Anonymous]

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/101148.page#826007

This was me, embarassingly enough. Luckily, DH never left the baby on the curb again, we have an Ergo and use it a lot, and baby is healthy, safe, etc. He never admitted he messed up, but he didn't do it again.

I also posted somewhere that my mom told me when DS was 4 months old that she wanted us to send him to her for a month over the summer next summer, when he'll be 18 months. Well, after spending 3 days with DS this christmas--with me there!--she changed her tune, realizing she is not up for the 5 am wakeups, the squiggly diaper changes, the assertion of personality, the non=stop energy, etc.


I either read or posted a ton of other stuff in the past year--the first year of our baby's life--about breastfeeding issues, weight gain, child-raising differences/problems with DH, solids, ear infections, etc. I can report that basically things are fine! Baby generally sleeps through the night, eats like a champ (fresh apples were new yesterday, he did well), is flourishing in his home day care, DH and I are still married, I am still dealing with a difficult commute, and basically we are making it work and our lives have some semblance of normality. I thank everyone who has posted or responded, not just to my posts, but in general because (with the exception of some of the snarkier or bitchier posters) I have learned so much from all of you. Happy New Year.

[Anonymous]

I am "I am choosing not to breastfeed." http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/109485.page

My child is now 5 months old and happy and healthy. My child has been in daycare for two months and has had one cold so far. We are excited to start some solids in a couple weeks. Both me, my husband, and DC1 are bonded to the baby, who seem to adore all three of us. The choice was right for my family.

[Anonymous]

I was the posted that asked people to convince me not to have a second child. I got many, many responses, but apparently you all didn't do a good enough job. I'm expecting #2 this spring!!