asked visiting SIL to take Lyft from airport and caused much drama...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a cultural difference. I would never tell a visiting family member to take a cab or uber. Most minority cultures are like that. Still not you fault, your husband should have known better and explained it to you when you made the suggestion. You and the baby should not even have been involved. I'm on a mixed culture marriage. The same thing happens when it comes to houseguest, taking care of families etc. I just expect more out of adults.

Midwestern white here.

No one where I am from would ever do what OP and "grown ass" would do either.

I think it is a DC thing.

This is a very selfish, self centered, entitled area and has been for many years, at least the past 10 years (before the orange guy)

They have uber, metro and taxis.

Family picks up family at the airport.
Probably because you don’t have lyft/uber or many other transportation options there (Marc, metro, shuttle), etc)

Who are you to come up with rules for ALL FAMILIES? Maybe your family does. Clearly not all think it’s a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Never move people and never drive people to the airport!

Geez I miss Jack Diamond - where is he now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never move people and never drive people to the airport!

Geez I miss Jack Diamond - where is he now?

I think a lot of it has to do with the idea of success- that many feel self important and that they and their time are too valuable to be spent doing things for others. That is would look like a weakness or laziness or that they weren't as important if they had time to help someone out or do a favor. People like to brag about how much they work, how packed their days are, how they have no time for anything but success oriented activities. They also feel like working hard and not getting any help is somehow a good character trait. Even in this case Op looked down on her husband for wanting to pick his sister up. She sees him showing kindness as a character flaw.

[Anonymous]

In my opinion, it's rude to invite someone over and not meet them on arrival. If you don't have time for them, don't invite them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a cultural difference. I would never tell a visiting family member to take a cab or uber. Most minority cultures are like that. Still not you fault, your husband should have known better and explained it to you when you made the suggestion. You and the baby should not even have been involved. I'm on a mixed culture marriage. The same thing happens when it comes to houseguest, taking care of families etc. I just expect more out of adults.

Midwestern white here.

No one where I am from would ever do what OP and "grown ass" would do either.

I think it is a DC thing.

This is a very selfish, self centered, entitled area and has been for many years, at least the past 10 years (before the orange guy)

I'm also a white midwesterner who has lived in DC for the last 15 years. When I'm in the midwest, my family are happy for me to take a car from O'Hare to their place in the suburbs. They COULD come get me and drop me off, but we all know that the 1/2 hour I spend in the car with them is only half their trip. Why would I want to inconvenience my family member in Chicago traffic if there is another option? When my family come visit me here, they make a point of (a) flying into the airport that is most convenient for us (so DCA or Dulles because we live on the western side of DC - not BWI which takes at least an hour to get to) and (b) taking Lyft to/from the airport. My mom comes here from the west coast on redeyes pretty regularly. She flies into Dulles, takes a Lyft to our house, and by the time she arrives, we have a nice breakfast ready for her after she's freshened up from the flight. That we rely on Lyft to provide ground transportation rather than driving 45 minutes there + 45-90 minutes back says nothing about our family bonds or courtesy.

If you need your family to suffer through sh*tty DC traffic for hours to pick you up at the airport in order to know that they care about you, it sounds like your family has some issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a cultural difference. I would never tell a visiting family member to take a cab or uber. Most minority cultures are like that. Still not you fault, your husband should have known better and explained it to you when you made the suggestion. You and the baby should not even have been involved. I'm on a mixed culture marriage. The same thing happens when it comes to houseguest, taking care of families etc. I just expect more out of adults.

Midwestern white here.

No one where I am from would ever do what OP and "grown ass" would do either.

I think it is a DC thing.

This is a very selfish, self centered, entitled area and has been for many years, at least the past 10 years (before the orange guy)

Probably because you don’t have lyft/uber or many other transportation options there (Marc, metro, shuttle), etc)

Why is this a slam on typical Americans? Typical Americans include white, Hispanic, AA? Chat about relatives and transportation gets the same response from any of them. NO ONE where DCA is the closest airport especially living in Arlington near DCA is going to drive round trip to get some cheap relative who booked to land in BWI which = Baltimore.

