Kids who dominate adult conversations

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As an adult what wouldn I possibly have to talk about with another person's child. I'm not for children being seen but not heard but they need to relate their peers. That's a social skill too and many parents arent teaching it.

Are you dumb? You can't say "Great Larlo, awesome fact about dinosaurs!" or "What's your favorite Pokemon character?". It doesn't have to be an hour long conversation, you can steer Larlo to go back to playing in a minute. Being able to relate to all sorts of people, including kids, is a social skill too and it's too bad your parents neglected to teach you it.

NP. Putting aside your rude post, I have to question your own experience with kids. No one can drag out a story or provide a long-winded response like a kid trying to get attention from adults.

It's amazing you're magically able to intuit their intentions and that they're nefarious. You sound crazy as a MF

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As an adult what wouldn I possibly have to talk about with another person's child. I'm not for children being seen but not heard but they need to relate their peers. That's a social skill too and many parents arent teaching it.

Are you dumb? You can't say "Great Larlo, awesome fact about dinosaurs!" or "What's your favorite Pokemon character?". It doesn't have to be an hour long conversation, you can steer Larlo to go back to playing in a minute. Being able to relate to all sorts of people, including kids, is a social skill too and it's too bad your parents neglected to teach you it.

NP. Putting aside your rude post, I have to question your own experience with kids. No one can drag out a story or provide a long-winded response like a kid trying to get attention from adults.

It's amazing you're magically able to intuit their intentions and that they're nefarious. You sound crazy as a MF

Um, what? Who said anything about the kids’ intentions being nefarious?? Some kids simply love to talk and they like the attention. Perhaps take a deep breath before firing off a response.

[Anonymous]

So annoying. Could not really have a conversation with a mom the other day. Child was like a little nosy adult, interrupting, intruding, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As an adult what wouldn I possibly have to talk about with another person's child. I'm not for children being seen but not heard but they need to relate their peers. That's a social skill too and many parents arent teaching it.

Are you dumb? You can't say "Great Larlo, awesome fact about dinosaurs!" or "What's your favorite Pokemon character?". It doesn't have to be an hour long conversation, you can steer Larlo to go back to playing in a minute. Being able to relate to all sorts of people, including kids, is a social skill too and it's too bad your parents neglected to teach you it.

NP. Putting aside your rude post, I have to question your own experience with kids. No one can drag out a story or provide a long-winded response like a kid trying to get attention from adults.

It's amazing you're magically able to intuit their intentions and that they're nefarious. You sound crazy as a MF

Um, what? Who said anything about the kids’ intentions being nefarious?? Some kids simply love to talk and they like the attention. Perhaps take a deep breath before firing off a response.

"Love to talk and love attention" again amazing you can magically know their intentions. Perhaps they were trying to meaningfully engage with you. But I guess it makes you feel better about ignoring small kids when you can chalk it up to them being attention whores. You really are cold individual

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So annoying. Could not really have a conversation with a mom the other day. Child was like a little nosy adult, interrupting, intruding, etc.

Careful now pp, your anxiety is showing. You shouldn't be jealous of an intelligent child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As an adult what wouldn I possibly have to talk about with another person's child. I'm not for children being seen but not heard but they need to relate their peers. That's a social skill too and many parents arent teaching it.

Are you dumb? You can't say "Great Larlo, awesome fact about dinosaurs!" or "What's your favorite Pokemon character?". It doesn't have to be an hour long conversation, you can steer Larlo to go back to playing in a minute. Being able to relate to all sorts of people, including kids, is a social skill too and it's too bad your parents neglected to teach you it.

NP. Putting aside your rude post, I have to question your own experience with kids. No one can drag out a story or provide a long-winded response like a kid trying to get attention from adults.

It's amazing you're magically able to intuit their intentions and that they're nefarious. You sound crazy as a MF

Um, what? Who said anything about the kids’ intentions being nefarious?? Some kids simply love to talk and they like the attention. Perhaps take a deep breath before firing off a response.

