Daughter (17) is confused and I am too

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since this is a *student* teacher, write the principal and actual classroom teacher and ask that she be reminded about appropriate professional boundaries. Soliciting gifts from students, even “joking” is off.

Agree. This is odd. They aren’t peers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the student teacher is a) joking and b) making a light-hearted suggestion that it's rude to bring food or drink to class.

Not that. Lots of high schoolers do this, across all high schools.

I don’t know about that. Our high school expects that you should be able to get through a class without eating or drinking. Get coffee a little earlier and finish it before class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the student teacher is a) joking and b) making a light-hearted suggestion that it's rude to bring food or drink to class.

Not that. Lots of high schoolers do this, across all high schools.

I don’t know about that. Our high school expects that you should be able to get through a class without eating or drinking. Get coffee a little earlier and finish it before class.

I agree. My high schooler is not allowed to bring food/drink into the classroom. I think a waterbottle is tolerated, but definitely not a Starbucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since this is a *student* teacher, write the principal and actual classroom teacher and ask that she be reminded about appropriate professional boundaries. Soliciting gifts from students, even “joking” is off.

I bet everyone runs when they see you coming. That would be a shitty thing to do to a student teacher. The student needs to learn how to joke around. Prepare for college professors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since this is a *student* teacher, write the principal and actual classroom teacher and ask that she be reminded about appropriate professional boundaries. Soliciting gifts from students, even “joking” is off.

land the helicopter and teach your kid that some people joke. OMG I am sure the teachers love you.

The kid is joking and probably trying to make a connection. Going to the principal over this? Hell no.

Your child needs to learn, while they are in HS about how to deal with this. She is a senior. What are you going to do next year when your kids roommate is messy, call the dean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since this is a *student* teacher, write the principal and actual classroom teacher and ask that she be reminded about appropriate professional boundaries. Soliciting gifts from students, even “joking” is off.

land the helicopter and teach your kid that some people joke. OMG I am sure the teachers love you.

The kid is joking and probably trying to make a connection. Going to the principal over this? Hell no.

Your child needs to learn, while they are in HS about how to deal with this. She is a senior. What are you going to do next year when your kids roommate is messy, call the dean?

PP here, and this is not directed to OP, but to the PP who suggested writing the principal, just FYI

[Anonymous]

It’s a joke.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since this is a *student* teacher, write the principal and actual classroom teacher and ask that she be reminded about appropriate professional boundaries. Soliciting gifts from students, even “joking” is off.

Calm down Karen

[Anonymous]

Student teachers are young and clueless and they all fall into the trap of weirding the kids out by trying to be friendly in a peer-like way with them to get the kids to like them. They haven’t yet figured out they’re an adult in the room who is by necessity separate and apart from the kids, so they resort to goody stuff like this thinking it’s “building relationships.” It’s harmless but they really are just figuring out how to work with kids which is why they have a mentor teacher .

-high school teacher

[Anonymous]

The student teacher should not be “fairly friendly” with the students. WTH? Is the student teacher a male?

[Anonymous]

Just have your daughter reply (with a smile)- “It was your turn this time”. The joke will end.

[Anonymous]

I think the first time I might have assumed it was a joke. If she’s saying it repeatedly though I think she’s being serious. Your daughter should jokingly say bsck “ I’d bring you one but I don’t think it’s appropriate to bring a teacher coffee” and see if that stops it..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the student teacher is a) joking and b) making a light-hearted suggestion that it's rude to bring food or drink to class.

This. She's signaling that she shouldn't be bringing coffee to class and pointing out why - rude to drink in front of others and not bring them a drink, too.

How is that rude

[Anonymous]

if she brought the coffee one time and the teacher asked, I would assume the teacher was finding a joking way to say don't bring coffee to class (or at least my class). I think it's weird for a kid, even in high school, to think it is okay to take coffee to a class. After that, if she hasn't brought it since, it seems kind of annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since this is a *student* teacher, write the principal and actual classroom teacher and ask that she be reminded about appropriate professional boundaries. Soliciting gifts from students, even “joking” is off.

Exactly. This is the kind of teacher that will make the news in a few years.