Daughter (17) is confused and I am too

[Anonymous]

DD is 17 and a senior in her English class, There’s a new student teacher in the class who leads activities in small groups and has gotten fairly friendly with DD and a few of her friends.

A few days ago, DD brought coffee to school, she doesn’t do it often.The student teacher asked if she could bring her one too. DD said “okay,” but didn’t really understand whether she was joking or serious at the time.

Since then, the student teacher has been bringing it up daily — saying things like, “Where’s my coffee?””, “when will you bring me one”, and DD usually says she forgot or was late. She genuinely can’t tell if this is sarcasm or if she’s actually expecting her to bring one. She asked me what I think, and honestly, I’m not sure either. What would you make of this?

[Anonymous]

Student teacher is out of line.

[Anonymous]

She's probably joking. I had a co-worker like this, and it's annoying.

[Anonymous]

I think the student teacher is a) joking and b) making a light-hearted suggestion that it's rude to bring food or drink to class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the student teacher is a) joking and b) making a light-hearted suggestion that it's rude to bring food or drink to class.

Not that. Lots of high schoolers do this, across all high schools.

[Anonymous]

This totally sounds like joking to me.

[Anonymous]

She’s joking.

[Anonymous]

Tell your daughter to ignore her

[Anonymous]

Ignore

[Anonymous]

When I was a new grad I worked a day job at a hospital and nights at a Starbucks. Every Single Day someone would ask where their coffee was. “Did you bring me any Starbucks?” They just think they’re clever.

[Anonymous]

Ignore.

[Anonymous]

Definitely a joke

[Anonymous]

Joking but lacks social,skills to realize it's over the top now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the student teacher is a) joking and b) making a light-hearted suggestion that it's rude to bring food or drink to class.

This. She's signaling that she shouldn't be bringing coffee to class and pointing out why - rude to drink in front of others and not bring them a drink, too.

[Anonymous]

Since this is a *student* teacher, write the principal and actual classroom teacher and ask that she be reminded about appropriate professional boundaries. Soliciting gifts from students, even “joking” is off.