14 and 15 year olds- sex and drugs? Tell other parents or not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again. Did the drugstore test on my kid- he came out clean. He told me if he was going to do it, he could have, would have and has had ample opportunity and that I need to treat him as if he is responsible at let him choose his friends, because he has not "done anything wrong." Oh- and I obtained the information lurking on his facebook when he forgot to log out. I have known these kids since kindergarten. Sigh.

Fuck you, you're an evil parent.

More parents should be this evil. Stupid creep - are you dealing ?

[Anonymous]

My younger brother got his girlfriend pregnant when he was a freshman in High School.
This rocked our family and her's for years. My Mom was a stay at home mom, her parent's worked. More than enough opportunity for them to get together.

I know my parent's would have preferred to know what was happening.

[Anonymous]

My mom caught me and a friend smoking pot at 14. I was so embarrassed, but even more so when she called my friend's parents. I was grounded for 3 weeks. Was I mad at my mom? You bet. Did I try and guilt her out of calling by saying similar things like, "These are my friends, you shouldn't have snooped, you should have trusted me, etc. etc." - oh yeah. Did I understand why she told the other parents, and respect what she did? Absolutely. I eventually made other friends. Your kid can too. If nothing else, let the local cops know kids are dealing in the woods. Be the adult your kid needs you to be. he'll thank you later, but defintely not now, and that's ok.

[Anonymous]

Stay out of it. As a former pot smoking teen who also had sex and was totally scared of my parents - stay out of it. Your kid is OK and so long as your son does not think any of these other kids are in danger its best to stay out of it. Telling the cops is wrong and could ruin these kids lives. Please do not do this. Kids are stupid and need parents to guide them, it seems like you are doing a good job with yours - just don't get involved with the other kids.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks 15:31.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again. Did the drugstore test on my kid- he came out clean. He told me if he was going to do it, he could have, would have and has had ample opportunity and that I need to treat him as if he is responsible at let him choose his friends, because he has not "done anything wrong." Oh- and I obtained the information lurking on his facebook when he forgot to log out. I have known these kids since kindergarten. Sigh.

Fuck you, you're an evil parent.

More parents should be this evil. Stupid creep - are you dealing ?

Have you ever heard of invasion of privacy? Or respect for other people's privacy? It is morally wrong to snoop like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again. Did the drugstore test on my kid- he came out clean. He told me if he was going to do it, he could have, would have and has had ample opportunity and that I need to treat him as if he is responsible at let him choose his friends, because he has not "done anything wrong." Oh- and I obtained the information lurking on his facebook when he forgot to log out. I have known these kids since kindergarten. Sigh.

Fuck you, you're an evil parent.

More parents should be this evil. Stupid creep - are you dealing ?

Have you ever heard of invasion of privacy? Or respect for other people's privacy? It is morally wrong to snoop like that.

Teenagers sharing their every thought and personal info with 500 of their closest friends. Ooops some have about 1000. Swimsuit pics, hook-up pics, beer pong pics, drunk and passed out, hook-up stories.

[Anonymous]

It's not morally wrong if you TELL your child that you will be monitoring their facebook, texts and emails. It's called PARENTING.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not morally wrong if you TELL your child that you will be monitoring their facebook, texts and emails. It's called PARENTING.

Yeah, just like it would be fine if the government monitored all of your personal phone calls, emails, letters, and texts. Right? As long as they tell you they're doing it, it must be for your own good. They're the authority figure, which means they're always justified and correct..right?

Some of you guys sound ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again. Did the drugstore test on my kid- he came out clean. He told me if he was going to do it, he could have, would have and has had ample opportunity and that I need to treat him as if he is responsible at let him choose his friends, because he has not "done anything wrong." Oh- and I obtained the information lurking on his facebook when he forgot to log out. I have known these kids since kindergarten. Sigh.

OMG. I hope you will continue to keep us all posted My daughter is 11but still in elementary...I am pretty terrified about what will be happening by the time she hits middle school by 2012.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not morally wrong if you TELL your child that you will be monitoring their facebook, texts and emails. It's called PARENTING.

Yeah, just like it would be fine if the government monitored all of your personal phone calls, emails, letters, and texts. Right? As long as they tell you they're doing it, it must be for your own good. They're the authority figure, which means they're always justified and correct..right?

Some of you guys sound ridiculous.

NP here: the gov't can monitor my stuff if they want, but they'll be pretty bored. If a kid isn't doing anything he/she shouldn't, it's great to know that, but I'd sure want to know if my kid was doing the stuff I did when I was a teen. Yes, I turned out all right, but many don't. I saw the one's who didn't, and I don't want that to be my kid.

[Anonymous]

OP here. When my kid turns 18 and has graduated college than he would have earned the right of privacy. He is a CHILD. I am his PARENT. I am not a tyrant that has a kid that hates me- my son and I were able to discuss which kids are/were using, and what to do. He is as scared and confused as I am. FWIW, we (my son and I together) decided not to tell specific details to individual parents, but I did alert the principal to the goings on in the woods, and I spoke with some parents in the group and put the drugs-are-around-monitor-your-kid bug in their ears. I just hope that's enough.

[Anonymous]

sorry- OP- I meant graduated high school. I wish I still had a say in college!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again. Did the drugstore test on my kid- he came out clean. He told me if he was going to do it, he could have, would have and has had ample opportunity and that I need to treat him as if he is responsible at let him choose his friends, because he has not "done anything wrong." Oh- and I obtained the information lurking on his facebook when he forgot to log out. I have known these kids since kindergarten. Sigh.

Fuck you, you're an evil parent.

That's a bit strong, but the OP certainly seems to need to learn that "respect" is a two-way street.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again. Did the drugstore test on my kid- he came out clean. He told me if he was going to do it, he could have, would have and has had ample opportunity and that I need to treat him as if he is responsible at let him choose his friends, because he has not "done anything wrong." Oh- and I obtained the information lurking on his facebook when he forgot to log out. I have known these kids since kindergarten. Sigh.

Fuck you, you're an evil parent.

That's a bit strong, but the OP certainly seems to need to learn that "respect" is a two-way street.

I think the F bomber is a kid. My ds had to friend me to be able to get a facebook page. Now I wish I had demanded the password also. That way I could see what all his friends were saying too and I could tell their mothers.