Catholic mom wants us to essentially say grace as part of our Jewish kid’s education ...

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Anonymous wrote:I get the impression you are very insular and afraid of any custom that is not part of Judaism. Do you respect other customs and ways? I know you expect the world to understand yours and be respectful. Does that door only swing one way? Is it your way and no other way, ever?

In a perfect bubble, no Jewish child would ever eat with people who do not keep kosher or are not Jewish. Is that the ideal way to prepare the next generation to live in this part of America?

OP here. Wow. Just ... wow.

Do you want to say Jewish prayers in your home (if you’re not Jewish)? If you don’t, then I guess you’re insular and disrespectful too. How about Hindu customs? Muslim customs?

Raising my child Jewish doesn’t mean I don’t respect other religions.

Not the PP you are responding to, but I think it's a real benefit for your kids to have a catholic grandmother, so they can experience some small part of it first hand, through their own family. If we teach our children tolerance, and to not be threatened by the religious practices of others, here's your opportunity.

OP here. Of course, but that doesn’t mean we need to be saying grace every day when she’s not there. That’s her request for us.

Dp-I suggested upthread how to deal and find a middle ground, but you seem bent on having just your way. I suspect your father must have squashed your mother in a similar way as you. You are intolerant. Just accept it that you’re that way, and that you and your mom are stubborn, then move on.

Intolerant? Not at all.

What’s the middle way you suggested? I’m honestly curious. I don’t know what post was yours.

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I cannot believe this thread is this long. WHAT DO YOU WANT, OP?!?! You've been given every conceivable option. You're just being stubborn. I feel sorry for your mother. Doesn't Judaism embrace tolerance, understanding, and compassion?

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe this thread is this long. WHAT DO YOU WANT, OP?!?! You've been given every conceivable option. You're just being stubborn. I feel sorry for your mother. Doesn't Judaism embrace tolerance, understanding, and compassion?

How am I not showing it?

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe this thread is this long. WHAT DO YOU WANT, OP?!?! You've been given every conceivable option. You're just being stubborn. I feel sorry for your mother. Doesn't Judaism embrace tolerance, understanding, and compassion?

You do realize these are OP’s children right? I listen to the opinions of my parents and in laws. I respect their advice and if they suggested something I’d think about it an maybe post about it to get people’s ideas. But in the end, it’s my husband and my decision. I don’t need to find common ground or compromise unless I think that’s right for my kids. OP should feel free to do the same.

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe this thread is this long. WHAT DO YOU WANT, OP?!?! You've been given every conceivable option. You're just being stubborn. I feel sorry for your mother. Doesn't Judaism embrace tolerance, understanding, and compassion?

How am I not showing it?

Just stop, OP. This thread has run its course.

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe this thread is this long. WHAT DO YOU WANT, OP?!?! You've been given every conceivable option. You're just being stubborn. I feel sorry for your mother. Doesn't Judaism embrace tolerance, understanding, and compassion?

You do realize these are OP’s children right? I listen to the opinions of my parents and in laws. I respect their advice and if they suggested something I’d think about it an maybe post about it to get people’s ideas. But in the end, it’s my husband and my decision. I don’t need to find common ground or compromise unless I think that’s right for my kids. OP should feel free to do the same.

Thank you.

I have a feeling some of these posters feel threatened by someone not wanting to incorporate Christian practices in their home, given the anti-Catholic comments that have been said to me.

I wonder what the reaction would have been if I had been Catholic and the request was that I have my kid say Jewish prayers everyday, even in the absence of a Jewish grandparent.

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe this thread is this long. WHAT DO YOU WANT, OP?!?! You've been given every conceivable option. You're just being stubborn. I feel sorry for your mother. Doesn't Judaism embrace tolerance, understanding, and compassion?

You do realize these are OP’s children right? I listen to the opinions of my parents and in laws. I respect their advice and if they suggested something I’d think about it an maybe post about it to get people’s ideas. But in the end, it’s my husband and my decision. I don’t need to find common ground or compromise unless I think that’s right for my kids. OP should feel free to do the same.