One friend in DC told BWI flyers to take Amtrak from the airport then metro. Some relative expected pick up at Union station. Get on a train in Manhattan but can't get from Union Station other than in my car? If it's cheaper for some relative to get out of the train in Baltimore are you supposed to drive there also? Next DCUM will have people drive from Rockville to Philly if some relative got a super cheap deal on a flight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a cultural difference. I would never tell a visiting family member to take a cab or uber. Most minority cultures are like that. Still not you fault, your husband should have known better and explained it to you when you made the suggestion. You and the baby should not even have been involved. I'm on a mixed culture marriage. The same thing happens when it comes to houseguest, taking care of families etc. I just expect more out of adults.

Midwestern white here.

No one where I am from would ever do what OP and "grown ass" would do either.

I think it is a DC thing.

This is a very selfish, self centered, entitled area and has been for many years, at least the past 10 years (before the orange guy)

Probably because you don’t have lyft/uber or many other transportation options there (Marc, metro, shuttle), etc)

Such a classic DC f'ker response... Midwest is not Tanzania.

- DP

Midwest doesn't have the same traffic issues or high COL (where you normally have two working spouses).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my opinion, it's rude to invite someone over and not meet them on arrival. If you don't have time for them, don't invite them.

They haven’t arrived if they are at the airport. They arrive when they are at the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a cultural difference. I would never tell a visiting family member to take a cab or uber. Most minority cultures are like that. Still not you fault, your husband should have known better and explained it to you when you made the suggestion. You and the baby should not even have been involved. I'm on a mixed culture marriage. The same thing happens when it comes to houseguest, taking care of families etc. I just expect more out of adults.

Midwestern white here.

No one where I am from would ever do what OP and "grown ass" would do either.

I think it is a DC thing.

This is a very selfish, self centered, entitled area and has been for many years, at least the past 10 years (before the orange guy)

Probably because you don’t have lyft/uber or many other transportation options there (Marc, metro, shuttle), etc)

Such a classic DC f'ker response... Midwest is not Tanzania.

- DP

+100. The average DC resident is ignorant of anything outside their bubble. We had Uber and Lyft in Jackson, Mississippi for heaven's sake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a cultural difference. I would never tell a visiting family member to take a cab or uber. Most minority cultures are like that. Still not you fault, your husband should have known better and explained it to you when you made the suggestion. You and the baby should not even have been involved. I'm on a mixed culture marriage. The same thing happens when it comes to houseguest, taking care of families etc. I just expect more out of adults.

Midwestern white here.

No one where I am from would ever do what OP and "grown ass" would do either.

I think it is a DC thing.

This is a very selfish, self centered, entitled area and has been for many years, at least the past 10 years (before the orange guy)

I'm also a white midwesterner who has lived in DC for the last 15 years. When I'm in the midwest, my family are happy for me to take a car from O'Hare to their place in the suburbs. They COULD come get me and drop me off, but we all know that the 1/2 hour I spend in the car with them is only half their trip. Why would I want to inconvenience my family member in Chicago traffic if there is another option? When my family come visit me here, they make a point of (a) flying into the airport that is most convenient for us (so DCA or Dulles because we live on the western side of DC - not BWI which takes at least an hour to get to) and (b) taking Lyft to/from the airport. My mom comes here from the west coast on redeyes pretty regularly. She flies into Dulles, takes a Lyft to our house, and by the time she arrives, we have a nice breakfast ready for her after she's freshened up from the flight. That we rely on Lyft to provide ground transportation rather than driving 45 minutes there + 45-90 minutes back says nothing about our family bonds or courtesy.

If you need your family to suffer through sh*tty DC traffic for hours to pick you up at the airport in order to know that they care about you, it sounds like your family has some issues.

I'm a white and from Indiana. When we're at the Indianapolis airport, we do pick up/drop offs because it's easy to get in/out of the airport, they've got a great 'cell phone' waiting lot and traffic in Indianapolis is nothing compared to here. When people (including me) are flying into IAD/DCA/BWI, it's Uber or metro. Even my relatives still living on a farm have no problem with it. Of course, we value practicality and know that an airport pick up/drop off is not a reflection of the love and esteem our family has for us.

[Anonymous]

I don't get it. I travel internationally for work ALL THE TIME and I never had (or asked, or wanted) my DH to drop me off or pick me up. There's only a handful of times where it could be actually possible because with three young kids, there is always pick up, drop off, activities or any other reason why his time is better spent with them than at the airport. I take Uber and don't think about it another second.

Family or friends flying into BWI at 6 bloody am? Take an Uber! It's downright rude to expect pick up at this time at this location.

