Who should pay for a date?

[Anonymous]

I am male. I always offer to pay. On a first date, we would usually go someplace like a coffee shop -- quick to make sure we were not wasting time. I would pay.

I always offer to pay, but found some women wanted to pay -- they wanted to be on equal footing.

[Anonymous]

It isn't an issue for me. I prefer to pay, always offer to pay and always appreciate if the man pays. Making a to do about who paid is rude so I think both the woman and OP have manner issues. It just isn't how I operate.

[Anonymous]

If you invite, you pay.

[Anonymous]

OP obviously was the date initiator (there is always an invitor and an invitee!) or he would have pointed out that she asked him.

Since he asked, he should have paid. Now you learned your lesson, OP, just get coffee for first dates.

[Anonymous]

If op did not care for the woman, he should offer to split the bill. These things are more like business transactions. The male has limited reasources that should be saved for future dates. Only offer to pay in full if you are interested in moving forwards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't mind paying for my own meal if the date sucked and I have no plans to see a guy ever again. I'm not sure I would go on a second date with a man who made me pay for my own meal though.

I agree with this. The less I like a guy, the more likely I am to pay for myself. If I don't plan to see him again, I'll insist harder on paying my part.

Agree. If he does not insist on paying on the first date, he's just not that into you.

[Anonymous]

BE_Jack wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

BE_Jack wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

BE_Jack wrote:I always pay on the date, even if it didn't go well. Chivalry isn't dead people.

Isn't that like Man 101, lol. Every guy should know this.

You would think, but not always the case. And FTR, single

Hmmm. Over 35?

Mid 40's

You'll make some lucky woman happy some day. Too bad I'm married - I'm your age

[Anonymous]

I think for the initial date, the man should pay regardless if the date didn't go well at all.

It's classy & the right thing to do.

You dropped the ball on this one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So let's say you meet someone online...then you both agree to go out and so you do.
Now, it'e bill time. I'm a male, date didn't go well. I had no connection, was bored didn't like her personality. So the check comes, she said "let's pay for our portion" and kinda does the whole alligator arms thing. I'm like okay...you owe 20 bucks.

She seemed shocked. But she paid, we left and I went up to meet friends because frankly the date sucked.

I get a message the next day about how she was nervous and apologized. I figure sure, nerves take over sometimes, let's try this again. But she mentioned she was a little shocked I actually made her pay for her portion and that guys usually pick up the check. No second date lady. First off, date sucked. Second, pay for your own stuff. Third, self entitlement is a turn-off.

I asked a few friends (male and female) but got mixed responses.

Good for you! I see nothing wrong with what you did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I didn't contradict myself. His paying means to me he is interested and can provide.

Wow, you interpret a man paying for access to your vagina as "providing?" Unreal.

[Anonymous]

The man, assuming he invited. But I wouldn't feel comfortable with a fancy dinner. Maybe coffe or apps and a drink.

[Anonymous]

I'm a man and always pay. It's not an option. If a woman insists I won't argue. But I always instinctively pay. Just how it is. I'm not cheap. I make a good income. A date is waht a hundred bucks or so? Big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a man and always pay. It's not an option. If a woman insists I won't argue. But I always instinctively pay. Just how it is. I'm not cheap. I make a good income. A date is waht a hundred bucks or so? Big deal.

$100 bucks? LOL.

Just give me your ATM number. I'll make it more worth your while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a man and always pay. It's not an option. If a woman insists I won't argue. But I always instinctively pay. Just how it is. I'm not cheap. I make a good income. A date is waht a hundred bucks or so? Big deal.

$100 bucks? LOL.

Just give me your ATM number. I'll make it more worth your while.

Even drinks appetizers and full meal would only be tops $150. Again. Big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I didn't contradict myself. His paying means to me he is interested and can provide.

Wow, you interpret a man paying for access to your vagina as "providing?" Unreal.

Paying for access to her vagina? Um, I think you misread the bill! You're paying for FOOD