How common is it to not shave legs/underarms...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's no longer UNcommon. Goes with the whole non-binary/fluid gender thing. My DD goes for weeks without shaving until even she can't take it anymore. Rinse, repeat.

My traditionally feminine 15yo also does not shave. She wears skirts and dresses and shorts and I don't think it's that noticable. She probably doesn't feel the pressure to shave as many of her friends do not shave.

[Anonymous]

My tween DD got underarm hair early. She shaved it once with help from me 2 years ago and it never grew back.
Legs she doesn’t care about. She lotions her legs so they don’t like ashy ( she’s AA) big doesn’t care about hair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Legs are ok. Underarms can smell really bad.

I’m not a fan of hairy armpits on women, but men don’t shave their armpits and they don’t smell. I mean some do of course, but many don’t.

OP. This is part of my daughter's rationale. At least it was a few years ago when I was asking her more about shaving her legs. Her other reasoning was that she likes her hair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My tween DD got underarm hair early. She shaved it once with help from me 2 years ago and it never grew back.
Legs she doesn’t care about. She lotions her legs so they don’t like ashy ( she’s AA) big doesn’t care about hair.

What a lucky girl!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:....among teen girls today? Mine is 16 and just doesn't want or see the need to. I think this may partially contribute to not wanting to wear skirts or dresses anymore, too? If that's just because she doesn't like dresses and skirts, or even shorts, anymore, fine; but if it's because of embarrassment about hairy legs, I'd like to know why/how to help address it.

If she is on TikTok there is a whole trend telling teen girls not to do this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do the popular girls tend to shave more?

On the contrary

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not widespread, but more common than it was in our day. My 16 year old just started a few weeks ago, but is pretty lazy/haphazard about it. Have you asked her if she wants any particular product or anything? I just gave my DD all the supplies she might need and told her where it was in her bathroom and to ask for help if she needed it. I didn’t want to force it, even though it privately drove me crazy. She eventually decided for herself.

She tried shaving originally. Hated it. She used lotion remover a few times when I told her she needed to wear a dress and shave her legs. But I don't nag her about it anymore and she went to homecoming in a knee-length dress and unshaven. She is very fair skinned and hair is dark. Actually less noticeable from a distance than I expect; but definitely hairy within a short distance!

[Anonymous]

OP again. Do those whose daughters occasionally bother to shave their legs tend to do so when they are dressing up for a special occasion? Or is it just random? Would they go to homecoming dance or prom or a wedding unshaven, for example?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Legs are ok. Underarms can smell really bad.

WTF? Has nothing to do with the hair.

I actually smell worse when I shave, so I haven’t in 15 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again. Do those whose daughters occasionally bother to shave their legs tend to do so when they are dressing up for a special occasion? Or is it just random? Would they go to homecoming dance or prom or a wedding unshaven, for example?

I’m an adult who doesn’t regularly shave. Sometimes I do if my skin feels super dry or I’m doing something “fancy”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Legs are ok. Underarms can smell really bad.

WTF? Has nothing to do with the hair.

From Google:

Hair can trap sweat and bacteria, providing an environment for odour to develop. Removing or trimming body hair could help reduce bacterial growth and improve the effectiveness of deodorant or antiperspirant.

[Anonymous]

Mine is 17, firmly she/her, and she doesn’t shave. Occasionally she’ll shave or Nair under her arms, mostly so her antiperspirant will work better and not ball up, but her legs are always lightly hairy.

She did Nair her legs a few times in middle school, but I think once she realized nobody really cared, she stopped bothering. But we’re in a very liberal area of Montgomery County, so I can’t say what the attitudes are like elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

That sounds so strange that so many teens don’t shave their legs or underarms but most shave off all their pubic hair these days.

[Anonymous]

Girls in the South still shave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That sounds so strange that so many teens don’t shave their legs or underarms but most shave off all their pubic hair these days.

I don’t think that’s necessarily true