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"Where are they now?": Follow up to your 2010 posts!
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Congrats PP!
On a related note, I wonder what happened to the poster who was considering adoption for #2. |
Anonymous
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I posted about the grandparents not interested in visiting more frequently with their grandchild -- http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/132721.page -- I received many helpful responses and some that seemed to misinterpret what I said, which is to be expected considering the imperfections of an anonymous message board as a means of communication. (To summarize, I was interested in more frequent grandparent visits -- either them coming to DC or us going to them -- but my parents refuse to schedule beyond one visit in the summer and one at Christmas.)
We had a nice visit with over Christmas, and my parents were clearly happy to see their son as well as all their grandchildren. It was a very joyous occasion, except to see my mother suffering from chronic pain. As some people pointed out, I agree my mother is the one to be concerned about. Just walking is painful for her. But she resists all help, which is painful for me. I've been calling more often and sending pictures. We will go up for short visits more frequently in 2011. Before I posted, I knew her reaction wasn't necessarily about me or her grandchild, but after reading all the responses, I'm even more focused on finding ways to help her. Haven't figured it out yet, but I'm trying. But now DS is asking to see his grandparents more frequently, and I wish I could grant his wish. Thanks again for taking the time to respond. Happy new year! |
Anonymous
| I posted a thread way back in December 2009 about finding out I was going to be induced that day, and asking if anyone had done a natural birth on pitocin. There were many helpful and encouraging responses, including some that pretty much predicted what happened to me. I ended up being one of those lucky people for whom pitocin does not equal fast labor. Made it 24 hours on pitocin without an epidural, at which point my midwife sat me down and told me she thought an epidural would help me dilate (I was only at 5cm). Did the epidural, had baby about 7 hours later. Very happy to avoid c-section! |
Anonymous
Congratulations. You're going to love it. |
Anonymous
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My 17 month old nursing DD now calls my breasts "milkies"!
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Anonymous
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http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/75/104186.page
I'm in Chicago... And loving it! FYI, though, someone who had read my thread tipped off my ex and he was VERY angry about it. It actually precipitated a horrible argument with lots of threats and I was pretty scared since he was drunk. Thanks a million! |
Anonymous
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http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/45/120203.page
In the end, we're just renewing our stash. DH was not comfortable with the idea of something going wrong and then having the blame fall on the milk. They're growing kinda competitive now and they ask lots of questions re development to see if their kid is ahead of ours. They'll often force their child to do things when we're hanging out if they see DC doing it (sitting up unassisted, eating, reaching for toys, rolling over...) |
Anonymous
Come back for advice when your marriage starts to tank. |
Anonymous
My husband wanted an abortion and I wanted to give it up for adoption... we've somehow compromised to decide to keep the unexpected second baby instead, though how we're going to pay daycare for two I don't have any clue. |
Anonymous
Hope that baby never finds this out... 
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Anonymous
| To 11:04- You'll figure out the daycare cost, it always seems to work out somehow. good luck and god bless |
Anonymous
You will manage it and most likely wonder how you could have done anything differently. fwiw, my feeling was that either an adoption or abortion may have lead, in the future, to real rockiness in the marriage, esp if one of you was not wholly convinced it was the right thing to do. Good luck. A couple years will be tough, but you can make changes to make it work. Speaking of daycare costs, why not a nanny share? A friend has her two kids in a share with a third, they pay 2/3 of a nanny share and it comes to less than 2 daycares (they pay something like 2000/month?). But as soon as #1 is old enough, they're hoping for a public charter pre-school. And if you meet income requirements, you can get subsidized care (something like HHI under 50k). |
Anonymous
Seriously, why do you always have to come around and be mean to people who are nervous about having 2 kids? I know you are the same person because you always talk about the marriage "tanking." Maybe yours tanked because you are a bitch. PP, I have 2 kids and a perfectly happy marriage, as do all of my friends. Don't pay attention to these trolls. |
Anonymous
Agree with the PP (except for the name-calling part). I was also ambivalent about #2 but went ahead anyway. No - you are not going to love every minute of it and there may be times when you wonder what you were thinking. BUT I seriously doubt that you will regret your decision. Yes, it's tough to have two small children but there are so many really wonderful moments and they won't be infants forever. |
Anonymous
I love it! |