In-laws coming for ten days

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None of this is in in laws fault

Imposing on hosts for this long is beyond rude. No excuses. No polite person would dream of this. Hotel after three nights.

They’re family

[Anonymous]

I would definitely plan some stuff with your kids
Plan a few things with in-laws as well though that don’t involve a lot of walking or whatever. They’re old, show them some Grace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None of this is in in laws fault

Imposing on hosts for this long is beyond rude. No excuses. No polite person would dream of this. Hotel after three nights.

+1

Anonymous wrote:None of this is in in laws fault

What's preventing the in-laws from getting their own space in a hotel, like considerate guests would do?

[Anonymous]

I agree, I would definitely leave for some of it. Take the college kids. Do something the in-laws can’t or won’t do. Skiing? Tell them how great it will be for them to get one on one DH time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None of this is in in laws fault

Imposing on hosts for this long is beyond rude. No excuses. No polite person would dream of this. Hotel after three nights.

They’re family

DP

OP is family. In-laws should not be rude to family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None of this is in in laws fault

Imposing on hosts for this long is beyond rude. No excuses. No polite person would dream of this. Hotel after three nights.

They’re family

So? When we visit my sister in CA we get a hotel after three nights. We don’t impose and disrupt their lives and eat them out of house and home. They’re family—all the more reason to respect them, and not impose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you should go visit your mom for a few days. Stay in a nice hotel invite the kids and it’s their choice if they want to come along or not. Do you know to prepare for your in-laws visit. Tell your husband it’s all on him. The cooking the cleaning, the sheet changing everything.

Agree, you should take this as an opportunity to visit your own mother. College kids can come for part of it.
Leave DH to entertain his parents. He won't do this to you again.

[Anonymous]

Go visit your mom for part of the 10 days. Make plans out with your kids a few of the days as well.

He feels bad upsetting his parents, but cares little if it upsets you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would definitely plan some stuff with your kids
Plan a few things with in-laws as well though that don’t involve a lot of walking or whatever. They’re old, show them some Grace.

DH can make all the plans and do all the hosting. Why should OP take on all that work?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None of this is in in laws fault

Imposing on hosts for this long is beyond rude. No excuses. No polite person would dream of this. Hotel after three nights.

They’re family

DP

OP is family. In-laws should not be rude to family.

Uh, parking at someone's house for 10 days is kind of rude.
Reverse the roles, would these in-laws be willing to host and entertain for 10 days?

[Anonymous]

You should have stood up for yourself and denied their visit. He should be kissing your f***ing feet after his affair. How dare he put his parents above you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None of this is in in laws fault

Imposing on hosts for this long is beyond rude. No excuses. No polite person would dream of this. Hotel after three nights.

They’re family

DP

OP is family. In-laws should not be rude to family.

Uh, parking at someone's house for 10 days is kind of rude.
Reverse the roles, would these in-laws be willing to host and entertain for 10 days?

pp you misunderstood me. To clarify: "OP is family. In-laws should not be rude to family [by imposing themselves for 10 days on OP]"

I agree 3 days max. Get a hotel or go back home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None of this is in in laws fault

Imposing on hosts for this long is beyond rude. No excuses. No polite person would dream of this. Hotel after three nights.

They’re family

So? When we visit my sister in CA we get a hotel after three nights. We don’t impose and disrupt their lives and eat them out of house and home. They’re family—all the more reason to respect them, and not impose.

They are old people. The OP has college age kids. That means her in-laws are old. You all get so nasty when it comes to in-laws.

[Anonymous]

I think you know this, but you have a husband problem not an in-law problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None of this is in in laws fault

Imposing on hosts for this long is beyond rude. No excuses. No polite person would dream of this. Hotel after three nights.

They’re family

So? When we visit my sister in CA we get a hotel after three nights. We don’t impose and disrupt their lives and eat them out of house and home. They’re family—all the more reason to respect them, and not impose.

They are old people. The OP has college age kids. That means her in-laws are old. You all get so nasty when it comes to in-laws.

DP

Hotels accommodate old people.

Boundaries. We get nasty when Team IL wants to violate boundaries that exist out of courtesy and common sense.