Asked mother not to share birth with others, she did anyway. Would you be upset?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Details of the birth” to me would be how long you labored, that you had an epidural, etc. Not that you had a baby.

You cannot keep a baby a secret and it’s kind of weird to try.

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OP, you got hormones, honey. I am sorry but unless she shared DETAILS like in 20:34 she did't share details. Did you specifically say DON'T TELL ANYONE I HAD A BABY or did you sat details? Unless you said don't tell anyone then she didn't promise that. She promised not to tell details.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Details of the birth” to me would be how long you labored, that you had an epidural, etc. Not that you had a baby.

You cannot keep a baby a secret and it’s kind of weird to try.

This. Are you OK OP?

Thank her friend for the gift and move along. Spend time with your new little one <3

[Anonymous]

Girl, share less.

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Anonymous wrote:You are being unreasonable and childish. If you really wanted to keep it private, why did you tell your mom anyway? I think deep down you want to control the narrative and upset about your mom doing it before you. It's a childbirth. Don't you have bigger things to worry about? Don't use your baby as a leverage.

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Plus this is the child’s grandparent. You seem like you thrive all drama and want it both ways. Don’t take her help or even a meal - you want help but want her to essentially lie to others.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes she not only disregarded your feelings and wished but she gaslit you with HER silent treatment. Is she a narcissist?

Here we go…

[Anonymous]

Just to clarify, did you not want her to share the fact that you had a baby at all or share details of the birth?

Keeping details private is reasonable but expecting her not to share that a baby was born seems a bit ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Details of the birth” to me would be how long you labored, that you had an epidural, etc. Not that you had a baby.

You cannot keep a baby a secret and it’s kind of weird to try.

It is really weird but I have several family members who do this.

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This is strange. Why is your baby a secret? Are you ashamed?

A birth is a joyous occasion. What other details would she have to share idfyou dont communicate with her?
If you and your husband really wanted privacy no one would know when the baby was born. I waited a few hours before telling people I had given birth to my second kid just to have some alone time and get back to normal.

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Team grandma here. The fact that the child was born is not sharing "details" of the birth. I think you needed to be way more specific if that's what you were expecting.

I'm curious as to what you demanded an apology for after the first child.

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Anonymous wrote:So you’ve given birth within the past 18 days, have a 2 year old and you have the time and energy to be fixating on your mother telling someone that her daughter just had a baby?

You’re either a troll or just really immature. There’s nothing wrong with a grandmother sharing the birth of a grandchild. What is wrong with you?

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OP, you sound extremely controlling. Your mother did nothing wrong.

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Ugh I swear, reading replies on this site always makes me feel so disgusted. People are absolutely gross and repulsive when it comes to respecting others. I’m so thankful I’m not related or even friends with a single soul on this site. You have every right to feel upset about your mom obnoxiously over sharing. Like OF COURSE she knows she is sharing information that she is not entitled or allowed to share. I would put her on the most massive information diet and take the relationship very slowly. I have tons of family and friends and NONE of them share information about my family that would make me uncomfortable. People on this website are so freaking deranged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Details of the birth” to me would be how long you labored, that you had an epidural, etc. Not that you had a baby.

You cannot keep a baby a secret and it’s kind of weird to try.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh I swear, reading replies on this site always makes me feel so disgusted. People are absolutely gross and repulsive when it comes to respecting others. I’m so thankful I’m not related or even friends with a single soul on this site. You have every right to feel upset about your mom obnoxiously over sharing. Like OF COURSE she knows she is sharing information that she is not entitled or allowed to share. I would put her on the most massive information diet and take the relationship very slowly. I have tons of family and friends and NONE of them share information about my family that would make me uncomfortable. People on this website are so freaking deranged.

As far as we know, all the grandma shared is that she has a new grandchild. That’s not over sharing.

OP, I think you are being unreasonable. It’s fine to have boundaries about social media, it’s fine to have boundaries about with whom the intimate details of the birth are shared, but the fact of the birth? She is excited to have a new grandchild. That’s pretty normal.

[Anonymous]

WTF is wrong with you...