And the woman of my dreams just ruined it

[Anonymous]

It sounds to me like you have brain fog at best, and possibly something is awry in your way of thinking.

You can't control other people. You can't demand that other people fit within your ideal. This woman can talk to whomever she wants, and however she wants. She can flirt to her heart's content, and you have zero say in it. If it bothers you, that's your choice.

Leave this poor woman alone. You sound kind of neurotic. In your shoes, I would want to really think through what you commented above, and maybe seek psychological help to help sort it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve known of her for a long time. Honestly, have had a crush on her from afar for about 10 years but she never looked my way until now. She’s funny, smart, gorgeous, kind, has a great job, etc. Im pretty laid back but I told her I have I can’t stand it when a woman is naively friendly. She asked what constitutes as being as naively friendly because sometimes women have to do it to avoid being shot. I said if you are consciously sensing danger to the point you are worried about being shot then you aren’t being naively friendly. Naively friendly would be the opposite of that. Not sensing intentions or danger.

Then she said, I guess I should’ve specified that because we’re always on alert it can be unconscious, with or without present danger because we’ve been conditioned. Now flirting or not having boundaries with someone you have a platonic or business relationship with? That’s an absolute no…that’s why I asked what you view as friendly.

So clearly she’s a flirt, so that’s just ruined how I view her now. Sucks because I really liked her.

Is it thanksgiving already? What is this gobbledygook?

[Anonymous]

OP you did this woman a favor. You sound insane.

[Anonymous]

I can’t make heads or tails of your post and I read it several times but it gave me a red flag feeling of concern for this woman. Kudos to PPs who seemed to have read the tea leaves and figured out what you meant. I have no idea what naively friendly means - you never explained and it’s creepy that you say this woman ruined something simply by being herself, or why you are perceiving her as a flirt.

[Anonymous]

You sound like you've spent too much time in the MRA/incel corner of the internet. Cut your screen time.

[Anonymous]

WTF is wrong with you? Nuts.

[Anonymous]

Don't worry, you are not the man of her dreams. She's good

[Anonymous]

You’ve known her for ten years but just now figured out she’s a flirt? I guess she’s just not that into you. Best of luck on your date. 🙄

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She should run far away from you.

Why? What’s wrong with my reservations?

You’re a walking red flag. Too bad for you. Enjoy being miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you did this woman a favor. You sound insane.

+1
Trust your instincts out there, ladies!

[Anonymous]

From OP’s word salad I was able to deduce that he’s an incel. I hope the woman runs far away.

[Anonymous]

It rubs the lotion on its skin

[Anonymous]

Does she flirt with everyone, or just with you?

[Anonymous]

You sound insane.

[Anonymous]

Ironic that this is exactly the terrifying kind behaviour that The Woman is talking about.