asked visiting SIL to take Lyft from airport and caused much drama...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never ask a guest to take a cab or Uber/Lyft from the airport. How rude.

bless your heart

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Have not read the whole thread but I would feel so incredibly bad if I made a family member wake up to pick me up in person at 6 am. Cannot imagine being that entitled!

You're missing the point that many family members would feel so incredibly bad if they didn't go pick up their visiting relatives from the airport, etc, and they insist on doing it.

Not all of us base our everyday decisions on guilt. It’s impractical for an able-bodied adult to except hosts to drive two hours to pick them up at 6am in the morning.

You sound so white American. That’s why people hate american/American culture. So impersonal and business like.

That does not sound at all like "white American culture".

It sounds like dcum millennial troll culture, which is not necessarily any particular color or race.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems you made the suggestion without realizing the angst she’d cause. If your DH knew your suggestion was going to make drama, he should have just stepped in and announced that no, he’d be happy to go pick up Princess early in the morning. If he didn’t know she’d react that way, he now says, “You still seem upset after your visit. We didn’t know suggesting Lyft was going to cause you anxiety and I’m sorry we suggested it.” You ignore the whole thing and count your blessings that she’s less likely to come back! If she does, you let DH manage all logistics and tell him that you defer to him since he knows her personality best. Wipe hands and enjoy your baby!

And the bolded shows the disconnect here.

You and other selfish dcum types see it a "blessing" if family does not come see you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have not read the whole thread but I would feel so incredibly bad if I made a family member wake up to pick me up in person at 6 am. Cannot imagine being that entitled!

You're missing the point that many family members would feel so incredibly bad if they didn't go pick up their visiting relatives from the airport, etc, and they insist on doing it.

Not all of us base our everyday decisions on guilt. It’s impractical for an able-bodied adult to except hosts to drive two hours to pick them up at 6am in the morning.

You sound so white American. That’s why people hate american/American culture. So impersonal and business like.

That does not sound at all like "white American culture".

It sounds like dcum millennial troll culture, which is not necessarily any particular color or race.

It's def white-Am culture thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a cultural difference. I would never tell a visiting family member to take a cab or uber. Most minority cultures are like that. Still not you fault, your husband should have known better and explained it to you when you made the suggestion. You and the baby should not even have been involved. I'm on a mixed culture marriage. The same thing happens when it comes to houseguest, taking care of families etc. I just expect more out of adults.

Midwestern white here.

No one where I am from would ever do what OP and "grown ass" would do either.

I think it is a DC thing.

This is a very selfish, self centered, entitled area and has been for many years, at least the past 10 years (before the orange guy)

Probably because you don’t have lyft/uber or many other transportation options there (Marc, metro, shuttle), etc)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems you made the suggestion without realizing the angst she’d cause. If your DH knew your suggestion was going to make drama, he should have just stepped in and announced that no, he’d be happy to go pick up Princess early in the morning. If he didn’t know she’d react that way, he now says, “You still seem upset after your visit. We didn’t know suggesting Lyft was going to cause you anxiety and I’m sorry we suggested it.” You ignore the whole thing and count your blessings that she’s less likely to come back! If she does, you let DH manage all logistics and tell him that you defer to him since he knows her personality best. Wipe hands and enjoy your baby!

And the bolded shows the disconnect here.

You and other selfish dcum types see it a "blessing" if family does not come see you.

No, just spoiled princess types.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a cultural difference. I would never tell a visiting family member to take a cab or uber. Most minority cultures are like that. Still not you fault, your husband should have known better and explained it to you when you made the suggestion. You and the baby should not even have been involved. I'm on a mixed culture marriage. The same thing happens when it comes to houseguest, taking care of families etc. I just expect more out of adults.

Midwestern white here.

No one where I am from would ever do what OP and "grown ass" would do either.

I think it is a DC thing.

This is a very selfish, self centered, entitled area and has been for many years, at least the past 10 years (before the orange guy)

Probably because you don’t have lyft/uber or many other transportation options there (Marc, metro, shuttle), etc)

Such a classic DC f'ker response... Midwest is not Tanzania.

- DP

[Anonymous]

OP, it's fine. I haven't read all the pages but a few thoughts come to mind. Is she from a small town and doesn't travel much? Even so, it's still fine. But it would explain, that for her, her anger = reluctance/anxiety. Did you tell her last minute? Again, fine, emergencies happen and people have to adapt. I would not have let her know last minute but instead would have said is was happening this way at the time she first began talking about coming. Last, did she think it had to be Lyft (or Uber), that that was expected? Some people still prefer taxis and maybe she didn't like the expectation that she had to take Lyft.

