15yo and Corset costume - I’m the only parent pushing back. Am I being unreasonable ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am grudgingly letting my 14yo wear one as part of a pirate costume--but it's being worn over a shirt.

That at least makes sense.

We’re not really seeing a corset and mini skirt combo on Disney princesses.

I’d allow the corset, but insist on a full length ball gown. Or be Pocahontas or Jasmine without a corset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t seem much different than what you’d see at HoCo and prom.

My first thought exactly. And I think it’s inappropriate there too but I’m obviously far outnumbered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The picture looks fine and I’m a complete prude

+1, it sounds like a majority of us prudes are in agreement

[Anonymous]

To me that looks like something a “sex worker” would buy from Frederick’s of Hollywood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To me that looks like something a “sex worker” would buy from Frederick’s of Hollywood.

Hahaha. That's longer than most girls are wearing to prom right now, or even mini skirts in the 1960s.

That costume shows a lot less than the super tight short dresses OP.

[Anonymous]

This is one of those situations where an adult has sexual associations with something that kids do not have sexual associations with.

A 15 year old's association with corsets is going to be Disney movies and the other representations of fairy tales or one of the many historical periods where corsets were common. If your association is lingerie or S&M, that says more about your own thinking than it does about corsets or the 15 year old.

[Anonymous]

This objectifies the body. Is that what you want your daughter to wear?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To me that looks like something a “sex worker” would buy from Frederick’s of Hollywood.

Hahaha. That's longer than most girls are wearing to prom right now, or even mini skirts in the 1960s.

That costume shows a lot less than the super tight short dresses OP.

It’s the sexy aspect of it, not just the length of the skirt. And just because most girls are doing it does not make it less questionable.

Let’s not pretend they don’t know it’s sexy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thanks PPs! For those that asked, my concern is more that it reads to me that it plays into the “I am sexy” I think of with Playboy costumes etc.. but as a minor. Corsets are to pull you in and push you up to be sexy IMO.

I was a teen who changed clothes in the mall bathroom from what my mom knew I had on and this was in the Y2K era I had a thong showing in class for boys to think I was sexy. I cringe looking back but I’m trying to raise my daughter to not do these things.

Now I’m at this spot over a costume and was really questioning am I overreacting or are these corset ones ok to wear as a child, a teen.

We wanted to look sexy with our thongs, and they want to show a little skin. I don’t love the look, but it’s not wildly different than what we were doing in the 90s.

I also understand them wanting to do a cute princess theme but finding it cringe to do an actual princess costume. There’s a time and a place, and this is it. It’s Halloween, not school or grandmas birthday party.

And I would much rather they be out trick or treating than at a party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thanks PPs! For those that asked, my concern is more that it reads to me that it plays into the “I am sexy” I think of with Playboy costumes etc.. but as a minor. Corsets are to pull you in and push you up to be sexy IMO.

I was a teen who changed clothes in the mall bathroom from what my mom knew I had on and this was in the Y2K era I had a thong showing in class for boys to think I was sexy. I cringe looking back but I’m trying to raise my daughter to not do these things.

Now I’m at this spot over a costume and was really questioning am I overreacting or are these corset ones ok to wear as a child, a teen.

Your daughter is her own person and she will likely find her own way to appeal to boys if she's hetero

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To me that looks like something a “sex worker” would buy from Frederick’s of Hollywood.

Hahaha. That's longer than most girls are wearing to prom right now, or even mini skirts in the 1960s.

That costume shows a lot less than the super tight short dresses OP.

Not really. Were you born in the 80s?

https://fashion-era.com/60s-mini-skirt

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thanks PPs! For those that asked, my concern is more that it reads to me that it plays into the “I am sexy” I think of with Playboy costumes etc.. but as a minor. Corsets are to pull you in and push you up to be sexy IMO.

I was a teen who changed clothes in the mall bathroom from what my mom knew I had on and this was in the Y2K era I had a thong showing in class for boys to think I was sexy. I cringe looking back but I’m trying to raise my daughter to not do these things.

Now I’m at this spot over a costume and was really questioning am I overreacting or are these corset ones ok to wear as a child, a teen.

You would be shocked to see what the most popular bridal gowns look like these days. They are all corset-style or sheer/overlay or with a deep v-neck. This is just the style these days. Watch any of the wedding dress episodes on "love is blind" and you'll know what I mean. My initial reaction would have been the same as yours, but now I'm letting my 17 year old buy whatever's in fashion as my eyes have adjusted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is one of those situations where an adult has sexual associations with something that kids do not have sexual associations with.

A 15 year old's association with corsets is going to be Disney movies and the other representations of fairy tales or one of the many historical periods where corsets were common. If your association is lingerie or S&M, that says more about your own thinking than it does about corsets or the 15 year old.

At 15 I was having sex and knew that Frederick’s of Hollywood sold lingerie for a different crowd than Victoria’s Secret.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand how adults can look at OP's link and think "sexy" and "inappropriate". Since these kids don't have any curves showing, to me they look like kids being kids. And that's normal and healthy.

I don't know how people can be such killjoys. It's a party outfit. So not a big deal. Let the kids have fun. What's important is to educate them on date rape, grooming, drinking and driving, alcohol and drugs, safe sex, etc...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To me that looks like something a “sex worker” would buy from Frederick’s of Hollywood.

Nooo... unless there's a specific request, they're not wearing Disneyfied outfits. It's clear you know nothing about, well, anything, really. The sort of costume that OP is linking to is not appealing to most normal males. Maybe you don't understand this important fact. Maybe it's appealing to pedophiles and ephebophiles, but honestly, they'd be turned on in most outfits kids wear these days.