Asked mother not to share birth with others, she did anyway. Would you be upset?

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Anonymous wrote:It was no hardship for the grandmother to keep this information private.

It's her story to tell too. Her daughter had a baby. She has a new grandchild. That's not OP private information.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So you’ve given birth within the past 18 days, have a 2 year old and you have the time and energy to be fixating on your mother telling someone that her daughter just had a baby?

You’re either a troll or just really immature. There’s nothing wrong with a grandmother sharing the birth of a grandchild. What is wrong with you?

…or more likely - completely hormonal and sleep deprived. Go to bed. Get a cup of coffee. Get off DCUM and go for a walk. I promise you will feel much better better.

Btw my mom did something similar to me - I asked her not to share because I lost my daughter’s twin. She went around saying what I tyrant I was wrong to boss everyone around. I just didn’t think it was anyone else’s business to ask about my dead baby. I stopped talking to her for like 6 mo because I just couldn’t handle her chaos and drama

You are gracious to normalize relations with your mom after this. I’m sorry this happened.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't read everything. Team OP. You asked that she not share information. She did, and then treated you like a toddler.

She kind of is a toddler. Someone has to say it.

Team Mom.

You are so nasty. So many of the girls of a certain age posting here should be ashamed of themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh I swear, reading replies on this site always makes me feel so disgusted. People are absolutely gross and repulsive when it comes to respecting others. I’m so thankful I’m not related or even friends with a single soul on this site. You have every right to feel upset about your mom obnoxiously over sharing. Like OF COURSE she knows she is sharing information that she is not entitled or allowed to share. I would put her on the most massive information diet and take the relationship very slowly. I have tons of family and friends and NONE of them share information about my family that would make me uncomfortable. People on this website are so freaking deranged.

OP voluntarily came to this site and asked for people's opinions on her reaction.

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh I swear, reading replies on this site always makes me feel so disgusted. People are absolutely gross and repulsive when it comes to respecting others. I’m so thankful I’m not related or even friends with a single soul on this site. You have every right to feel upset about your mom obnoxiously over sharing. Like OF COURSE she knows she is sharing information that she is not entitled or allowed to share. I would put her on the most massive information diet and take the relationship very slowly. I have tons of family and friends and NONE of them share information about my family that would make me uncomfortable. People on this website are so freaking deranged.

So you truly find it wrong for a grandma to share with friends who obviously knew the daughter was pregnant that the baby has arrived? OP never once said her mother shared the intimate details of the birth. Simply that a family friend sent a gift.

You people are incredible. First there’s a thread about how rude it is to send a family with a new baby a meal. Now a grandma is on the verge of being cut off for telling a friend her grandchild has arrived.

Can you imagine the grandmother trying not to answer friends who ask "Did Larla have the baby yet?" After a month everyone would be gossiping that the baby must have died or something terrible. How could that possibly be better than grandma acknowledging the birth?

[Anonymous]

Why was she driving 5 hours to meet your baby? Why were you picking her calls or responding to her texts?

Either you have a normal relationship with your mom or you don't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sharing the birth would mean "Larla got 2 hemorrhoids and had a 4th degree tear. She also pooped."

You're upset that grandma announced to her best friend that her new grandchild was born!?!?

Yes because op asked her to keep it private. It’s not the grandmothers story to tell. But I guess you’d think otherwise since probably you see women as having no agency over their own body and no right to make their own decisions or express their own wishes. Got it.

You are literally asking for the impossible. What happens after someone is known to be pregnanct (birht or tragedy) is never a secret in any socieity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why was she driving 5 hours to meet your baby? Why were you picking her calls or responding to her texts?

Either you have a normal relationship with your mom or you don't.

That was a different poster, not OP. They should have clarified that in the post.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh I swear, reading replies on this site always makes me feel so disgusted. People are absolutely gross and repulsive when it comes to respecting others. I’m so thankful I’m not related or even friends with a single soul on this site. You have every right to feel upset about your mom obnoxiously over sharing. Like OF COURSE she knows she is sharing information that she is not entitled or allowed to share. I would put her on the most massive information diet and take the relationship very slowly. I have tons of family and friends and NONE of them share information about my family that would make me uncomfortable. People on this website are so freaking deranged.

