Elementary kids, small house, how do couples have sex?

[Anonymous]

You can get a sliding bolt and it's easy.
White noise machine. Tell kids having trouble sleeping.

[Anonymous]

Do it in another room, on a couch or something.

Do it while they're watching a movie, playing video games, something noisy and absorbing.

[Anonymous]

Locked door plus white noise machine in our room and the kids rooms

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, and I should mention that I have asked my husband to install a lock on the door many times to prevent any unforeseen bust-ins, and he just...forgets.

You can install it! YouTube. I have faith in you.

[Anonymous]

Take day off work, stay home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you both work out of the house full time?
Get a lock for your room or go to the basement. It’s not that hard. We lived in a tiny house growing up and my parents managed to have 6 kids without anyone being the wiser about their intimate life.

I mean, we just met and I already know something about their intimate life!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shower sex.

Love shower sex!

[Anonymous]

Doors need to be closed- its a fire safety measure
White noise machine for kid
Wfh day sex
Sleepovers

[Anonymous]

It’s harder now that they are teens and stay up later than us. We usually have sex when they are not home for whatever reason. Or quietly on weekend mornings but honestly I just prefer them not here for it.

[Anonymous]

My husband is on his way home for a lunch date right now.

Or, we can have a quickie after the kids go to school and before he leaves for work.

Basically any time the kids are out of the house at an activity, it's go time. The other night our 14 year old came home unexpectedly, but at least we'd locked the front door.

If it's been a while, then we'll sneak up to the third floor or down to the basement while the kids are otherwise occupied.

You do have to prioritize it. You can't be spontaneous at this stage of life.

[Anonymous]

Basement guest bedroom… much more isolated than the master.

[Anonymous]

Your kids need to sleep with their doors closed for fire safety! Plus the sleepwalking kid needs to be contained/stopped as much as possible so a closed door will be good.

Put an air purifier in your bedroom.

[Anonymous]

During the day. You don't need to take a full day off.

Why don't we have sex hotels in DC?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a serious question. Our sex life has dropped off a cliff and while I don't really mind, I know my husband does. "Kids" isn't the issue, since babies sleep in cribs and when a toddler is asleep, they are asleep. But we have a tiny upstairs where all of our bedroom doors are really close. The kids, now 12 and 8, sleep with their doors open, and even if they were closed, you can hear a pin drop. Not to mention a kid on ADHD meds who has trouble falling asleep, another with night terrors and sleepwalking.

As for the sex, total silence just isn't possible for either of us. So what is a couple to do? I am starting to feel REALLY guilty, and somehow I feel like its all my fault and responsibility to fix.

I understand that "if its a priority you make it work" but HOW, exactly? Sneaking into a car? Waiting until 1am and sneaking into the basement? This all just feels like a LOT, and I am really at a loss for something that really shouldn't be this complicated.

Do couples in our position just not have sex unless they have a night away?

We have a very similar situation - similar ages and ADHD! Renovating to have a bed room downstairs. Sometimes we both tele-work and take lunch breaks 😁. Teach the kids to sleep with the doors shut. It is a must for fire safety as well.

And yes, Saturday mornings and there will be random times both kids are out of the house (play dates and activities).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, and I should mention that I have asked my husband to install a lock on the door many times to prevent any unforeseen bust-ins, and he just...forgets.

Why can't you install a lock if you want one?

Seriously. Are your hands broken?