I drive to pick up visiting family from overseas who don't speak English, aren't used to this environment, and whose visit is a genuine EVENT. But for others, it's just silly and dramatic to expect. And I'm an immigrant from a minority culture, as is my DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never move people and never drive people to the airport!

Geez I miss Jack Diamond - where is he now?

I think a lot of it has to do with the idea of success- that many feel self important and that they and their time are too valuable to be spent doing things for others. That is would look like a weakness or laziness or that they weren't as important if they had time to help someone out or do a favor. People like to brag about how much they work, how packed their days are, how they have no time for anything but success oriented activities. They also feel like working hard and not getting any help is somehow a good character trait. Even in this case Op looked down on her husband for wanting to pick his sister up. She sees him showing kindness as a character flaw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a cultural difference. I would never tell a visiting family member to take a cab or uber. Most minority cultures are like that. Still not you fault, your husband should have known better and explained it to you when you made the suggestion. You and the baby should not even have been involved. I'm on a mixed culture marriage. The same thing happens when it comes to houseguest, taking care of families etc. I just expect more out of adults.

Midwestern white here.

No one where I am from would ever do what OP and "grown ass" would do either.

I think it is a DC thing.

This is a very selfish, self centered, entitled area and has been for many years, at least the past 10 years (before the orange guy)

They have uber, metro and taxis.

Family picks up family at the airport.
Probably because you don’t have lyft/uber or many other transportation options there (Marc, metro, shuttle), etc)

Who are you to come up with rules for ALL FAMILIES? Maybe your family does. Clearly not all think it’s a big deal.

+1 I don't get people who thinks that there are universal rules for how families should behave. I wonder if they just don't know very many people...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a cultural difference. I would never tell a visiting family member to take a cab or uber. Most minority cultures are like that. Still not you fault, your husband should have known better and explained it to you when you made the suggestion. You and the baby should not even have been involved. I'm on a mixed culture marriage. The same thing happens when it comes to houseguest, taking care of families etc. I just expect more out of adults.

Midwestern white here.

No one where I am from would ever do what OP and "grown ass" would do either.

I think it is a DC thing.

This is a very selfish, self centered, entitled area and has been for many years, at least the past 10 years (before the orange guy)

I'm also a white midwesterner who has lived in DC for the last 15 years. When I'm in the midwest, my family are happy for me to take a car from O'Hare to their place in the suburbs. They COULD come get me and drop me off, but we all know that the 1/2 hour I spend in the car with them is only half their trip. Why would I want to inconvenience my family member in Chicago traffic if there is another option? When my family come visit me here, they make a point of (a) flying into the airport that is most convenient for us (so DCA or Dulles because we live on the western side of DC - not BWI which takes at least an hour to get to) and (b) taking Lyft to/from the airport. My mom comes here from the west coast on redeyes pretty regularly. She flies into Dulles, takes a Lyft to our house, and by the time she arrives, we have a nice breakfast ready for her after she's freshened up from the flight. That we rely on Lyft to provide ground transportation rather than driving 45 minutes there + 45-90 minutes back says nothing about our family bonds or courtesy.

If you need your family to suffer through sh*tty DC traffic for hours to pick you up at the airport in order to know that they care about you, it sounds like your family has some issues.

I'm a white and from Indiana. When we're at the Indianapolis airport, we do pick up/drop offs because it's easy to get in/out of the airport, they've got a great 'cell phone' waiting lot and traffic in Indianapolis is nothing compared to here. When people (including me) are flying into IAD/DCA/BWI, it's Uber or metro. Even my relatives still living on a farm have no problem with it. Of course, we value practicality and know that an airport pick up/drop off is not a reflection of the love and esteem our family has for us.

Fist bump from a fellow native Hoosier. We do what is pratical given the situation.

[Anonymous]

I'm a white and from Indiana. When we're at the Indianapolis airport, we do pick up/drop offs because it's easy to get in/out of the airport, they've got a great 'cell phone' waiting lot and traffic in Indianapolis is nothing compared to here. When people (including me) are flying into IAD/DCA/BWI, it's Uber or metro. Even my relatives still living on a farm have no problem with it. Of course, we value practicality and know that an airport pick up/drop off is not a reflection of the love and esteem our family has for us.


Fist bump from a fellow native Hoosier. We do what is pratical given the situation.

Another fist bump from a native Hoosier! Totally agree with the bolded sentence!