Who Is Wrong Here?

[Anonymous]

You're both being completely absurd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dumping out your tea? He’s TA.

This man has been taking time every evening to pour out enough water for both of them as a courtesy, and she has been pouring half of it out to meet her needs then filling it up with cold water behind his back. She’s no peach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're both being a bit stubborn about saving a minute or two in the morning. He's an a-hole for dumping the brewed tea ... but if you want to focus on solutions rather than blame, get a second kettle so you can each heat your water as you prefer.

+1 geez

Though I think the tea dump is more wasteful as it also wastes the tea.

What is your methodology to determine the tea dump is more wasteful than the initial water dump?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you just use a Brita set out at room temperature so no matter who pours water in the kettle it’s already at the room temperature which he prefers. Then you can do the amount that you prefer. I think you’re missing out on the fact that he’s already saving you time by having the water set out at room temperature.

But the fact that you’re both so inflexible, and and you’re honestly quite inconsiderate about this, does not give me good hope for the future of your relationship.

Completely agree with this. This would be similar to me intentionally not recycling things because I have to reach farther behind the garbage can, knowing its important to my husband. How much longer does a full pot take to boil vs a half pot? He is being childish by dumping your tea

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are both inflexible.
He is way wrong for dumping your tea you have already made. Who does that? It’s extremely immature.

Neither of the original issues are wrong or right but you need to find a method that works for both of you.

Someone that has set something up to benefit everyone but finds it ambushed to benefit only one person. That's who.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dumping out your tea? He’s TA.

This man has been taking time every evening to pour out enough water for both of them as a courtesy, and she has been pouring half of it out to meet her needs then filling it up with cold water behind his back. She’s no peach.

This 100%. The first 'offense' in this exchange is her undoing something he did to benefit both of them. That's inconsiderate af.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dumping out your tea? He’s TA.

This man has been taking time every evening to pour out enough water for both of them as a courtesy, and she has been pouring half of it out to meet her needs then filling it up with cold water behind his back. She’s no peach.

No, she says she turns the kettle on when she refills it for him. He’s the one being ridiculous. If she left an empty kettle that would be an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're both being a bit stubborn about saving a minute or two in the morning. He's an a-hole for dumping the brewed tea ... but if you want to focus on solutions rather than blame, get a second kettle so you can each heat your water as you prefer.

+1 geez

Though I think the tea dump is more wasteful as it also wastes the tea.

What is your methodology to determine the tea dump is more wasteful than the initial water dump?

Not the PP to whom you're responding, but -- Do you not understand that the tap water is effectively free ( less than a penny, probably?) but tea is a product one purchases at the store? Perhaps tea flows from your home's taps....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're both being completely absurd.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are both inflexible.
He is way wrong for dumping your tea you have already made. Who does that? It’s extremely immature.

Neither of the original issues are wrong or right but you need to find a method that works for both of you.

Someone that has set something up to benefit everyone but finds it ambushed to benefit only one person. That's who.

That’s honestly personality disordered. She says she refills the kettle and turns it on for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dumping out your tea? He’s TA.

This man has been taking time every evening to pour out enough water for both of them as a courtesy, and she has been pouring half of it out to meet her needs then filling it up with cold water behind his back. She’s no peach.

No, she says she turns the kettle on when she refills it for him. He’s the one being ridiculous. If she left an empty kettle that would be an issue.

She could just ask him to only fill it halfway at night, instead she dumps water out every day ... to avoid speakign to him?

[Anonymous]

I use an electric kettle daily. OP is wrong. It does not take much longer for it to boil.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dumping out your tea? He’s TA.

This man has been taking time every evening to pour out enough water for both of them as a courtesy, and she has been pouring half of it out to meet her needs then filling it up with cold water behind his back. She’s no peach.

No, she says she turns the kettle on when she refills it for him. He’s the one being ridiculous. If she left an empty kettle that would be an issue.

She could just ask him to only fill it halfway at night, instead she dumps water out every day ... to avoid speakign to him?

Nobody needs permission to make themselves a kettle of hot water. Per OP when this happens she is up before him and immediately refills the kettle and heats it up. Her behavior is totally normal and considerate. HIS behavior in retaliating over something that *did not affect him* is toxic and weird as f. I really want to know what other kinds of stuff he does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're both being completely absurd.

+100

+1000.

[Anonymous]

Both of you are being completely ridiculous. Perfect match.