Asked mother not to share birth with others, she did anyway. Would you be upset?

[Anonymous]

Was the same thing asked of your husbands mother ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Details of the birth” to me would be how long you labored, that you had an epidural, etc. Not that you had a baby.

You cannot keep a baby a secret and it’s kind of weird to try.

Same! I thought she was going to say something intensely personal about the birth. Not “I have another grandbaby.”
Geez. Is was the OP trying to keep the child a secret?

[Anonymous]

I think it is a little odd that you would expect your mother to refrain from telling her friends the birth of a new grandchild.

What are your reasons for this?

However if it is really very important for you for her to keep mum then I would remind her one more time in a very serious, direct manner and hope it will stick.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure where this is going to land on the thread, but I just became a surprise grandmother two week ago. No one knew my son's gf was even pregnant until 5 days before she went into labor and (probably) delivered close to full term.

Right now except for immediate family (our nuclear family) my son has asked us all not to yet share that information with all the uncles, aunts, grandparents, cousins etc. who live in the area while he works on coming to terms with the shock of becoming a father completely out of the blue.

He has specifically asked that none of us say anything right now. Other than keeping the new mom in supplies of formula and whatever else we were able to put together for her, no one knows.

At some point it's going to be on my son (and his dad, tbh) to have to explain to everyone why they didn't know there was a new baby in the family until X weeks later (? if it goes to months that's going to be bizarre) ... that's not my personal circus or responsibility.

Beyond the level of sheer emergency help needed because this baby couldn't wait for everyone else to figure their ish out, right now I just consider my son and his gf to be the 2 bosses.

I am in a very, very, very, very unusual situation right now, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure where this is going to land on the thread, but I just became a surprise grandmother two week ago. No one knew my son's gf was even pregnant until 5 days before she went into labor and (probably) delivered close to full term.

Right now except for immediate family (our nuclear family) my son has asked us all not to yet share that information with all the uncles, aunts, grandparents, cousins etc. who live in the area while he works on coming to terms with the shock of becoming a father completely out of the blue.

He has specifically asked that none of us say anything right now. Other than keeping the new mom in supplies of formula and whatever else we were able to put together for her, no one knows.

At some point it's going to be on my son (and his dad, tbh) to have to explain to everyone why they didn't know there was a new baby in the family until X weeks later (? if it goes to months that's going to be bizarre) ... that's not my personal circus or responsibility.

Beyond the level of sheer emergency help needed because this baby couldn't wait for everyone else to figure their ish out, right now I just consider my son and his gf to be the 2 bosses.

I am in a very, very, very, very unusual situation right now, though.

How do you even know there is a real baby and not just some scam to get free baby products? Get a paternity test.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure where this is going to land on the thread, but I just became a surprise grandmother two week ago. No one knew my son's gf was even pregnant until 5 days before she went into labor and (probably) delivered close to full term.

Right now except for immediate family (our nuclear family) my son has asked us all not to yet share that information with all the uncles, aunts, grandparents, cousins etc. who live in the area while he works on coming to terms with the shock of becoming a father completely out of the blue.

He has specifically asked that none of us say anything right now. Other than keeping the new mom in supplies of formula and whatever else we were able to put together for her, no one knows.

At some point it's going to be on my son (and his dad, tbh) to have to explain to everyone why they didn't know there was a new baby in the family until X weeks later (? if it goes to months that's going to be bizarre) ... that's not my personal circus or responsibility.

Beyond the level of sheer emergency help needed because this baby couldn't wait for everyone else to figure their ish out, right now I just consider my son and his gf to be the 2 bosses.

I am in a very, very, very, very unusual situation right now, though.

How do you even know there is a real baby and not just some scam to get free baby products? Get a paternity test.

There is a real baby ???

And, yes a paternity test has now been done. It was kind of a formality, though.

Now you can probably move on to the parts in your script where the baby’s mother is probably a life long hooower and my son is probably Dayn gramagged

I really don’t know what you people do except try to use every paid post to make the world a worse place than it was before you sat your keester in front of your screen

Because that’s what you seem to do

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure where this is going to land on the thread, but I just became a surprise grandmother two week ago. No one knew my son's gf was even pregnant until 5 days before she went into labor and (probably) delivered close to full term.

Right now except for immediate family (our nuclear family) my son has asked us all not to yet share that information with all the uncles, aunts, grandparents, cousins etc. who live in the area while he works on coming to terms with the shock of becoming a father completely out of the blue.

He has specifically asked that none of us say anything right now. Other than keeping the new mom in supplies of formula and whatever else we were able to put together for her, no one knows.

At some point it's going to be on my son (and his dad, tbh) to have to explain to everyone why they didn't know there was a new baby in the family until X weeks later (? if it goes to months that's going to be bizarre) ... that's not my personal circus or responsibility.

Beyond the level of sheer emergency help needed because this baby couldn't wait for everyone else to figure their ish out, right now I just consider my son and his gf to be the 2 bosses.

I am in a very, very, very, very unusual situation right now, though.

Interesting situation. Like one of those tv shows. Luckily no friends are asking you if the baby was born yet as was likely for OP's mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure where this is going to land on the thread, but I just became a surprise grandmother two week ago. No one knew my son's gf was even pregnant until 5 days before she went into labor and (probably) delivered close to full term.

Right now except for immediate family (our nuclear family) my son has asked us all not to yet share that information with all the uncles, aunts, grandparents, cousins etc. who live in the area while he works on coming to terms with the shock of becoming a father completely out of the blue.

He has specifically asked that none of us say anything right now. Other than keeping the new mom in supplies of formula and whatever else we were able to put together for her, no one knows.

At some point it's going to be on my son (and his dad, tbh) to have to explain to everyone why they didn't know there was a new baby in the family until X weeks later (? if it goes to months that's going to be bizarre) ... that's not my personal circus or responsibility.

Beyond the level of sheer emergency help needed because this baby couldn't wait for everyone else to figure their ish out, right now I just consider my son and his gf to be the 2 bosses.

I am in a very, very, very, very unusual situation right now, though.

How do you even know there is a real baby and not just some scam to get free baby products? Get a paternity test.

There is a real baby ???

And, yes a paternity test has now been done. It was kind of a formality, though.

Now you can probably move on to the parts in your script where the baby’s mother is probably a life long hooower and my son is probably Dayn gramagged

I really don’t know what you people do except try to use every paid post to make the world a worse place than it was before you sat your keester in front of your screen

Because that’s what you seem to do

You must be so proud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes she not only disregarded your feelings and wished but she gaslit you with HER silent treatment. Is she a narcissist?

I think both sides need to be heard before you can make your diagnosis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What exactly did she share? That she’s a grandma x 2 now and she’s so excited? Or that you had a fourth degree tear and needed a million stitches? There’s a BIG difference between those two types of details - the first is entirely appropriate, the second is not.

+1.