My husband always lets us down

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can someone write a hypothetical post from DHs side for this one?

Title: My wife constantly nags me

I've been coaching soccer since college and it's something I absolutely love doing. I was doing it before I ever met my wife, and she has always known how important it is to me. I have to coach on Saturdays, which I appreciate takes up 2 hours of a family day, but I leave the house at 6 am and am home by 8 am, so it isn't a huge drain on our day. Last weekend as I was coming home from soccer, my parents, who live outside the country, called me. My father is going through some stuff that I don't really share with my wife because she always complains about my family, so I ended up finishing the conversation in the garage when I got home so that I wouldn't bother her. Apparently that was the wrong decision. As soon as I walked in, my wife yelled at me that the big breakfast she had made was now cold and stomped off. I had explicitly told her I was eating before soccer since I can't coach on an empty stomach, so not to make anything for me for breakfast, but she ignored me and then yelled at me for missing it.

And it goes on and on...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone write a hypothetical post from DHs side for this one?

Title: My wife constantly nags me

I've been coaching soccer since college and it's something I absolutely love doing. I was doing it before I ever met my wife, and she has always known how important it is to me. I have to coach on Saturdays, which I appreciate takes up 2 hours of a family day, but I leave the house at 6 am and am home by 8 am, so it isn't a huge drain on our day. Last weekend as I was coming home from soccer, my parents, who live outside the country, called me. My father is going through some stuff that I don't really share with my wife because she always complains about my family, so I ended up finishing the conversation in the garage when I got home so that I wouldn't bother her. Apparently that was the wrong decision. As soon as I walked in, my wife yelled at me that the big breakfast she had made was now cold and stomped off. I had explicitly told her I was eating before soccer since I can't coach on an empty stomach, so not to make anything for me for breakfast, but she ignored me and then yelled at me for missing it.

And it goes on and on...

Do you not see how manipulative and insane YOU are? Context is everything, and when a spouse leaves a pregnant, also-working spouse to do all the childcare, that is not right nor fair. To make your unloved MRA fantasy true, you have this father coaching Saturday soccer beginning at 6 am.

Sticky your post. If you ever find yourself wondering why women think you’re a joke, read and reread your post.

[Anonymous]

^ not OP btw. This thread is classic DCUM.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone write a hypothetical post from DHs side for this one?

Title: My wife constantly nags me

I've been coaching soccer since college and it's something I absolutely love doing. I was doing it before I ever met my wife, and she has always known how important it is to me. I have to coach on Saturdays, which I appreciate takes up 2 hours of a family day, but I leave the house at 6 am and am home by 8 am, so it isn't a huge drain on our day. Last weekend as I was coming home from soccer, my parents, who live outside the country, called me. My father is going through some stuff that I don't really share with my wife because she always complains about my family, so I ended up finishing the conversation in the garage when I got home so that I wouldn't bother her. Apparently that was the wrong decision. As soon as I walked in, my wife yelled at me that the big breakfast she had made was now cold and stomped off. I had explicitly told her I was eating before soccer since I can't coach on an empty stomach, so not to make anything for me for breakfast, but she ignored me and then yelled at me for missing it.

And it goes on and on...

Do you not see how manipulative and insane YOU are? Context is everything, and when a spouse leaves a pregnant, also-working spouse to do all the childcare, that is not right nor fair. To make your unloved MRA fantasy true, you have this father coaching Saturday soccer beginning at 6 am.

Sticky your post. If you ever find yourself wondering why women think you’re a joke, read and reread your post.

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I don't understand why you wouldn't go watch Dad teach soccer. That would be fun!



It's too early. Ds is still sleeping when he leaves.
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Anonymous wrote:PP. I can’t believe all these responses! What is the deal with all your unreliable husbands, and why should OP just be content to go do things with her son by herself? My husband knows weekend mornings are family time. When my daughter goes down for a nap, that’s when my husband gets his time to do whatever he wants for the entire afternoon! Can OP’s husband not call his parents and go see his friend’s house during nap? Her husband sounds terrible! OP’s only problem seems to be that she posts on dcum about this instead of confronting her husband.

I don't think anyone thinks her feelings about her husband are unjustified or that she should be content to do things by herself. What people are saying is that the reality is that her husband is this way so she has to deal with her reality, not what she wishes he were like and would do.

No one thinks the husband is behaving well, people just don't think OP should be held back by that bad behavior.

OP here. It's easy to give this advice but his behavior does hold me back. It's like telling someone not to feel bad after a break up.

Stop. No one is telling you how to feel. No one is saying that this isn’t sh!tty behavior by your husband. But to continue to sit there and shoot down every response to do something is on you. You’ve been advised to leave for the day, but you like watching your son play and have tried that before and don’t want him watching tv. You’ve got every excuse for not advocating for yourself. At some point you have to decide not to be a helpless victim here. Otherwise, stop complaining. You’re either part of the problem or part of the solution.

