Who should pay for a date?

[Anonymous]

So let's say you meet someone online...then you both agree to go out and so you do.
Now, it'e bill time. I'm a male, date didn't go well. I had no connection, was bored didn't like her personality. So the check comes, she said "let's pay for our portion" and kinda does the whole alligator arms thing. I'm like okay...you owe 20 bucks.

She seemed shocked. But she paid, we left and I went up to meet friends because frankly the date sucked.

I get a message the next day about how she was nervous and apologized. I figure sure, nerves take over sometimes, let's try this again. But she mentioned she was a little shocked I actually made her pay for her portion and that guys usually pick up the check. No second date lady. First off, date sucked. Second, pay for your own stuff. Third, self entitlement is a turn-off.

I asked a few friends (male and female) but got mixed responses.

[Anonymous]

Inviter pays.

[Anonymous]

I would just split it down the middle and give the waiter two credit cards. I never felt comfortable letting men pay for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Inviter pays.

PP, kind of heard to say who the inviter was, it was online and both agreed.
I feel she should pay her portion. Especially since the date sucked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Inviter pays.

This. Who ever is the asker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Inviter pays.

PP, kind of heard to say who the inviter was, it was online and both agreed.
I feel she should pay her portion. Especially since the date sucked.

The quality of the date is irrelevant. Who was the person who asked who? Who typed,"So can we meet for dinner next week?" That person pays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Inviter pays.

PP, kind of heard to say who the inviter was, it was online and both agreed.
I feel she should pay her portion. Especially since the date sucked.

not kind of hard - especially if it was online. Who was the first person to suggest getting together?

ps sucky date has nothing to do with it. Inviter pays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So let's say you meet someone online...then you both agree to go out and so you do.
Now, it'e bill time. I'm a male, date didn't go well. I had no connection, was bored didn't like her personality. So the check comes, she said "let's pay for our portion" and kinda does the whole alligator arms thing. I'm like okay...you owe 20 bucks.

She seemed shocked. But she paid, we left and I went up to meet friends because frankly the date sucked.

I get a message the next day about how she was nervous and apologized. I figure sure, nerves take over sometimes, let's try this again. But she mentioned she was a little shocked I actually made her pay for her portion and that guys usually pick up the check. No second date lady. First off, date sucked. Second, pay for your own stuff. Third, self entitlement is a turn-off.

I asked a few friends (male and female) but got mixed responses.

What is this? Can't picture it.

[Anonymous]

OP, you made the right call. Why waste your money on a lousy date? You already wasted your money on what you had eaten/drank. You saved yourself 20 bucks and used it for a more fun time with your friends.

You can't talk about equal rights and expect men to pick up the tab. Plus, with online dates, it's hard to tell who invited who sometimes.

[Anonymous]

I am old fashioned. I think a gentleman that takes a lady to dinner should pay.

[Anonymous]

Online dating... each person should pay, it 's more like an interview not a date
Somebody knows somebody and asks them out... the person who asked should pay...

I don't like that all the financial obligation is on the man. I will offer to pay, offer to pay the tip, offer to buy a drink.

I think women need to step it up in the paying category.

[Anonymous]

Stop saying portion! Use a synonym--share, part, whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So let's say you meet someone online...then you both agree to go out and so you do.
Now, it'e bill time. I'm a male, date didn't go well. I had no connection, was bored didn't like her personality. So the check comes, she said "let's pay for our portion" and kinda does the whole alligator arms thing. I'm like okay...you owe 20 bucks.

She seemed shocked. But she paid, we left and I went up to meet friends because frankly the date sucked.

I get a message the next day about how she was nervous and apologized. I figure sure, nerves take over sometimes, let's try this again. But she mentioned she was a little shocked I actually made her pay for her portion and that guys usually pick up the check. No second date lady. First off, date sucked. Second, pay for your own stuff. Third, self entitlement is a turn-off.

I asked a few friends (male and female) but got mixed responses.

What is this? Can't picture it.

When someone is like, printed inf they're going for their wallet/purse expecting the other person to say ..oh no I'll take care of it. Alligator arms because they have small limbs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am old fashioned. I think a gentleman that takes a lady to dinner should pay.

Gender roles! You misgonist!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Online dating... each person should pay, it 's more like an interview not a date
Somebody knows somebody and asks them out... the person who asked should pay...

I don't like that all the financial obligation is on the man. I will offer to pay, offer to pay the tip, offer to buy a drink.

I think women need to step it up in the paying category.

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