15yo and Corset costume - I’m the only parent pushing back. Am I being unreasonable ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t seem much different than what you’d see at HoCo and prom.

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You are being unreasonable, OP. This look is pretty mainstream for 15 year olds. They like to flaunt it!

+1 Let It Goooooooooooo!

[Anonymous]

Its fine.

Let your daughter live a little.

[Anonymous]

What is triggering about corsets in particular?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The look will depend on the shape of your DD. These girls look fine because they don't have huge chests, the tops look pretty loose and offer a fair amount of coverage. It would be different on a bigger girl.

Hope for a cold night.
Include a feather boa or cape to increase coverage.

+1 These girls don't look sexed up because they don't have bosoms. I would have looked like a $3 hooker in any of these outfits in high school because I had big boobs and was hourglassy. It's not fair but it's reality - straight figured girls can wear much more risque outfits without consequences.

[Anonymous]

Looks terrible and silly but I probably wouldn't argue it but I also wouldn't pay for it for a one time use.

[Anonymous]

Same concept, by pirate outfit -- my kid wore a baby doll tee shirt under the corset

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The look will depend on the shape of your DD. These girls look fine because they don't have huge chests, the tops look pretty loose and offer a fair amount of coverage. It would be different on a bigger girl.

Hope for a cold night.
Include a feather boa or cape to increase coverage.

+1 These girls don't look sexed up because they don't have bosoms. I would have looked like a $3 hooker in any of these outfits in high school because I had big boobs and was hourglassy. It's not fair but it's reality - straight figured girls can wear much more risque outfits without consequences.

Without consequences? What does that mean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The look will depend on the shape of your DD. These girls look fine because they don't have huge chests, the tops look pretty loose and offer a fair amount of coverage. It would be different on a bigger girl.

Hope for a cold night.
Include a feather boa or cape to increase coverage.

+1 These girls don't look sexed up because they don't have bosoms. I would have looked like a $3 hooker in any of these outfits in high school because I had big boobs and was hourglassy. It's not fair but it's reality - straight figured girls can wear much more risque outfits without consequences.

That's your own body image and misogyny issues don't project that onto others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The look will depend on the shape of your DD. These girls look fine because they don't have huge chests, the tops look pretty loose and offer a fair amount of coverage. It would be different on a bigger girl.

Hope for a cold night.
Include a feather boa or cape to increase coverage.

+1 These girls don't look sexed up because they don't have bosoms. I would have looked like a $3 hooker in any of these outfits in high school because I had big boobs and was hourglassy. It's not fair but it's reality - straight figured girls can wear much more risque outfits without consequences.

Without consequences? What does that mean?

Discomfort of onlookers and rude remarks/ lewd propositions by males.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The look will depend on the shape of your DD. These girls look fine because they don't have huge chests, the tops look pretty loose and offer a fair amount of coverage. It would be different on a bigger girl.

Hope for a cold night.
Include a feather boa or cape to increase coverage.

This poster is 100% correct.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The look will depend on the shape of your DD. These girls look fine because they don't have huge chests, the tops look pretty loose and offer a fair amount of coverage. It would be different on a bigger girl.

Hope for a cold night.
Include a feather boa or cape to increase coverage.

+1 These girls don't look sexed up because they don't have bosoms. I would have looked like a $3 hooker in any of these outfits in high school because I had big boobs and was hourglassy. It's not fair but it's reality - straight figured girls can wear much more risque outfits without consequences.

Without consequences? What does that mean?

Catcalling, being assumed to be older by adult men and having to deal with the awkwardness that comes from being hit on by them when you're barely old enough to flirt, repercussions at school for dress code violations when other girls are wearing identical clothes but filling them out differently, the list goes on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The look will depend on the shape of your DD. These girls look fine because they don't have huge chests, the tops look pretty loose and offer a fair amount of coverage. It would be different on a bigger girl.

Hope for a cold night.
Include a feather boa or cape to increase coverage.

+1 These girls don't look sexed up because they don't have bosoms. I would have looked like a $3 hooker in any of these outfits in high school because I had big boobs and was hourglassy. It's not fair but it's reality - straight figured girls can wear much more risque outfits without consequences.

Without consequences? What does that mean?

Showing a ton of cleavage. Less well endowed girls are effectively covered up. Bigger busted girls will have a lot more on display. It will be nearly obscene if they bend over to pick something up.

[Anonymous]

This is a stupid idea. It doesn’t even look like a costume. People will keep asking them, what are you?

[Anonymous]

Oh, slutty Disney princess. This is like the peanut butter and chocolate combo of Halloween costumes.

I personally hate the slutty Halloween trope, but I agree with PPs that this seems actually very similar to the crap the girls wear for Homecoming. (Sadly because I think these outfits are ugly, display zero fashion sense, and are part of a performative sexuality that young girls have become convinced is an essential part of maturity.)

But I wouldn't die on this hill, since it's Halloween and not worth the angst. I agree with PP that a cape would actually improve this outfit immensely, and it might be acceptable to the girls and potentially give a little cover for the girls in the group that are actually a little uncomfortable with it, but don't feel they have the social currency to push back on the group costume.

I probably would also make a comment about how it saddens me that girls feel that they have to parade themselves sexually in order to gain acceptance among peers -- you don't see 15 year old boys dressed in skimpy little gladiator costumes. Whenever you see a marked gender divide in practices, it is worth asking yourself why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t seem much different than what you’d see at HoCo and prom.

Sad but accurate.

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