OP here. I have not shot down every response. I have confronted DH about this many times. I am not helpless and I am free to choose what I want to do with my day. I would rather stay at home. You sound a bit mean pp.

Then what do you want, OP? You actually have shot down every single response that has told you what to do. PP isn't mean, you're dense.

Gosh, OP sounds so annoying. I wouldn’t want to hang out with her either.

I hope OP is at least hot. I say this and I am a mom of 3.

[Anonymous]

Girl, PP, don’t take your wall-hitting fat-assed attitude out on the OP. I’m also a mom and this thread is unreal. OP stopped feeling powerless and took herself to a hotel.’ What do some of you want, besides the chance to pick at her? Jesus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone write a hypothetical post from DHs side for this one?

Title: My wife constantly nags me

I've been coaching soccer since college and it's something I absolutely love doing. I was doing it before I ever met my wife, and she has always known how important it is to me. I have to coach on Saturdays, which I appreciate takes up 2 hours of a family day, but I leave the house at 6 am and am home by 8 am, so it isn't a huge drain on our day. Last weekend as I was coming home from soccer, my parents, who live outside the country, called me. My father is going through some stuff that I don't really share with my wife because she always complains about my family, so I ended up finishing the conversation in the garage when I got home so that I wouldn't bother her. Apparently that was the wrong decision. As soon as I walked in, my wife yelled at me that the big breakfast she had made was now cold and stomped off. I had explicitly told her I was eating before soccer since I can't coach on an empty stomach, so not to make anything for me for breakfast, but she ignored me and then yelled at me for missing it.

And it goes on and on...

Do you not see how manipulative and insane YOU are? Context is everything, and when a spouse leaves a pregnant, also-working spouse to do all the childcare, that is not right nor fair. To make your unloved MRA fantasy true, you have this father coaching Saturday soccer beginning at 6 am.

Sticky your post. If you ever find yourself wondering why women think you’re a joke, read and reread your post.

OP said he leaves before their kid wakes up.

Oh, and I'm a woman, by the way. And a happily married one at that. With kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone write a hypothetical post from DHs side for this one?

Title: My wife constantly nags me

I've been coaching soccer since college and it's something I absolutely love doing. I was doing it before I ever met my wife, and she has always known how important it is to me. I have to coach on Saturdays, which I appreciate takes up 2 hours of a family day, but I leave the house at 6 am and am home by 8 am, so it isn't a huge drain on our day. Last weekend as I was coming home from soccer, my parents, who live outside the country, called me. My father is going through some stuff that I don't really share with my wife because she always complains about my family, so I ended up finishing the conversation in the garage when I got home so that I wouldn't bother her. Apparently that was the wrong decision. As soon as I walked in, my wife yelled at me that the big breakfast she had made was now cold and stomped off. I had explicitly told her I was eating before soccer since I can't coach on an empty stomach, so not to make anything for me for breakfast, but she ignored me and then yelled at me for missing it.

And it goes on and on...

Do you not see how manipulative and insane YOU are? Context is everything, and when a spouse leaves a pregnant, also-working spouse to do all the childcare, that is not right nor fair. To make your unloved MRA fantasy true, you have this father coaching Saturday soccer beginning at 6 am.

Sticky your post. If you ever find yourself wondering why women think you’re a joke, read and reread your post.

OP said he leaves before their kid wakes up.

Oh, and I'm a woman, by the way. And a happily married one at that. With kids.

OP here. Do you know of any elementary soccer practices that start at 6 am? His practice starts at 9 am. Our son sleeps until 9:30-10 am. My husband started teaching soccer 6 months ago so you're wrong!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone write a hypothetical post from DHs side for this one?

Title: My wife constantly nags me

I've been coaching soccer since college and it's something I absolutely love doing. I was doing it before I ever met my wife, and she has always known how important it is to me. I have to coach on Saturdays, which I appreciate takes up 2 hours of a family day, but I leave the house at 6 am and am home by 8 am, so it isn't a huge drain on our day. Last weekend as I was coming home from soccer, my parents, who live outside the country, called me. My father is going through some stuff that I don't really share with my wife because she always complains about my family, so I ended up finishing the conversation in the garage when I got home so that I wouldn't bother her. Apparently that was the wrong decision. As soon as I walked in, my wife yelled at me that the big breakfast she had made was now cold and stomped off. I had explicitly told her I was eating before soccer since I can't coach on an empty stomach, so not to make anything for me for breakfast, but she ignored me and then yelled at me for missing it.

And it goes on and on...

