Don't ask people about their weight loss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why cant you share? Are you taking an injectable. I would be flattered she noticed.

How often do you really look a person up and down?

Sounds like you are looking for a reason to be offended.

Some people live life looking to be offended.

Take the compliment OP, offer some advice, and move on.

Where is the compliment? There was no compliment.

[Anonymous]

How did you lose the weight? Why is it such a big secret. Why not be open about it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why cant you share? Are you taking an injectable. I would be flattered she noticed.

How often do you really look a person up and down?

Sounds like you are looking for a reason to be offended.

Asking someone if they've lost weight or noticing that someone has lost weight is NOT a compliment or something to be flattered by. It's just an observation. And looking someone up and down in an obvious manner is just rude.

MIL could have just said "You look great" and left it at that.

Why are you assuming she looks great and not sick?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why cant you share? Are you taking an injectable. I would be flattered she noticed.

How often do you really look a person up and down?

Sounds like you are looking for a reason to be offended.

Some people live life looking to be offended.

Take the compliment OP, offer some advice, and move on.

It’s not always a compliment, idiot. MIL went on and on to a person at church “complimenting” them, when finally the person shut her down by saying, “I have cancer, and I would give anything to have that weight and my energy back.”

Don’t. Comment. On. People’s. Bodies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why cant you share? Are you taking an injectable. I would be flattered she noticed.

How often do you really look a person up and down?

Sounds like you are looking for a reason to be offended.

Some people live life looking to be offended.

Take the compliment OP, offer some advice, and move on.

It’s not always a compliment, idiot. MIL went on and on to a person at church “complimenting” them, when finally the person shut her down by saying, “I have cancer, and I would give anything to have that weight and my energy back.”

Don’t. Comment. On. People’s. Bodies.

There is a huge difference between strangers at church and family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Commenting on people's bodies is rude. You shouldn't comment on gain, and you shouldn't comment on loss.

You don't know what's going on with others - just don't comment on their bodies at all.

1. There was no compliment. Just a reminder that everyone else is watching OP’s size.
2. I lost a ton of weight as part of a mental health crisis - just couldn’t eat. When people commented and asked for tips I could hardly tell them “just lose the will to live and the pounds just fall off!” Nor was I proud or excited about the weight loss.

I am much better now and back to my normal weight, within a healthy rage. But it’s a good reminder never to ask or comment about weight at all!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why cant you share? Are you taking an injectable. I would be flattered she noticed.

How often do you really look a person up and down?

Sounds like you are looking for a reason to be offended.

Some people live life looking to be offended.

Take the compliment OP, offer some advice, and move on.

It’s not always a compliment, idiot. MIL went on and on to a person at church “complimenting” them, when finally the person shut her down by saying, “I have cancer, and I would give anything to have that weight and my energy back.”

Don’t. Comment. On. People’s. Bodies.

There is a huge difference between strangers at church and family.

Yes. But family still doesn’t get to demand medical info. You’re rude

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have lost 40lbs over the past year. I see my in laws every few months. Today, my mother in law, who I last saw at Christmas (and mind you, I have only lost 4lbs since Christmas) looked me up and down and said "Have you lost a TON of weight?". I said "yes" and she promptly asked me how. No compliment in there or anything. Don't do that to people, folks. It's incredibly rude. Just don't talk about weight. Ever.

Is she also trying to lose weight? Is anyone else in the family fat?

It doesn't matter. It's always rude to ask someone about their weight.

Why is that rude? It’s not like she said you were so fat and you had to lose weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why cant you share? Are you taking an injectable. I would be flattered she noticed.

How often do you really look a person up and down?

Sounds like you are looking for a reason to be offended.

Some people live life looking to be offended.

Take the compliment OP, offer some advice, and move on.

It’s not always a compliment, idiot. MIL went on and on to a person at church “complimenting” them, when finally the person shut her down by saying, “I have cancer, and I would give anything to have that weight and my energy back.”

Don’t. Comment. On. People’s. Bodies.

There is a huge difference between strangers at church and family.

Yes. But family still doesn’t get to demand medical info. You’re rude

She commented that OP lost weight. No compliment, no assumption of being sick it was an observation. If you think people can’t notice the obvious or ever comment on it you’re going to be sorely disappointed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why cant you share? Are you taking an injectable. I would be flattered she noticed.

How often do you really look a person up and down?

Sounds like you are looking for a reason to be offended.

Some people live life looking to be offended.

Take the compliment OP, offer some advice, and move on.

It’s not always a compliment, idiot. MIL went on and on to a person at church “complimenting” them, when finally the person shut her down by saying, “I have cancer, and I would give anything to have that weight and my energy back.”

Don’t. Comment. On. People’s. Bodies.

Not when it comes to bodies.

Don’t comment on people’s bodies! If you say “It’s great to see you” or “you look great,” they’ll open the door if thy want to.

Don’t. Comment. On. People’s. Bodies.

There is a huge difference between strangers at church and family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How did you lose the weight? Why is it such a big secret. Why not be open about it

Why do you care? You’re just as ill-mannered as MIL.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How did you lose the weight? Why is it such a big secret. Why not be open about it

Why do you care? You’re just as ill-mannered as MIL.

Are you one of those over sensitive people who won’t admit to weight loss drugs? Everyone is talking about those people behind their backs. If it was me, I’d rather someone just ask.

[Anonymous]

I just say, “No, I haven’t lost any weight in a year,” and leave it at that. Always works!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did you lose the weight? Why is it such a big secret. Why not be open about it

Why do you care? You’re just as ill-mannered as MIL.

Are you one of those over sensitive people who won’t admit to weight loss drugs? Everyone is talking about those people behind their backs. If it was me, I’d rather someone just ask.

Oh yeah it's a great idea to confide in the type of people who talk behind your back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did you lose the weight? Why is it such a big secret. Why not be open about it

Why do you care? You’re just as ill-mannered as MIL.

Are you one of those over sensitive people who won’t admit to weight loss drugs? Everyone is talking about those people behind their backs. If it was me, I’d rather someone just ask.

Oh yeah it's a great idea to confide in the type of people who talk behind your back.

Confide? It’s not a state secret. It’s perfectly obvious if you’ve lost weight and they may be concerned.. People will notice but you expect them to avoid the elephant in the room, so to speak? Sounds like you’re one of those people. Trust that people have noticed and have commented behind your back.