Kids who dominate adult conversations

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Anonymous wrote:I always assume kids like this are on the spectrum. I try to be polite, but redirect.

I would also assume kids that prefer to talk to adults are on the spectrum. They are probably changing the topic to talk about their special interest.


That being said, I think the best thing that you can do is to model with your own children. What do you do when your kids come around while you are talking with your friend?

Please read a book of child development and educate yourself. This is completely normal behavior in young children.

It’s really not.

Normal kids prefer to play with other kids, not sit and engage in adult conversations for hours. I’m not saying you should let it go, just that maybe OP’s kids are happily playing with other children instead of talking to adults about the 18 different kinds of wolf spiders because they are wired differently, not because she is a superior parent who wouldn’t tolerate that behavior.

Plenty of super smart kids prefer to talk to adults rather than kids. My sister was very smart and taught herself to read at 3. She's very social though and loves to talk, but she was far above the intellectual level of other kids her age. Now she's a well adjusted adult with impeccable social skills and a high paying job- probably because she spent a lot of time engaging with and learning from adults. She had plenty of friends her own age too, but she could have conversations with people older who were more intellectually compatible with her. Contrast that to many of the people on here who were ordered not to talk to adults and have admited mental health issues

Let me repeat what has already been said, NO ONE ELSE THINKS YOUR KID IS SUPER SMART. We do think both your kid and you have no manners.

You don’t have to think my kid is super smart, his intelligence speaks for itself. He is levels above you, he certainly doesn’t need your acceptance.

+1. If the kid was actually that damn smart, he'd have figured out how to shut his mouth by now.

Nope, he is just tired of pretending to like superheros and Ninja Turtles and is seeking out intellectual stimulation from anyone willing to engage with him.

Sorry, thet should have said 'he'd have figured out how to shut his Mom up'

[Anonymous]

As an adult what wouldn I possibly have to talk about with another person's child. I'm not for children being seen but not heard but they need to relate their peers. That's a social skill too and many parents arent teaching it.

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Anonymous wrote:If the child is actually conversing, not interrupting, I don't see how you have any grounds to correct them. Sure you can be rude yourself and not respond to the child, but this is a part of growing up and learning the skills for conversation. My guess is the child is actually the oldest in the group and doesn't want to play with the younger kids, so they are gravitating to the adults.

Now, if the child is interrupting the conversation, I would politely say, "please remember to speak when the other person finishes, so we aren't talking over each other!" this actually helps them learn, not just dismisses the fact that they want to talk to you.

I say "Larlo, I didn't come over to see you, I came to speak with your mom. It's time for you to go do something else."

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Anonymous wrote:Only on DCUM, could a post about an OP, prefering to have time with just her adult friends become attacking OP for having anxiety, unresolved childhood traumas, and being intimdated by intelectually superior children.

To be fair though, OP does sound lonely, anxious, and in need of therapy. If she gets anything out of this, it's that she should be speaking to an adult. One that can help her figure out her issues.

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Anonymous wrote:Only on DCUM, could a post about an OP, prefering to have time with just her adult friends become attacking OP for having anxiety, unresolved childhood traumas, and being intimdated by intelectually superior children.

To be fair though, OP does sound lonely, anxious, and in need of therapy. If she gets anything out of this, it's that she should be speaking to an adult. One that can help her figure out her issues.

Thank you for proving pp's point.

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Anonymous wrote:Only on DCUM, could a post about an OP, prefering to have time with just her adult friends become attacking OP for having anxiety, unresolved childhood traumas, and being intimdated by intelectually superior children.

To be fair though, OP does sound lonely, anxious, and in need of therapy. If she gets anything out of this, it's that she should be speaking to an adult. One that can help her figure out her issues.

Lol Read the post above yours agin.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here and I admit I have had an overall general struggle with the children of this family and yes- maybe it's because I don't know how to set some gentle boundaries without seeming rude. They are always pushing my boundaries and are very outspoken.

As an example, last year, when I had all of her kids over - the older child kept roaming around all over the house into bedrooms, attics, opening closet doors. I guess exploring a new house, and very curious, but I was like ummm... can you please stay downstairs and out of the bedrooms? "Why can't I go in there?" "I'd just like you to stay downstairs." "Why" etc...

And another one of the children has often been extremely rude to me - things like mocking me, or after serving dinner, saying things like "this tastes awful, why did you make this?" To the extent that I was pretty appalled because I've never had another child speak to me like that before (apart from our own kids lol). And I just tell them point blank - "That was extremely rude." And I actually think the youngest is adorable and hilarious, but always wants to be the center of the conversation, and maybe the toughest to manage without offending because I realize they are still just learning.

Charming , unusually smart children.

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Anonymous wrote:As an adult what wouldn I possibly have to talk about with another person's child. I'm not for children being seen but not heard but they need to relate their peers. That's a social skill too and many parents arent teaching it.

Are you dumb? You can't say "Great Larlo, awesome fact about dinosaurs!" or "What's your favorite Pokemon character?". It doesn't have to be an hour long conversation, you can steer Larlo to go back to playing in a minute. Being able to relate to all sorts of people, including kids, is a social skill too and it's too bad your parents neglected to teach you it.

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Anonymous wrote:As an adult what wouldn I possibly have to talk about with another person's child. I'm not for children being seen but not heard but they need to relate their peers. That's a social skill too and many parents arent teaching it.