Do you not see how manipulative and insane YOU are? Context is everything, and when a spouse leaves a pregnant, also-working spouse to do all the childcare, that is not right nor fair. To make your unloved MRA fantasy true, you have this father coaching Saturday soccer beginning at 6 am.

Sticky your post. If you ever find yourself wondering why women think you’re a joke, read and reread your post.

OP said he leaves before their kid wakes up.

Oh, and I'm a woman, by the way. And a happily married one at that. With kids.

P.s. you obviously don't know my husband. He would never tell me not to cook breakfast. He's constantly eating or talking about where we will go to eat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone write a hypothetical post from DHs side for this one?

Title: My wife constantly nags me

I've been coaching soccer since college and it's something I absolutely love doing. I was doing it before I ever met my wife, and she has always known how important it is to me. I have to coach on Saturdays, which I appreciate takes up 2 hours of a family day, but I leave the house at 6 am and am home by 8 am, so it isn't a huge drain on our day. Last weekend as I was coming home from soccer, my parents, who live outside the country, called me. My father is going through some stuff that I don't really share with my wife because she always complains about my family, so I ended up finishing the conversation in the garage when I got home so that I wouldn't bother her. Apparently that was the wrong decision. As soon as I walked in, my wife yelled at me that the big breakfast she had made was now cold and stomped off. I had explicitly told her I was eating before soccer since I can't coach on an empty stomach, so not to make anything for me for breakfast, but she ignored me and then yelled at me for missing it.

And it goes on and on...

Do you not see how manipulative and insane YOU are? Context is everything, and when a spouse leaves a pregnant, also-working spouse to do all the childcare, that is not right nor fair. To make your unloved MRA fantasy true, you have this father coaching Saturday soccer beginning at 6 am.

Sticky your post. If you ever find yourself wondering why women think you’re a joke, read and reread your post.

OP said he leaves before their kid wakes up.

Oh, and I'm a woman, by the way. And a happily married one at that. With kids.

OP here. Do you know of any elementary soccer practices that start at 6 am? His practice starts at 9 am. Our son sleeps until 9:30-10 am. My husband started teaching soccer 6 months ago so you're wrong!

So wake him at 8:30 and go to soccer. And he needs to go to sleep earlier at night if he’s sleeping that late. You must not be American, Op.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone write a hypothetical post from DHs side for this one?

Title: My wife constantly nags me

I've been coaching soccer since college and it's something I absolutely love doing. I was doing it before I ever met my wife, and she has always known how important it is to me. I have to coach on Saturdays, which I appreciate takes up 2 hours of a family day, but I leave the house at 6 am and am home by 8 am, so it isn't a huge drain on our day. Last weekend as I was coming home from soccer, my parents, who live outside the country, called me. My father is going through some stuff that I don't really share with my wife because she always complains about my family, so I ended up finishing the conversation in the garage when I got home so that I wouldn't bother her. Apparently that was the wrong decision. As soon as I walked in, my wife yelled at me that the big breakfast she had made was now cold and stomped off. I had explicitly told her I was eating before soccer since I can't coach on an empty stomach, so not to make anything for me for breakfast, but she ignored me and then yelled at me for missing it.

And it goes on and on...

Do you not see how manipulative and insane YOU are? Context is everything, and when a spouse leaves a pregnant, also-working spouse to do all the childcare, that is not right nor fair. To make your unloved MRA fantasy true, you have this father coaching Saturday soccer beginning at 6 am.

Sticky your post. If you ever find yourself wondering why women think you’re a joke, read and reread your post.

OP said he leaves before their kid wakes up.

Oh, and I'm a woman, by the way. And a happily married one at that. With kids.

OP here. Do you know of any elementary soccer practices that start at 6 am? His practice starts at 9 am. Our son sleeps until 9:30-10 am. My husband started teaching soccer 6 months ago so you're wrong!

So wake him at 8:30 and go to soccer. And he needs to go to sleep earlier at night if he’s sleeping that late. You must not be American, Op.

So the American way is the only way pp? Coaching soccer with a toddler is not something my DH can handle. It's funny how you think you know the answers to everything.

[Anonymous]

OP here with an update. My husband is going out of town for a week and tonight he tells me he joined ANOTHER soccer league. He has practice tonight for "1 hour". He had the nerve to ask me to make a meal that takes 2 hours. At this point I numb to everything he does. It doesn't hurt anymore.

[Anonymous]

Can you not say, "no"?

[Anonymous]

Hurt?

Op, you've got martyr problems

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update. My husband is going out of town for a week and tonight he tells me he joined ANOTHER soccer league. He has practice tonight for "1 hour". He had the nerve to ask me to make a meal that takes 2 hours. At this point I numb to everything he does. It doesn't hurt anymore.

Cook some extra for his AP. And tell them to enjoy their trip.