"Love to talk and love attention" again amazing you can magically know their intentions. Perhaps they were trying to meaningfully engage with you. But I guess it makes you feel better about ignoring small kids when you can chalk it up to them being attention whores. You really are cold individual

Lol. Yes, I guess you magically figured me out by reading things that aren’t in my post. Are you a parent of one of these kids who talks the ear off any adult who comes within 2 feet of them? Cuz you’re taking this awfully personally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As an adult what wouldn I possibly have to talk about with another person's child. I'm not for children being seen but not heard but they need to relate their peers. That's a social skill too and many parents arent teaching it.

Are you dumb? You can't say "Great Larlo, awesome fact about dinosaurs!" or "What's your favorite Pokemon character?". It doesn't have to be an hour long conversation, you can steer Larlo to go back to playing in a minute. Being able to relate to all sorts of people, including kids, is a social skill too and it's too bad your parents neglected to teach you it.

NP. Putting aside your rude post, I have to question your own experience with kids. No one can drag out a story or provide a long-winded response like a kid trying to get attention from adults.

It's amazing you're magically able to intuit their intentions and that they're nefarious. You sound crazy as a MF

Um, what? Who said anything about the kids’ intentions being nefarious?? Some kids simply love to talk and they like the attention. Perhaps take a deep breath before firing off a response.

"Love to talk and love attention" again amazing you can magically know their intentions. Perhaps they were trying to meaningfully engage with you. But I guess it makes you feel better about ignoring small kids when you can chalk it up to them being attention whores. You really are cold individual

LOL. Small kids are pretty much universally attention whores. That isn't a special characteristic. They have to learn self-control. It is helpful if their parents provide guidance.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As an adult what wouldn I possibly have to talk about with another person's child. I'm not for children being seen but not heard but they need to relate their peers. That's a social skill too and many parents arent teaching it.

Are you dumb? You can't say "Great Larlo, awesome fact about dinosaurs!" or "What's your favorite Pokemon character?". It doesn't have to be an hour long conversation, you can steer Larlo to go back to playing in a minute. Being able to relate to all sorts of people, including kids, is a social skill too and it's too bad your parents neglected to teach you it.

NP. Putting aside your rude post, I have to question your own experience with kids. No one can drag out a story or provide a long-winded response like a kid trying to get attention from adults.

It's amazing you're magically able to intuit their intentions and that they're nefarious. You sound crazy as a MF

Um, what? Who said anything about the kids’ intentions being nefarious?? Some kids simply love to talk and they like the attention. Perhaps take a deep breath before firing off a response.

"Love to talk and love attention" again amazing you can magically know their intentions. Perhaps they were trying to meaningfully engage with you. But I guess it makes you feel better about ignoring small kids when you can chalk it up to them being attention whores. You really are cold individual

Lol. Yes, I guess you magically figured me out by reading things that aren’t in my post. Are you a parent of one of these kids who talks the ear off any adult who comes within 2 feet of them? Cuz you’re taking this awfully personally.

Yeah, just like you magically figure out these children. And no, I'm not. I know you'd love to dismiss me in that way so you can disregard the valid poitns I've made, but I have no horse in the race. Just a dislike for mean spirited a-holes like yourself.

[Anonymous]

