I haven't heard from my boyfriend since Friday night

[Anonymous]

Op here: calling sheriff now regarding welness check. Will update once I speak with them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here: calling sheriff now regarding welness check. Will update once I speak with them

Good job!

[Anonymous]

OP, unless he's really hurt (which seems unlikely), you're not really going to consider taking him back, right?

I can totally understand that you want some answers here, but that's all you're seeking out at this point, right?

Like I said, unless he's actually hurt and stuck somewhere, there really is no acceptable excuse!

[Anonymous]

Are people still e-mailing the OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here: calling sheriff now regarding welness check. Will update once I speak with them

I would also make sure you send an email/Facebook message with the simple: "Right now, I'm just worried. I have called the sherriff to do a wellness check at your home".

If he's avoiding you, hopefully a message like that will scare him into coming out from the shadows and telling the truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, unless he's really hurt (which seems unlikely), you're not really going to consider taking him back, right?

I can totally understand that you want some answers here, but that's all you're seeking out at this point, right?

Like I said, unless he's actually hurt and stuck somewhere, there really is no acceptable excuse!

Absolutely none!!

[Anonymous]

Can someone start an separate update thread when there's resolution?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I worry about you. I worry about what you are avoiding in your own life right there in Rhode Island that you would even consider someone who lives so far away to have a LDR with. It's one thing to have an LDR with someone you know and love who had to move away for some reason. But to start a relationship with a stranger, and then keep up a "relationship" with someone who lied to you so much, kept up a dating profile after you were dating, etc....and now all this! You are worth so much more than this. What's going on, OP?

I did this. I married him, and there weren't any lying issues, but people do start LDR's with strangers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here: calling sheriff now regarding welness check. Will update once I speak with them

Whether he's in a ditch or alive and healthy (much more likely), do yourself a favor, OP, and don't try to contact him again. Your previous thread on his lying should prove to you that he's really not worth any more of your time.

I hope the next guy who tells you he loves you is sincere, but you'll never find him if you're hung up on this loser.

[Anonymous]

Apparently bobcats like fishing too.

[Anonymous]

After the wellness check and has the PP suggested, a Facebook message explaining that you have sent a wellness check you need to stop. The constant calling and messaging the uncle can come across as harassment and you don't want that. Remember how it will look from their side – a girl they have never heard of calls many many times to ask about a boyfriend when the boyfriend has probably told them to ignore her. You are not doing yourself any favors.


I am sorry this happened to you, I hope that he writes to you and tells you that he were okay so we can all have closure. But after this last communication – please stop. These types of guys will come back to you because they like the attention in some sick way. He will lie and make excuses and promised to change as I am sure he did in February – he will use his grandpa others health as an excuse.

You seem very sweet and very caring and someone will be lucky to have you. But he need to make sure they feel the same way and are not just stringing you along.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Apparently bobcats like fishing too.

OMG - I was just coming here to post this same pic!!!

[Anonymous]

Holy Geez. NP here. I just read through 96 pages expecting some sort of resolution at some point. ARE YOU TELLING ME THIS IS STILL GOING ON????

Oh my holy god.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Apparently bobcats like fishing too.

OMG - I was just coming here to post this same pic!!!

me three, except I couldn't think of anything clever to say.

[Anonymous]

OP, I've followed both your threads with equal interest.
I have two "baby" brothers the same age as you. I'm an introvert, ad comfortable with a whole range of non-typical relationships. I have failed (or rather the relationships have failed) quite spectacularly in some instances. DH and I have had to live apart for extended periods. I think I can at least empathize with a few facts about your life.
I want to respond to you how I would respond to you as a big sister.

this guy .. He's no good for you.
A few hours, here and there.. Maddening, rude, etc. days? No. You're better than that.

You're in love with him? You don't know enough to be in love with him. No emergency contact? No love? You're better than that.

Bobcat poacher? I'm Canadian. You're better than that.

Any man .. And by this I mean in big, capital patters ANY MAN that makes you question things early on, well! you're better than that.

Don't make excuses. Yes, some things are for a reason.But honey, when they keep giving reasons.. This will be your life. Stop accepting it. Because you deserve so much much more than a man who is giving you reasons to not be with you. You sound sweet, kind, concerned, and you own your own business. You deserve men who are there.. Not those who are giving you reasons to not be there. Life will always be filled with losers... Understand it's always your choice to not accept that for yourself.

Buck up. It hurts like hell.. But he doesn't care. He has a pattern of not caring, and as you've accepted it in the past, the line will keep shifting to the worse for what he thinks you will accept. Don't accept it.