Found nude pics on DHs phone

[Anonymous]

Op here. DH said he can’t take this anymore and will now stay with his parents tonight.

He has the balls to be mad at me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH here. ladies.

men will send other men (their freinds) pics of women. sometimes men will save pics on their phone of these women. because Damn. some women are very appealing to look at.

It doesn't mean that we don't find our wives attractive or desirable. Its just a a different woman to look at.

It's like going to a restaurant. Just because we like to look at the desert menu doesn't mean we will ever order food from it.

Woman here. This is true. My husband’a friend does this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. ladies.

men will send other men (their freinds) pics of women. sometimes men will save pics on their phone of these women. because Damn. some women are very appealing to look at.

It doesn't mean that we don't find our wives attractive or desirable. Its just a a different woman to look at.

It's like going to a restaurant. Just because we like to look at the desert menu doesn't mean we will ever order food from it.

Do your friends ever say “Don’t send me that. It will cause problems with my wife.”?

Different man here, never in my life have I heard a man say this. If someone said this to me I would assume he was being sarcastic, unless he told me his wife has his password so please send it to me in my burner email.

Op, just confront him. You will be able to tell by his reaction. Worst case scenario it's his boss and perhaps you can nip this in the bud before it becomes physical.

Agree with others, it's the potential cheating that's the issue, not him looking at naked women

OMG if it is his boss they are already having sex.
How many men out there send nude photos of women to their friends? How old are you? Can't you find your own naked women? Even 12 year olds know how to find naked pics on the web.

A middle aged blond is somebody this guy knows. I'm a middle aged blond and while I'm hot and in great shape for my age, I can't compete with a 22 year old in shape. I just can't. So, unless he knows her and wants her and is probably doing her, it probably isn't a picture somebody sent him.

Speak for yourself: I am 42. I can compete with a 22-year-old any day of the week. Today someone at work said they thought I was late 20s. Two kids, no work done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one here who finds all these recommendations for extensive investigations or snooping to be exhausting? Who wants to live this way?

Either divorce him if the marriage sucks or accept that he like any other man may or may not have cheated. Let him know you saw what you saw, and you won't accept infidelity so if he is dumb enough to continue, the marriage will be over. If he loves you and wants to stay married, he will break off whatever he has done.

Life's too short to spend it investigating your spouse.

+1 Divorce or accept this is who he is. Anything else is a waste of time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH said he can’t take this anymore and will now stay with his parents tonight.

He has the balls to be mad at me!

I don't think a person who just had some random porn photos saved on his phone would react like that. I know (from this board) that some women are super uptight about porn but still, how big a deal would it be? But there's no way he would "accidentally" download them and I don't think if they were just porn he would be lying so hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do think it is his boss, the photo just seemed so familiar. They both work for a liberal think-tank in DC, and they do travel together and work late. DH has been upset lately due to all the Trump $#it in the news, and he knows my lobbying job is to enforce some of the Admin's environmental policies - and that has caused some stress in our relationship.

I think I can help you. I know all the blond big-bosomed women at Brookings, Carnegie, CFR, etc.
What guy am I looking for? Tall, 40s, 50s, regional coverage, Congress coverage, etc?

Meanwhile, save the last six months of cell phone records, get into his email accounts and filed emails ASAP, take his secretary out to lunch ASAP, save all credit card and cash withdrawals the last six months, check for burner phones going FW, talk to your tax accountant and review all bank accounts and trading accounts, call his GP for latest STD test results (spousal consent usually given), etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH said he can’t take this anymore and will now stay with his parents tonight.

He has the balls to be mad at me!

Narcisist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH is outraged I thought it was his boss. He says that is gross and disgusting. He says he may have accidentally downloaded amateur porno photos.

Can this make sense?

Oh no, you told him this too?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do think it is his boss, the photo just seemed so familiar. They both work for a liberal think-tank in DC, and they do travel together and work late. DH has been upset lately due to all the Trump $#it in the news, and he knows my lobbying job is to enforce some of the Admin's environmental policies - and that has caused some stress in our relationship.

I think I can help you. I know all the blond big-bosomed women at Brookings, Carnegie, CFR, etc.
What guy am I looking for? Tall, 40s, 50s, regional coverage, Congress coverage, etc?

Meanwhile, save the last six months of cell phone records, get into his email accounts and filed emails ASAP, take his secretary out to lunch ASAP, save all credit card and cash withdrawals the last six months, check for burner phones going FW, talk to your tax accountant and review all bank accounts and trading accounts, call his GP for latest STD test results (spousal consent usually given), etc.

The one lying and sleeping at his parents house, that one!

[Anonymous]

This is going underground fast if it’s for real but... it’s probably a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH said he can’t take this anymore and will now stay with his parents tonight.

He has the balls to be mad at me!

Do you have the balls to divorce him?
Otherwise this is a pointless pursuit of advice on your part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH said he can’t take this anymore and will now stay with his parents tonight.

He has the balls to be mad at me!

Have you done any investigative work?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep watch on him. Do nothing until you have more evidence. If you find more info, hire a detective to follow him.

If you do this and I’m your husband and you find nothing, you’ve ended our relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do I do?

Divorce him

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DH here. ladies.

men will send other men (their freinds) pics of women. sometimes men will save pics on their phone of these women. because Damn. some women are very appealing to look at.

It doesn't mean that we don't find our wives attractive or desirable. Its just a a different woman to look at.

It's like going to a restaurant. Just because we like to look at the desert menu doesn't mean we will ever order food from it.

Do your friends ever say “Don’t send me that. It will cause problems with my wife.”?

Different man here, never in my life have I heard a man say this. If someone said this to me I would assume he was being sarcastic, unless he told me his wife has his password so please send it to me in my burner email.

Op, just confront him. You will be able to tell by his reaction. Worst case scenario it's his boss and perhaps you can nip this in the bud before it becomes physical.

Agree with others, it's the potential cheating that's the issue, not him looking at naked women

OMG if it is his boss they are already having sex.
How many men out there send nude photos of women to their friends? How old are you? Can't you find your own naked women? Even 12 year olds know how to find naked pics on the web.

A middle aged blond is somebody this guy knows. I'm a middle aged blond and while I'm hot and in great shape for my age, I can't compete with a 22 year old in shape. I just can't. So, unless he knows her and wants her and is probably doing her, it probably isn't a picture somebody sent him.

Speak for yourself: I am 42. I can compete with a 22-year-old any day of the week. Today someone at work said they thought I was late 20s. Two kids, no work done.

Ahhh...no you can’t compete with a 22-year old, but tell yourself whatever you need to.