One of the signs of a gifted child is the desire and ability to talk about mature topics with adults. OP don’t be envious because your child isn’t gifted, most people are not. What’s the saying....”It’s lonely at the top” and this applies to many of these kids who desire adult conversation. They are at least highly intelligent, so chances are their peers are unable to relate to them on many levels. We are so quick to judge and label kids, heck even adults, who don’t fit the mold. We shouldn’t stifle and discourage these types of precocious creative children, at least they have personalities unlike so many people these days. Kids like this have potential. Everyone wants to believe that their own child is intelligent, but it’s extremely frustrating when your child truly is gifted and a little quirky and constantly gets rejected by peers and adults alike. No, it’s really not a lack of social skills, it’s because the gifted chid doesn’t fit into the little box that you want them to fit into.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of the signs of a gifted child is the desire and ability to talk about mature topics with adults. OP don’t be envious because your child isn’t gifted, most people are not. What’s the saying....”It’s lonely at the top” and this applies to many of these kids who desire adult conversation. They are at least highly intelligent, so chances are their peers are unable to relate to them on many levels. We are so quick to judge and label kids, heck even adults, who don’t fit the mold. We shouldn’t stifle and discourage these types of precocious creative children, at least they have personalities unlike so many people these days. Kids like this have potential. Everyone wants to believe that their own child is intelligent, but it’s extremely frustrating when your child truly is gifted and a little quirky and constantly gets rejected by peers and adults alike. No, it’s really not a lack of social skills, it’s because the gifted chid doesn’t fit into the little box that you want them to fit into.

+10000
Although I suspect, OP already knows all of this deep down inside, and this is exactly where the resentment comes from. They just cant admit it to themselves conciously

[Anonymous]

Being gifted is no excuse for being impolite.

Teach your kids to behave in a way that makes them pleasant to be around. More helpful in life than a high SAT

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being gifted is no excuse for being impolite.

Teach your kids to behave in a way that makes them pleasant to be around. More helpful in life than a high SAT

Engaging in conversation is the opposite of being impolite. And kids who engage in conversations with adults with develop high level social skills much faster

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being gifted is no excuse for being impolite.

Teach your kids to behave in a way that makes them pleasant to be around. More helpful in life than a high SAT

Engaging in conversation is the opposite of being impolite. And kids who engage in conversations with adults with develop high level social skills much faster

Inserting yourself where you are not welcome is being impolite. They can engage in conversations where they are wanted, but should be able to interpret social cues to move away when they aren't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of the signs of a gifted child is the desire and ability to talk about mature topics with adults. OP don’t be envious because your child isn’t gifted, most people are not. What’s the saying....”It’s lonely at the top” and this applies to many of these kids who desire adult conversation. They are at least highly intelligent, so chances are their peers are unable to relate to them on many levels. We are so quick to judge and label kids, heck even adults, who don’t fit the mold. We shouldn’t stifle and discourage these types of precocious creative children, at least they have personalities unlike so many people these days. Kids like this have potential. Everyone wants to believe that their own child is intelligent, but it’s extremely frustrating when your child truly is gifted and a little quirky and constantly gets rejected by peers and adults alike. No, it’s really not a lack of social skills, it’s because the gifted chid doesn’t fit into the little box that you want them to fit into.

It is a lack of social skills on the parents part not to tell their child to move to another area and let adults talk to each other without having kids interrupt the conversation. Why do you think your child should be allowed to monopolize adult conversations? The OP isn't envious of anyone kid, she doesn't want all her time that she has to talk to adults taken by a kid who won't leave the immediate area where adults are trying to talk about adult subjects. OP isn't talking about a kid who briefly goes over to the adults and spends five or even ten minutes talking. She is talking about the entitled kid who stays by the adults the whole time the adults are gathered which can be two or three hours.

Our group had a parent who thought her child deserved to be in all the adult conversations with equal footing and thought it was so wonderful her child loved to express her opinion. She thought nothing of having her nine year old hang around the adults when we really wanted to discuss topics that included sex, drinking, financial issues, adult humor, complaints, etc. We stopped inviting this family to our group gatherings. We are back to having adult conversations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being gifted is no excuse for being impolite.

Teach your kids to behave in a way that makes them pleasant to be around. More helpful in life than a high SAT

Engaging in conversation is the opposite of being impolite. And kids who engage in conversations with adults with develop high level social skills much faster

Inserting yourself where you are not welcome is being impolite. They can engage in conversations where they are wanted, but should be able to interpret social cues to move away when they aren't.

There is no reason why a child should feel unwelcome in a situation with their parent and a family friend. And if you make your kids feel that way, then YOU are a bad parent. Hope you're creating a therapy fund for the kid to use one day