New boyfriend loves this comedy routine- red flag? Or am I overthinking?

[Anonymous]

At least he is t watching Dane Cook.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are definitely overreacting.

It's a comedy routine.

Break up him if you want, but then please go get therapy, because you are obviously looking for a reason to sabotage this relationship, and I suspect this is a pattern for you.

It's the BF who needs therapy: "We were talking afterwards and bf said that's how men really think and they don't want women to know, and he could relate to a lot of it."

You and other posters here trying to make the OP feel she's overreacting etc. are the ones who fail to see red flags in other people's behaviors and who dismiss others when they call out misogyny. I suspect that's a pattern for you.

To OP, if he has treated you well otherwise, I would have a serious talk with him and tell him this continues to concern you and you want to understand him better. See if he dismisses it as overreaction, or worse, if he trots out that old trope, "Women just don't have a sense of humor/aren't funny/can't take a joke." I'm surprised it hasn't turned up on this thread already. The "women can't take (or make) a joke" or "women are oversensitive" stuff is a red flag because it's basically saying women should shut up if they have an issue with certain "humor."

If you and your BF have an otherwise positive relationship, you should feel you are able to bring this back up with him and talk about it like adults. If you feel balky at bringing it up--that, too, is a sign that your relationship might need work. Note I didn't say to dump him instantly, OP. Talk to him about it and see how he reacts to having it brought up again.

“BF needs therapy,” “I suspect that’s a pattern for you,” “if he trots out that old trope.”
You are annoying and should shut up.

[Anonymous]

How is he otherwise? Is he kind, respectful, and attentive?

Honestly, a 41 year old who laughs at stuff like that would be a turn off to me but only because that kind of humor is so juvenile and we wouldn't have anything in common anyway.

[Anonymous]

Is this the guy who caused a stir when he said all men really want to beat the sh t out of beautiful women? It's disgusting and I would not be ok with my dh promoting this violent toxic masculinity. We need much less of this in the world.

The mentality isn't a joke. It's behind so much violence we see.

How many of you who support this trash think what Creep K Lewis did wasn't so bad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you are so dramatic.

Some of you love violence, particularly against women.

[Anonymous]

He is testing you to see how you react to these jokes and viewpoints.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this the guy who caused a stir when he said all men really want to beat the sh t out of beautiful women? It's disgusting and I would not be ok with my dh promoting this violent toxic masculinity. We need much less of this in the world.

The mentality isn't a joke. It's behind so much violence we see.

How many of you who support this trash think what Creep K Lewis did wasn't so bad?

OP: I'm not sure if that was him. One of his quotes from the routine was, "Women want to do all their sexing between the ages of 30 and 50. But... the value of vagina is only good from 18 to 29."

He also has a whole bit on how women are sexable but not likeable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is testing you to see how you react to these jokes and viewpoints.

Agree with this. And the fact that OP was in a controlling/abusive relationship before makes me think he might be looking for someone easy to control and she fits the bill.

I watch (and laugh at) offensive comedy but don't segue into a dialogue about how true it all is and that the opposite sex should just accept it as reality. This dude seems off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Patrice O’Neil died years ago.

And no I wouldn’t dump someone over a comedy sketch that they didn’t even make. What the eff? Are you 12?

Some of you will be single forever.

Honestly I'm ok with being single verses being a fish that's caught and then thrown back to sea. The sea sounds more pleasurable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this the guy who caused a stir when he said all men really want to beat the sh t out of beautiful women? It's disgusting and I would not be ok with my dh promoting this violent toxic masculinity. We need much less of this in the world.

The mentality isn't a joke. It's behind so much violence we see.

How many of you who support this trash think what Creep K Lewis did wasn't so bad?

OP: I'm not sure if that was him. One of his quotes from the routine was, "Women want to do all their sexing between the ages of 30 and 50. But... the value of vagina is only good from 18 to 29."

He also has a whole bit on how women are sexable but not likeable.

Disgusting. What a misogynistic creep.

[Anonymous]

Throw him back into the sea.

[Anonymous]

OP, don't waste your time. Your spidey instincts are spot on. I know it's hard at this age to let go of potential, but this guy ain't it. Time is even more precious and wasting it with a misogynist is not going to serve you well. Next!

[Anonymous]

I would not have time for such crap, OP.

I appreciate classic literature and classic works of art, nearly all of which are terribly misogynist, but that's because they're wonderfully written (or painted or composed) and make for fascinating story-telling. They have artistic value.

But a contemporary, and VIOLENT, diatribe from a complete nobody, against women?

Hell no. What the heck is wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Goodness gracious. So many people who don't understand comedy and role of comedians.

[Anonymous]

OP: When I talk to him, I was going to use the analogy of us watching a female comedian who said that all men are dogs and worthless pieces of crap and that women only like them for their money. And that we both laughed and that afterward, I said that I secretly agreed with much of that but it's not appropriate to say in real life, and how would he feel?

Do you think this is a decent analogy?