I haven't heard from my boyfriend since Friday night

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know people will hesitate to write the dude's name just outright, but can someone point me to the proper page # where I can find it so I can FB him at lunch? Thanks

Can you get a life?

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, I see you said he doesn't really work for that farm. Are you sure? How come it's on his fb page?

Op here: it's not at all, idk where people
Even found that

Yeah, you're right. Where did I see that then?? I definitely saw it somewhere online, that's strange.

That farm is listed in the other earlier FB profile of the BF's name with the same HS; this was the FB profile that OP said her BF deleted in January but can still be seen by cache.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know people will hesitate to write the dude's name just outright, but can someone point me to the proper page # where I can find it so I can FB him at lunch? Thanks

The identifying posts have been deleted, I think.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, did he seem depressed at all? I hate to mention this as a possibility but could he have committed suicide out there at the cabin? I think you should definitely make it a priority to talk to the sheriff and fill out a missing person's report.

Op here: im not getting into a lot of details now that some know his family info but yes, he had been going through some things regarding his grandfathers health that has really been effecting him a lot. So even though he is a "jerk" or "liar" like some are saying, I am still concerned that something could have happened.

All the more reason to fill out a missing person's report. Is there some reason you're hesitating to do this?

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, I see you said he doesn't really work for that farm. Are you sure? How come it's on his fb page?

Op here: it's not at all, idk where people
Even found that

Yeah, you're right. Where did I see that then?? I definitely saw it somewhere online, that's strange.

ANOTHER FB profile for someone by that same name comes up when you combine all those details. I'm willing to bet that's her "BF" alternate or older profile that he's either used to ensnare other girls or that's the one he uses for his real relationships.

She said that she knew it was an old profile.

Not everything confusing is a lie. If you look at some of my old social media, which still exists in cached versions because that's the nature of the internet, it will show me as living in a place I haven't lived for many years, married to someone I'm not married to. I'm also blonde in those pictures, which I am not now.

I'm referring to one that comes up with his full name (not nickname). If you type in www.facebook.com/firstname.lastname.9 you'll see it. It's still up, not deleted.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, I see you said he doesn't really work for that farm. Are you sure? How come it's on his fb page?

Op here: it's not at all, idk where people
Even found that

Yeah, you're right. Where did I see that then?? I definitely saw it somewhere online, that's strange.

ANOTHER FB profile for someone by that same name comes up when you combine all those details. I'm willing to bet that's her "BF" alternate or older profile that he's either used to ensnare other girls or that's the one he uses for his real relationships.

She said that she knew it was an old profile.

Not everything confusing is a lie. If you look at some of my old social media, which still exists in cached versions because that's the nature of the internet, it will show me as living in a place I haven't lived for many years, married to someone I'm not married to. I'm also blonde in those pictures, which I am not now.

I'm referring to one that comes up with his full name (not nickname). If you type in www.facebook.com/firstname.lastname.9 you'll see it. It's still up, not deleted.

It shows nothing at all

[Anonymous]

OP, does he have a beard?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, did he seem depressed at all? I hate to mention this as a possibility but could he have committed suicide out there at the cabin? I think you should definitely make it a priority to talk to the sheriff and fill out a missing person's report.

Op here: im not getting into a lot of details now that some know his family info but yes, he had been going through some things regarding his grandfathers health that has really been effecting him a lot. So even though he is a "jerk" or "liar" like some are saying, I am still concerned that something could have happened.

All the more reason to fill out a missing person's report. Is there some reason you're hesitating to do this?

Op here: im hesitating to do that because I don't know what to believe at this point. After people figured out that it was clear his uncle was not in Maine this weekend, a lot of things have some to light. I'm stuck between thinking he's in jail or just f'ed me over and I don't necessarily want to look like an idiot who filed a missing persons report for someone who could literally be sitting in his house. I am gonna ask for a wellness check though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, does he have a beard?

We've all established that

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I know people will hesitate to write the dude's name just outright, but can someone point me to the proper page # where I can find it so I can FB him at lunch? Thanks

Can you get a life?

Oh, look who just showed up on page 90 for the first time.

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Anonymous wrote:Halfway through the thread, Jeff pulled up another thread from a couple months ago where OP was complaining that her "boyfriend" would often disappear for hours or days and not answer his phone, and that he lied about stuff.

Thanks to the PP who posted a summary a few pages back. This bit (highlighted above) pretty much seals it for me. He's a player and OP has been conned. Go out and do something nice for yourself today, OP. Do not let this idiot take up one more bit of your precious time. Get on match.com or something and find a decent guy - preferably local.

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this thread went an additional 40 pages since i last read it. damn.

this is iraq77 from pages ago.

OP did email me, shared the boyfriend's name with me and i did a quick searching around the web before i got distracted with real life and stopped. in any event, it seems like some of you got as much info as i did before i stopped.

i think OP is real and not some troll. if she is trolling, she has no life because shes going out of her way to give this story life by emailing a complete stranger who offered her help. i cant imagine a person playing games going through that extent for a story.

anyway, i dont know what to make of it. from what i searched, the guys online presence is minimal which if hes playing OP and other women, is good for him. i was able to dig up his address and see his facebook page and based on the description you gave on his looks, i imagined i found the right guy. he hasnt updated his page to what i can gather. i am leaning towards the fact that OP is being toyed with.

if he's truly dead (worse case scenario), his uncle can at least respond to OP with a quick note. the fact that shes not getting anything or that the uncle doesnt appear to make claims on facebook that his nephew is dead, says hes probably "ok". he can also be in jail i guess. either way, OP should probably chalk this up to being played.

at this point, if the boyfriend does call you, i cant imagine an excuse that warrants taking him back. if he went to jail, you want to date a criminal? if he said he lost his phone, he couldnt email you?

id consider letting this go OP. thats my thoughts on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, did he seem depressed at all? I hate to mention this as a possibility but could he have committed suicide out there at the cabin? I think you should definitely make it a priority to talk to the sheriff and fill out a missing person's report.

Op here: im not getting into a lot of details now that some know his family info but yes, he had been going through some things regarding his grandfathers health that has really been effecting him a lot. So even though he is a "jerk" or "liar" like some are saying, I am still concerned that something could have happened.

All the more reason to fill out a missing person's report. Is there some reason you're hesitating to do this?

Op here: im hesitating to do that because I don't know what to believe at this point. After people figured out that it was clear his uncle was not in Maine this weekend, a lot of things have some to light. I'm stuck between thinking he's in jail or just f'ed me over and I don't necessarily want to look like an idiot who filed a missing persons report for someone who could literally be sitting in his house. I am gonna ask for a wellness check though.

Do that now, then. What are you waiting for? Either move on and delete and stop contacting anyone related to him. Or follow up and move forward. DO SOMETHING.

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I just don't accept OP's explanation that she can't email the uncle and ask after the BF because she is afraid someone might read the work email. All the email has to say is, "Hi, Uncle J, I am a friend of your nephew Bobcat. He was supposed to be in touch with me on Sunday night, but he did not call and I have not been able to reach him. I wanted to check and make sure he was ok. Have you heard from him?" What possible issue could there be with sending such an innocuous email to the uncle's work address at his fishing business? So what if someone else there read it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: 1) Go out and do something nice for yourself today, OP.

2) Do not let this idiot take up one more bit of your precious time.

3) Get on match.com or something and find a decent guy - preferably local.

I agree with #1 and #2 but think OP should wait a bit for #3. OP- take a break and focus on yourself for a little bit. Do some soul searching, figure out who you are, how you contributed to this dynamic, and get your shit together a little before getting back out there. Just my two cents.