Are you dumb? You can't say "Great Larlo, awesome fact about dinosaurs!" or "What's your favorite Pokemon character?". It doesn't have to be an hour long conversation, you can steer Larlo to go back to playing in a minute. Being able to relate to all sorts of people, including kids, is a social skill too and it's too bad your parents neglected to teach you it.

I'm a PP. I can relate to/ have a conversation with anyone. That doesn't mean I want or have to talk to everyone. I don't care what kids are interested in. They have parents to talk to about that.

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Anonymous wrote:As an adult what wouldn I possibly have to talk about with another person's child. I'm not for children being seen but not heard but they need to relate their peers. That's a social skill too and many parents arent teaching it.

Are you dumb? You can't say "Great Larlo, awesome fact about dinosaurs!" or "What's your favorite Pokemon character?". It doesn't have to be an hour long conversation, you can steer Larlo to go back to playing in a minute. Being able to relate to all sorts of people, including kids, is a social skill too and it's too bad your parents neglected to teach you it.

I'm a PP. I can relate to/ have a conversation with anyone. That doesn't mean I want or have to talk to everyone. I don't care what kids are interested in. They have parents to talk to about that.

Oh, you're just a bitch, got it!

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Anonymous wrote:As an adult what wouldn I possibly have to talk about with another person's child. I'm not for children being seen but not heard but they need to relate their peers. That's a social skill too and many parents arent teaching it.

Are you dumb? You can't say "Great Larlo, awesome fact about dinosaurs!" or "What's your favorite Pokemon character?". It doesn't have to be an hour long conversation, you can steer Larlo to go back to playing in a minute. Being able to relate to all sorts of people, including kids, is a social skill too and it's too bad your parents neglected to teach you it.

I'm a PP. I can relate to/ have a conversation with anyone. That doesn't mean I want or have to talk to everyone. I don't care what kids are interested in. They have parents to talk to about that.

Oh, you're just a bitch, got it!

I doubt she is. Parents and possibly grandparents are the only ones who care what their kids have to say. I say this as a parent of a wonderful child.

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Anonymous wrote:As an adult what wouldn I possibly have to talk about with another person's child. I'm not for children being seen but not heard but they need to relate their peers. That's a social skill too and many parents arent teaching it.

Are you dumb? You can't say "Great Larlo, awesome fact about dinosaurs!" or "What's your favorite Pokemon character?". It doesn't have to be an hour long conversation, you can steer Larlo to go back to playing in a minute. Being able to relate to all sorts of people, including kids, is a social skill too and it's too bad your parents neglected to teach you it.

I'm a PP. I can relate to/ have a conversation with anyone. That doesn't mean I want or have to talk to everyone. I don't care what kids are interested in. They have parents to talk to about that.

Oh, you're just a bitch, got it!

I doubt she is. Parents and possibly grandparents are the only ones who care what their kids have to say. I say this as a parent of a wonderful child.

NP. I definitely think she is. Nice people aren't mean to kids! They're just not

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Anonymous wrote:As an adult what wouldn I possibly have to talk about with another person's child. I'm not for children being seen but not heard but they need to relate their peers. That's a social skill too and many parents arent teaching it.

Are you dumb? You can't say "Great Larlo, awesome fact about dinosaurs!" or "What's your favorite Pokemon character?". It doesn't have to be an hour long conversation, you can steer Larlo to go back to playing in a minute. Being able to relate to all sorts of people, including kids, is a social skill too and it's too bad your parents neglected to teach you it.

I'm a PP. I can relate to/ have a conversation with anyone. That doesn't mean I want or have to talk to everyone. I don't care what kids are interested in. They have parents to talk to about that.

Oh, you're just a bitch, got it!

I doubt she is. Parents and possibly grandparents are the only ones who care what their kids have to say. I say this as a parent of a wonderful child.

NP. I definitely think she is. Nice people aren't mean to kids! They're just not

Nothing she said is “being mean to kids.”

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Anonymous wrote:As an adult what wouldn I possibly have to talk about with another person's child. I'm not for children being seen but not heard but they need to relate their peers. That's a social skill too and many parents arent teaching it.

Are you dumb? You can't say "Great Larlo, awesome fact about dinosaurs!" or "What's your favorite Pokemon character?". It doesn't have to be an hour long conversation, you can steer Larlo to go back to playing in a minute. Being able to relate to all sorts of people, including kids, is a social skill too and it's too bad your parents neglected to teach you it.

I'm a PP. I can relate to/ have a conversation with anyone. That doesn't mean I want or have to talk to everyone. I don't care what kids are interested in. They have parents to talk to about that.

Oh, you're just a bitch, got it!

I doubt she is. Parents and possibly grandparents are the only ones who care what their kids have to say. I say this as a parent of a wonderful child.

You don't have to care. I don't care about 99% of the chitchat I have with adults or kids. It's about being nice and polite to everyone, smile, engage for a few minutes, and move on.

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Anonymous wrote:As an adult what wouldn I possibly have to talk about with another person's child. I'm not for children being seen but not heard but they need to relate their peers. That's a social skill too and many parents arent teaching it.

Are you dumb? You can't say "Great Larlo, awesome fact about dinosaurs!" or "What's your favorite Pokemon character?". It doesn't have to be an hour long conversation, you can steer Larlo to go back to playing in a minute. Being able to relate to all sorts of people, including kids, is a social skill too and it's too bad your parents neglected to teach you it.

NP. Putting aside your rude post, I have to question your own experience with kids. No one can drag out a story or provide a long-winded response like a kid trying to get attention from adults.