So you truly find it wrong for a grandma to share with friends who obviously knew the daughter was pregnant that the baby has arrived? OP never once said her mother shared the intimate details of the birth. Simply that a family friend sent a gift.

You people are incredible. First there’s a thread about how rude it is to send a family with a new baby a meal. Now a grandma is on the verge of being cut off for telling a friend her grandchild has arrived.

Can you imagine the grandmother trying not to answer friends who ask "Did Larla have the baby yet?" After a month everyone would be gossiping that the baby must have died or something terrible. How could that possibly be better than grandma acknowledging the birth?

Grandma should just roll her eyes and tell her friends of course she had the baby but Larla being Larla wants to be weird about it so they should pretend they don't know. People really don't have as much control over others as they wish.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't read everything. Team OP. You asked that she not share information. She did, and then treated you like a toddler.

She kind of is a toddler. Someone has to say it.

Team Mom.

You are so nasty. So many of the girls of a certain age posting here should be ashamed of themselves.

Lazy effort. Opinions on this don’t seem to be breaking down on a generational basis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First pregnancy (baby born Jan 2024) my mother was not involved at all. Basically I had asked her for an apology for something she did, she refused and "punished" me with silent treatment.

Second pregnancy (baby born Jan 2026) she wasn't much more helpful or involved but did bring food once. My parents are retired and she has a tendency to gossip. The one thing I did ask her was not to share details about my birth with other people. Or if she does, if she could at least ask husband and I first "hey do you mind if I share with X". She gave us her word. She never asked if she could tell anyone so we figured she was taking the request to respect our privacy seriously.

A couple days after the birth we got a "welcome baby" gift from one of my mom's friends. I texted her a nice but direct message asking why she shared after specifically promising she wouldn't. She did said sorry but from her tone it was very clear she wasn't really remorseful and was basically was talking to me like a toddler having a tantrum and it'll all blow over in 15 minutes.

My message was not super emotional but internally I am pretty upset and dissapointed in her. Am I being unreasonable?

You are a royal PITA.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sharing the birth would mean "Larla got 2 hemorrhoids and had a 4th degree tear. She also pooped."

You're upset that grandma announced to her best friend that her new grandchild was born!?!?

Yes because op asked her to keep it private. It’s not the grandmothers story to tell. But I guess you’d think otherwise since probably you see women as having no agency over their own body and no right to make their own decisions or express their own wishes. Got it.

There are serious challenges with regard to reproductive rights. They should not be in the same sentence with defending OP’s manufactured problem with her mother.

I think you tried to sound smart but failed.

You are on one of your woman hating benders again.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't read everything. Team OP. You asked that she not share information. She did, and then treated you like a toddler.

She kind of is a toddler. Someone has to say it.

Team Mom.

You are so nasty. So many of the girls of a certain age posting here should be ashamed of themselves.

Lazy effort. Opinions on this don’t seem to be breaking down on a generational basis.

She probably has a life whereas you PP, spend all your time posting hate towards woman. Pathetic. You ruined this forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't read everything. Team OP. You asked that she not share information. She did, and then treated you like a toddler.

She kind of is a toddler. Someone has to say it.

Team Mom.

You are so nasty. So many of the girls of a certain age posting here should be ashamed of themselves.

Lazy effort. Opinions on this don’t seem to be breaking down on a generational basis.

She probably has a life whereas you PP, spend all your time posting hate towards woman. Pathetic. You ruined this forum.

Uh oh the kids are here. GeT A LiFe!! Troll on, kiddo.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sharing the birth would mean "Larla got 2 hemorrhoids and had a 4th degree tear. She also pooped."

You're upset that grandma announced to her best friend that her new grandchild was born!?!?

Yes because op asked her to keep it private. It’s not the grandmothers story to tell. But I guess you’d think otherwise since probably you see women as having no agency over their own body and no right to make their own decisions or express their own wishes. Got it.

There are serious challenges with regard to reproductive rights. They should not be in the same sentence with defending OP’s manufactured problem with her mother.

I think you tried to sound smart but failed.

You are on one of your woman hating benders again.

And I think you’re prone to hyperbole.