Will your kid make a big deal about "revealing" their college choice?

[Anonymous]

My kid hates any fuss, so we won’t be doing a reveal. However, the college application process is a long and arduous ordeal. Lots of kids don’t get into their top choices. I think having some fun and getting your kid excited about wherever they’re going is totally fine. I’m a little mystified about why so many people on here are so anti-celebration. Life is tough, let’s take the wins and celebrate them!

[Anonymous]

Does one Facebook post count as a reveal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does one Facebook post count as a reveal?

or Instagram?

[Anonymous]

I don’t think the precedent is the gender reveal thing. It’s more the recruited athletes at the high school and other levels who reveal where they’ve signed to play sports, and just extending that to other kids. As long as it’s not over the top, why not let other kids enjoy an announcement of sorts?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Man you seem to care a lot about what other people do.

I wonder why that is?

So you don’t ever care what others do? Not ever? I find that hard to believe.

Believe it. I care when it affects me and my family, but other than that, no.


To each their own, have fun with it.

Lol. You seem to care that people have an opinion about this.

[Anonymous]

American culture could really do with fewer narcissistic displays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son did not do a reveal. He just told us when he got accepted to the school that he really wanted to go that was where he wanted to go. Some seniors at his high school set up a Instagram page for seniors to post their college choices. He posted his choice there. That’s where other parents found out where my kid was going. Their kids saw my kids college choice.

This is the current standard as far as I know.

Something else was mentioned by my DD where a group of friends have a little celebration for their friend and put college themed gifts in friends bedroom. But I don't believe that is an event meant to be publically consumed.

[Anonymous]

I don’t see anything wrong with a public reveal of your college destination. That’s info that most people in your life and community will be curious about. If you posted every acceptance, that would be obnoxious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think the precedent is the gender reveal thing. It’s more the recruited athletes at the high school and other levels who reveal where they’ve signed to play sports, and just extending that to other kids. As long as it’s not over the top, why not let other kids enjoy an announcement of sorts?

Yes, I've seem some schools who decided it shouldn't just be the recruited athletes who get the hoopla of a signing day (I mean why just them and not the other kids who get scholarships or or just thrilled to have gotten into college!), so now they celebrate everyone who wants to do something like that. At first, I though that was ick, but now I realize that this is a part of the reason athletes are alone on a pedestal -- they created their own. We should raise everyone up for this achievement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't know this was a thing. I mean, we've been having conversations with our son throughout the whole process and his decision on which school he will go to has just come out during those conversations.

Apparently students now "reveal" their school choice to family and friends, very similar to "gender reveals" (also obnoxious) for expecting couples? I just saw a facebook post where someone's daughter "revealed" her school choice with a cake--with frosting in the school colors inside.
Siena college has a whole list of things to do, including a powder cannon! https://www.siena.edu/news/story/10-creative-ways-to-announce-your-college-decision/?msclkid=bbf81695af5511ec85b1d6ef224a9d7c

Eeeewww. No, gross. Tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid hates any fuss, so we won’t be doing a reveal. However, the college application process is a long and arduous ordeal. Lots of kids don’t get into their top choices. I think having some fun and getting your kid excited about wherever they’re going is totally fine. I’m a little mystified about why so many people on here are so anti-celebration. Life is tough, let’s take the wins and celebrate them!

I'm not anti-celebration. I'm against turning everything into Instagram-worthy fodder, because apparently your life only matters if it's documented on social media with sufficient production value. It's so materialistic and performative. Have a nice dinner or call Grandma and Grandpa to tell them the exciting news! Buy a sweatshirt! But it's like gender reveals, promposals, smash cakes, etc. Everything is about generating the right photos to get likes. It's gross.

[Anonymous]

When I was in HS, we had a day when you could wear a college sweatshirt over your uniform at the end of the year. That was fun...and the teachers/staff wore their college shirts.

I don't understand the public attention-grabbing, but as everyone has noted, this seems to be part of the culture now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Omg - not another one of these things.

My sentiment exactly.

Same here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't know this was a thing. I mean, we've been having conversations with our son throughout the whole process and his decision on which school he will go to has just come out during those conversations.

Apparently students now "reveal" their school choice to family and friends, very similar to "gender reveals" (also obnoxious) for expecting couples? I just saw a facebook post where someone's daughter "revealed" her school choice with a cake--with frosting in the school colors inside.
Siena college has a whole list of things to do, including a powder cannon! https://www.siena.edu/news/story/10-creative-ways-to-announce-your-college-decision/?msclkid=bbf81695af5511ec85b1d6ef224a9d7c

No, they are very sensible young people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was in HS, we had a day when you could wear a college sweatshirt over your uniform at the end of the year. That was fun...and the teachers/staff wore their college shirts.

I don't understand the public attention-grabbing, but as everyone has noted, this seems to be part of the culture now.

Yes. Now this, I like! But cannons and reveal cakes? Seems a bit indulgent bordering on narcissistic.