[Anonymous]

I am from Europe, family will come to pick us up and drop us off. And here I will do the same when they come, all the time. But, my US FIL from CO made a big deal about how people need to be competent to make their own way from the airport to the house when traveling. ILS have generally gotten a rental car and went on their own. It makes life so much easier here. I think it is a bit of a DC thing, and I happily accepted it bcs traffic is so terrible. Now, granted for OP it wasn't an hour of bad traffic, but they don't get it that if they are arriving to Dulles and I am in Rockville it might take me an hour or more there and two or more hours back in rush hour. National is even worse. BWI is kind of the best for me, but still imagine if OP lives in Reston and her SIL is coming to BWI at such an early hour? But, it is really petty of OP's SIL to pout like a baby and make a big deal about it, who does that? Is there any grace or keeping it to yourself gone from our manners? If I was bit miffed at something like this, I would never say anything about it. This is like those 3 SILs in the other thread, buying make up and making a huge birthday parties and both behaving badly. It is like nobody thought anyone here any manners!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's fine. I haven't read all the pages but a few thoughts come to mind. Is she from a small town and doesn't travel much? Even so, it's still fine. But it would explain, that for her, her anger = reluctance/anxiety. Did you tell her last minute? Again, fine, emergencies happen and people have to adapt. I would not have let her know last minute but instead would have said is was happening this way at the time she first began talking about coming. Last, did she think it had to be Lyft (or Uber), that that was expected? Some people still prefer taxis and maybe she didn't like the expectation that she had to take Lyft.

In which case, she could have hopped into a cab.

[Anonymous]

^ I'm pp. Summary is: just ignore. She'll get over it (or not, but that is her personality) Many people are surprised with details of how things turn out when they travel. They adjust their expectations and learn how things will be, or they don't. And complaining gives them an excuse for not trying again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a cultural difference. I would never tell a visiting family member to take a cab or uber. Most minority cultures are like that. Still not you fault, your husband should have known better and explained it to you when you made the suggestion. You and the baby should not even have been involved. I'm on a mixed culture marriage. The same thing happens when it comes to houseguest, taking care of families etc. I just expect more out of adults.

Midwestern white here.

No one where I am from would ever do what OP and "grown ass" would do either.

I think it is a DC thing.

This is a very selfish, self centered, entitled area and has been for many years, at least the past 10 years (before the orange guy)

They have uber, metro and taxis.

Family picks up family at the airport.
Probably because you don’t have lyft/uber or many other transportation options there (Marc, metro, shuttle), etc)

[Anonymous]

I also think too many immigrants are responding here. It is different when someone is coming from overseas as opposed to someone coming from Atlanta, per say. So, when my SIL texts me if she can crash at my place for a few days for a conference out of the blue, like next week, should I go out of my way to take time off and meet her when she needs the car anyway? She doesn't expect it and I am glad for that. I politely offer and pray she will refuse it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems you made the suggestion without realizing the angst she’d cause. If your DH knew your suggestion was going to make drama, he should have just stepped in and announced that no, he’d be happy to go pick up Princess early in the morning. If he didn’t know she’d react that way, he now says, “You still seem upset after your visit. We didn’t know suggesting Lyft was going to cause you anxiety and I’m sorry we suggested it.” You ignore the whole thing and count your blessings that she’s less likely to come back! If she does, you let DH manage all logistics and tell him that you defer to him since he knows her personality best. Wipe hands and enjoy your baby!

And the bolded shows the disconnect here.

You and other selfish dcum types see it a "blessing" if family does not come see you.

No, just spoiled princess types.

I think that you are simply a troll posting over and over again


People are not this anti family and badly mannered in real life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have not read the whole thread but I would feel so incredibly bad if I made a family member wake up to pick me up in person at 6 am. Cannot imagine being that entitled!

You're missing the point that many family members would feel so incredibly bad if they didn't go pick up their visiting relatives from the airport, etc, and they insist on doing it.

Not all of us base our everyday decisions on guilt. It’s impractical for an able-bodied adult to except hosts to drive two hours to pick them up at 6am in the morning.

You sound so white American. That’s why people hate american/American culture. So impersonal and business like.

That does not sound at all like "white American culture".

It sounds like dcum millennial troll culture, which is not necessarily any particular color or race.

It's def white-Am culture thing.

It is not.

You do know there are a lot more whites beyond DC?