Thank you.

I have a feeling some of these posters feel threatened by someone not wanting to incorporate Christian practices in their home, given the anti-Catholic comments that have been said to me.

I wonder what the reaction would have been if I had been Catholic and the request was that I have my kid say Jewish prayers everyday, even in the absence of a Jewish grandparent.

If we needed any further proof that you’re not here for advice, but only to vent/troll, you’ve now provided it.

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe this thread is this long. WHAT DO YOU WANT, OP?!?! You've been given every conceivable option. You're just being stubborn. I feel sorry for your mother. Doesn't Judaism embrace tolerance, understanding, and compassion?

You do realize these are OP’s children right? I listen to the opinions of my parents and in laws. I respect their advice and if they suggested something I’d think about it an maybe post about it to get people’s ideas. But in the end, it’s my husband and my decision. I don’t need to find common ground or compromise unless I think that’s right for my kids. OP should feel free to do the same.

Thank you.

I have a feeling some of these posters feel threatened by someone not wanting to incorporate Christian practices in their home, given the anti-Catholic comments that have been said to me.

I wonder what the reaction would have been if I had been Catholic and the request was that I have my kid say Jewish prayers everyday, even in the absence of a Jewish grandparent.

If we needed any further proof that you’re not here for advice, but only to vent/troll, you’ve now provided it.

Ok.

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I’m flabbergasted at all of these people suggesting OP is intolerant or needs to find a middle ground. Also puzzled why OP can’t just tell her mom thanks for your opinion and carry on as she likes in her own household with her own kids.

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OP has an issue with her mother. The one who converted and raised her Jewish. Why is OP calling her Catholic?

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Anonymous wrote:OP has an issue with her mother. The one who converted and raised her Jewish. Why is OP calling her Catholic?

? My mom didn’t convert. I was raised as a Reform Jew.

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Anonymous wrote:OP has an issue with her mother. The one who converted and raised her Jewish. Why is OP calling her Catholic?

? My mom didn’t convert. I was raised as a Reform Jew.

Be grateful that your mother was so tolerant then. You know what? Many devout Christians have a big problem with their children being raised not to accept Jesus as the Son of God and their Savior. Yet your mother allowed it. Seems to me that she made an awfully big sacrifice from her point of view. You’re an ingrate for not seeing that. You obviously think very little of your mother. It’s all about you.

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Anonymous wrote:OP has an issue with her mother. The one who converted and raised her Jewish. Why is OP calling her Catholic?

? My mom didn’t convert. I was raised as a Reform Jew.

Be grateful that your mother was so tolerant then. You know what? Many devout Christians have a big problem with their children being raised not to accept Jesus as the Son of God and their Savior. Yet your mother allowed it. Seems to me that she made an awfully big sacrifice from her point of view. You’re an ingrate for not seeing that. You obviously think very little of your mother. It’s all about you.

I’m an ingrate for not wanting to say Christian grace in my home when my mother isn’t around?

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it's good for your kids to feel comfortable with saying grace. They'll encounter it a lot in other settings.

I am 40. I have only encountered someone saying grace before meals a few times in my life. Never seen it in a professional setting or in my personal life. I doubt the kid needs to worry about seeing someone who says grace.

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Anonymous wrote:OP has an issue with her mother. The one who converted and raised her Jewish. Why is OP calling her Catholic?

? My mom didn’t convert. I was raised as a Reform Jew.

Be grateful that your mother was so tolerant then. You know what? Many devout Christians have a big problem with their children being raised not to accept Jesus as the Son of God and their Savior. Yet your mother allowed it. Seems to me that she made an awfully big sacrifice from her point of view. You’re an ingrate for not seeing that. You obviously think very little of your mother. It’s all about you.

I’m an ingrate for not wanting to say Christian grace in my home when my mother isn’t around?

JUST DON'T DO IT THEN! You have to be a troll. You just have to be.