Husband’s texts when I was out of town

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
On OP’s side. This seems like a very minor convo with the kids that the husband made into a thing.

Completely agree. I would be horrified if my DH sent me a text like that. Over what…a TV show?? Ridiculous.

Blocking a spouse is manipulative BS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
On OP’s side. This seems like a very minor convo with the kids that the husband made into a thing.

Completely agree. I would be horrified if my DH sent me a text like that. Over what…a TV show?? Ridiculous.

Blocking a spouse is manipulative BS

Well she did make her kids feel bad over a TV show. I don’t get it. But apparently TV is big enough in that family to fight over.

[Anonymous]

Just ignore it. This is so ridiculous I wouldn’t even be offended. It’s like a four year old being mad.

[Anonymous]

This is all over a TV show? Kindly, please let this go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
On OP’s side. This seems like a very minor convo with the kids that the husband made into a thing.

Completely agree. I would be horrified if my DH sent me a text like that. Over what…a TV show?? Ridiculous.

Blocking a spouse is manipulative BS

Well she did make her kids feel bad over a TV show. I don’t get it. But apparently TV is big enough in that family to fight over.

She didn’t say in her post that the kids felt bad? We actually have argued over something similar in my own family. My DH was upset that that my teen & I watched a show without him. We ended up arguing about it. If he sent me a hostile text like that and “blocked” me, I would be upset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This one’s a you problem. You couldn’t just be happy that they were all spending time together and ask them what happened? I mean it might be ok to be disappointed but it’s just TV and they’re little kids who probably never thought this was an exclusively you activity. And I can see how it came across as criticism.

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP above. Just to clarify, I think his blocking you was an overreaction, I think his text was fine.

Agreed. The blocking is insane.

[Anonymous]

You were very much in the wrong.

Your husband blocking texts is immature, uncalled for and destructive. My significant other does this. It isn’t okay.

You can only control you. If you want this relationship to continue, do not tell your kids that they are bad for interacting with him. It is horribly destructive to them, to their relationship with their father and of course to your relationship with him. Grow up and catch up alone. Your comments to the kids were just asking for a divorce.

[Anonymous]

He sounds terrible.The blocking in this scenario is such an overreaction as is the accusation that you are involving the kids in “your issues”. You told the kids to wait to watch a show because you wanted to watch it with them, big whoop.

Really though, it sounds like there are deeper issues and he’s looking for any excuse to feel offended and accuse you of being the problem in the marriage. You’ve got to talk about the real underlying issues, preferably in therapy with a neutral 3rd party

[Anonymous]

Pp again. It is also pretty clear, given the extreme immaturity you both displayed in this interaction alone, that your divorce will be horrible. Straighten up and put your kids first! Prioritizing your tv shows over your entire family is inexcusable.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think I could handle that kind of temper tantrum no matter what, if anything, I did wrong. As a once in a blue moon mistake, sure. But not as a pattern.

It probably shows just how close to the bone you are with your whole relationship though. Things are bad so everything hits a nerve.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were very much in the wrong.

Your husband blocking texts is immature, uncalled for and destructive. My significant other does this. It isn’t okay.

You can only control you. If you want this relationship to continue, do not tell your kids that they are bad for interacting with him. It is horribly destructive to them, to their relationship with their father and of course to your relationship with him. Grow up and catch up alone. Your comments to the kids were just asking for a divorce.

I think DH was more in the wrong. What OP said with her kids would be no big deal in a healthy relationship. However, OP should be aware that she is not in a healthy relationship and anything she says might be used against her or assumed as an attack. Given this, she does have to be very careful about anything she says to DH or the kids.

I would not want to have to go through my marriage walking on eggshells like this but hopefully you can eventually work to move past this very tense time in your marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were very much in the wrong.

Your husband blocking texts is immature, uncalled for and destructive. My significant other does this. It isn’t okay.

You can only control you. If you want this relationship to continue, do not tell your kids that they are bad for interacting with him. It is horribly destructive to them, to their relationship with their father and of course to your relationship with him. Grow up and catch up alone. Your comments to the kids were just asking for a divorce.

OP didn’t do this. You are inventing this scenario lol

[Anonymous]

Debating the merit of the request to not watch the show is missing the point.

This is not the way people should speak to each other or handle things or make each other feel. The end. It’s not okay and whatever absurd justifications are coming from any posters is likely because they are a person who behaves this way.

It’s not okay. You don’t deserve it OP and your kids will experience this dynamic with him and it’s not okay for them either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Debating the merit of the request to not watch the show is missing the point.

This is not the way people should speak to each other or handle things or make each other feel. The end. It’s not okay and whatever absurd justifications are coming from any posters is likely because they are a person who behaves this way.

It’s not okay. You don’t deserve it OP and your kids will experience this dynamic with him and it’s not okay for them either.

+100000
I can’t imagine living with this dynamic