Turned down friends thermostat during the night and they feel I did something wrong....Question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are menopausal and having hot flashes, then you know what’s comfortable for you is NOT going to be comfortable for others who are not having hot flashes. I went through menopause recently, so believe me I understand the discomfort of hot flashes. But you splash yourself with cold water, wear summer pjs, maybe put a cold damp cloth on your forehead. You don’t help yourself to the thermostat.

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[Anonymous]

I might have been tempted to do the same thing--but would only do it if opening the window didn't help. They can cover up with more blankets, there's only so much you can do to help yourself when you're overheated. I can't stand staying anywhere the heat is above 63 or 65 at night. It's insufferable to me. Next time you'll know to get a hotel.

[Anonymous]

I guess next time you can wake them up at 2 am asking for a fan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess next time you can wake them up at 2 am asking for a fan.

Somehow I doubt OP will be invited back for a “next time”.

[Anonymous]

terribly rude thing to do OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I might have been tempted to do the same thing--but would only do it if opening the window didn't help. They can cover up with more blankets, there's only so much you can do to help yourself when you're overheated. I can't stand staying anywhere the heat is above 63 or 65 at night. It's insufferable to me. Next time you'll know to get a hotel.

If the fact she’d be sharing a room with her married hosts didn’t deter her, somehow I doubt a couple of degrees will. Some people are just oblivious.

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I don’t think I would ever touch someone else’s thermostat, but I definitely wouldn’t make a guest who did feel badly about it if they did and would probably feel honoured they felt comfortable enough at my home to make themselves comfortable.

But, I also get people are weird about there thermostats, which is why I’d never touch another’s.

[Anonymous]

The thing about just adjusting someone's thermostat out of the blue is you don't know the history or specifics of the house, so it's officious of you to make a judgment about what the temperature needs to be without that background.

What if the boiler is tempermental, or the thermostat itself? What if the temperature in a certain room needs to be kept at a certain level or range or something happens to the air conditioning/pipes/other. I just think it's bad manners to adust this on your own. It's like adjusting the refrigerator temperature settings in someone else's fridge. They are set the way they are for a reason; it's not up to you to make the decision, for someone else, to change them.

[Anonymous]

My mother in law does this EVERY time she has ever visited. It ruins my sleep when the temp drops 2 to 3 degrees. I wake up cold at 3 or 4am and just toss and turn for a few hours. It's very irritating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spent the night at a friends house and got hot during the night. Was hot but did not want to wake them. I went and turned the thermostat down 3 degrees and this morning they were angry that I touched their thermostat and turned it down 2 degrees —from 71-68. They said no one who is a guest at someone’s home would turn down the temperature without asking. Nobody. I explained that I did not know it was a problem. Really. If I had known it was a problem I would not have done it. Honestly did not think this would be a problem and tried to tell them this. They told me to take a poll of my friends or anyone to see what they say. I’m posting here to get feedback also. I’m honestly confused and they can’t understand me and I don’t understand them. Feedback please. TIA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother in law does this EVERY time she has ever visited. It ruins my sleep when the temp drops 2 to 3 degrees. I wake up cold at 3 or 4am and just toss and turn for a few hours. It's very irritating.

So...tell her not to do it?

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No! Maybe it's because I'm a New Englander but you don't open windows when the heat is on. Just like you don't bake when the AC is on. It's like leaving the fridge open. Is this frugal NE speak? Like it's wasting your utilities? I'd rather have someone turn down the thermostat a bit. But most thermostats go to "hold" and then back to the scheduled routine, so at 6AM it would set to my morning time and I wouldn't have even noticed.

I’m sorry but... you don’t bake when the AC is on? I’ve literally never heard that. Do you not bake at all from May to October? Or you mean you turn your AC off?

Frugal Midwesterner here, and it's common sense that you don't want to turn the oven on when it's super hot outside because it just makes the house hotter and makes your A/C work harder. Surely I'm not the only one who uses the oven a lot more in the winter than in the summer!

It's weird to say never use it in the summer, but definitely not as much!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My hot-flashing SIL did this when we were visiting with an infant (her house, we were visiting). Woke up to weak cries from the baby's room only to find he was so cold his lips were turning blue. It was terrifying.

Oh COME ON.

[Anonymous]

People setting their nighttime thermostat temperature at 70+ is why this planet will never stop burning.

Sleep physicians recommend the coldest temperature you can stand for sleeping; 58-62 is ideal. You’re in bed under the covers, why does the whole damned house need to be cranked up to 70+?! If you get up in the night, put on a bathrobe. Set the thermostat to warm up to 70+ 1/2 hour before waking time (no, it does not use more energy).

People who want their home summer temperature all year round - even their massive McMansions with dozens of empty rooms - are disgusting energy hogs.