My husband always lets us down

[Anonymous]

This morning he had to teach soccer for 2 hours. Our child is not old enough to participate. We planned on going to the zoo or a museum after. I cooked a big breakfast while he was away. He comes back late and sits in his car talking to his parents for another 30 minutes. He then tells me his friends want him to view a house they just bought. He says it will take "15" minutes and he's going to drop us off at the mall so ds can play there. It's so frustrating when he does this because we have a child now and it's a jerk thing to do. I can't waste energy explaining this anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This morning he had to teach soccer for 2 hours. Our child is not old enough to participate. We planned on going to the zoo or a museum after. I cooked a big breakfast while he was away. He comes back late and sits in his car talking to his parents for another 30 minutes. He then tells me his friends want him to view a house they just bought. He says it will take "15" minutes and he's going to drop us off at the mall so ds can play there. It's so frustrating when he does this because we have a child now and it's a jerk thing to do. I can't waste energy explaining this anymore.

Op here. Haha I mean I don't want to waste time explaining why this is rude to DH. I have a million times. He either doesn't give a f or is clueless.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why you wouldn't go watch Dad teach soccer. That would be fun!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you wouldn't go watch Dad teach soccer. That would be fun!

It's too early. Ds is still sleeping when he leaves.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you didn’t really have plans “zoo or museum” why didn’t you go to his parents? Sounds like you just wanted him to do what you wanted when you wanted.

[Anonymous]

OP, it seems you set up these little "tests" for your husband ( the title of your post ... such a downer... ) Why not CHOOSE to enjoy life? Yes, maybe you'll have to do more things his way. Usually there is a bit of a power struggle, both people wanting their way, in a marriage. But it sounds like DH is engaged and social and you could be participating. Choose happiness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This morning he had to teach soccer for 2 hours. Our child is not old enough to participate. We planned on going to the zoo or a museum after. I cooked a big breakfast while he was away. He comes back late and sits in his car talking to his parents for another 30 minutes. He then tells me his friends want him to view a house they just bought. He says it will take "15" minutes and he's going to drop us off at the mall so ds can play there. It's so frustrating when he does this because we have a child now and it's a jerk thing to do. I can't waste energy explaining this anymore.

Op here. Haha I mean I don't want to waste time explaining why this is rude to DH. I have a million times. He either doesn't give a f or is clueless.

Why is this rude?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This morning he had to teach soccer for 2 hours. Our child is not old enough to participate. We planned on going to the zoo or a museum after. I cooked a big breakfast while he was away. He comes back late and sits in his car talking to his parents for another 30 minutes. He then tells me his friends want him to view a house they just bought. He says it will take "15" minutes and he's going to drop us off at the mall so ds can play there. It's so frustrating when he does this because we have a child now and it's a jerk thing to do. I can't waste energy explaining this anymore.

Op here. Haha I mean I don't want to waste time explaining why this is rude to DH. I have a million times. He either doesn't give a f or is clueless.

Why is this rude?

Because we already made plans. My son has a nap schedule and pushing back the plans makes it impossible to go to the zoo. My husband says it will take 15 minutes but it's not true. He never keeps his word. It will be a minimum of an hour. He was talking to his parents on the phone in the car. Sorry I didn't make that clear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you didn’t really have plans “zoo or museum” why didn’t you go to his parents? Sounds like you just wanted him to do what you wanted when you wanted.

Yes we absolutely did. We do not live close to the zoo and DH has basketball tomorrow. Saturday was supposed to be our family day. Dh does this all the time. Most of the time I just take ds out alone but it sucks always doing stuff alone on the weekends. I am getting sick of him doing this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it seems you set up these little "tests" for your husband ( the title of your post ... such a downer... ) Why not CHOOSE to enjoy life? Yes, maybe you'll have to do more things his way. Usually there is a bit of a power struggle, both people wanting their way, in a marriage. But it sounds like DH is engaged and social and you could be participating. Choose happiness.

Because it's disrespectful to both me and our son. This happens all the time.

[Anonymous]

Get divorced now. With your attitude you two are never going to work out n

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you are both crunched for time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you are both crunched for time.

No. He's just disrespectful. It will be 1 or 1:30 pm before he finishes things with his friends. That's exactly when ds should be taking a nap. He plans things as if he's single but he's not anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get divorced now. With your attitude you two are never going to work out n

My attitude? The fact that I want DH to respect my time and our plans. He could have called me to say there was a change in plans but that's not how he does things. Instead he announces everything. He even annouced what I will do while he's veiwing his friends house. I will go to the mall with our son!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This morning he had to teach soccer for 2 hours. Our child is not old enough to participate. We planned on going to the zoo or a museum after. I cooked a big breakfast while he was away. He comes back late and sits in his car talking to his parents for another 30 minutes. He then tells me his friends want him to view a house they just bought. He says it will take "15" minutes and he's going to drop us off at the mall so ds can play there. It's so frustrating when he does this because we have a child now and it's a jerk thing to do. I can't waste energy explaining this anymore.

Sounds like an affair. Teaching soccer for two hours, another 30 minutes on the phone in the car “with his parents”, needs to drop you off so he can go see a friends new house? Really??