Do men actually want a wife? Or is marriage mostly for women?

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Anonymous wrote:My XH never really wanted to get married. He viewed it as government interference and only really wanted to legalize it for the tax break.

My current boyfriend said he would definitely get married if I wanted to, but still views it as just a “piece of paper.”

Women seem to usually be the ones to want the ring and giving the ultimatums. It makes me wonder if men care at all about marriage itself?

Commitment exists WITHOUT a government permission slip.

A government permission slip DOES NOT GUARANTEE commitment either, with the ease of "no fault" divorces now.

It is what it is. Laws don't make bad people or incompatible people suddenly good.

Marriage is a contract and the contract terms apply in the event of divorce including with respect to division of assets and alimony. Moreover, in the event of serious illness or death of one of the partners, the other partner has rights that they would not have absent the marriage contract.

People who are not married do not have those protections.

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I always thought men get more out of marriage than women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always thought men get more out of marriage than women.

Yes, men get to work to support more than just themselves and women get Netflix.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I always thought men get more out of marriage than women.

Yes, men get to work to support more than just themselves and women get Netflix.

Overwhelming majority of married women work. Men get a maid and cook who also bring in a paycheck.

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My wedding day was one of the happiest of my life. I was thrilled.

My wife fell out of love with me and I divorced her. I was sad about it but I had to do it because I was miserable.

Dating has been pretty good. I don't want to get married again.

[Anonymous]

I got a handyman and landscaper. He got a chef, house cleaner, and therapist. It all balances out.

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My husband wanted to get married more than I did. We were pretty young at the time. But it did save us money just on stuff like health insurance.

Setting up the paperwork to cover all the legal defaults you get from marriage would be pretty expensive. And some benefits like tax things you simply can't write around.

A marriage is significantly less commitment than a shared child.

[Anonymous]

Men get the most out of marriage and it benefits them the most.

Personally I think dh and I equally wanted to marry and we equally want to stay married.

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As a woman, I see no point in getting married if you aren't going to have kids. There's no upside. Even the uber-wealthy come with baggage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems to me that men get a lot more out of marriage than women do.

Man here. Seems just the opposite to me, lol.

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Anonymous wrote:It's weird. Anecdotally, I get the message that women are chasing marriage and that they get nothing out of it.

Women want some idealized form of marriage and then get dissatisfied with the imperfect reality. Oh well!

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One thing I have learned is to pay attention to your spouse's parents and if they had a good marriage.

My spouse's parents hate each other and have been divorced for decades. Almost every single adult member of their family over 50 has been divorced at least once.

I feel marriage benefits men more for health reasons since women do so much caretaking but unfortunately women do better financially when married but not so much emotionally.

[Anonymous]

Men want bang maids. They don’t value partnership or marriage, but they like the perks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always thought men get more out of marriage than women.

Married men are healthier than single or divorced men, they live longer and are happier. Men get a lot of value out of marriage, far beyond monetary.

[Anonymous]

I have been dating my gf for a year. We are both divorced..A year ago we agreed that marriage wasn't something we are both looking for. Now 13 months later she is starting to drop hints that she "would looooove to be married again" this is is often follow by lots of touches kisses. I just try to ignore it and change the subject quickly. I am a hard no on remarriage. Maybe for some women marriage is the only way they can be guaranteed that a man will commit to them. I don't know.