Who should pay for a date?

[Anonymous]

I just saw "Gentlemen Prefer Blondes" on PBS the other night. Am American Classic.

Ladies, if you bring to the table what Marilyn Monroe or Jane Russell brings to the table, yes, you too should fully expect to have the men drooling after you and buying you all kinds of free stuff. Of course, the way Marilyn's rich fiancee was portrayed was as the classic hapless "beta provider male."

Something tells me that the free dinner cadging hos posting the most vociferously that "MAN SHOULD PAY FOR ME!!!" don't bring much of anything to anyone's table.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woman here. If it was a bad date I'd try to I nsist on paying my half. If it was a good date I'd offer, but no one took me up on it. If they had I wouldn't have seen them again romantically.

Because getting someone to buy you stuff is romantic.

Got it.

I know your momma taught you that, too, you're a good learner daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a man and always pay. It's not an option. If a woman insists I won't argue. But I always instinctively pay. Just how it is. I'm not cheap. I make a good income. A date is waht a hundred bucks or so? Big deal.

Your chromosomes presumably are "XY" not "$$". Why should you instinctively pay because of your gender?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't mind paying for my own meal if the date sucked and I have no plans to see a guy ever again. I'm not sure I would go on a second date with a man who made me pay for my own meal though.

I agree with this. The less I like a guy, the more likely I am to pay for myself. If I don't plan to see him again, I'll insist harder on paying my part.

Yup, if I'm insisting on paying, it's because I don't like you. if you're letting me, the feeling is probably mutual.

Sounds like this girl did like you but was offended when she realized you didn't like her back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't mind paying for my own meal if the date sucked and I have no plans to see a guy ever again. I'm not sure I would go on a second date with a man who made me pay for my own meal though.

I agree with this. The less I like a guy, the more likely I am to pay for myself. If I don't plan to see him again, I'll insist harder on paying my part.

Yup, if I'm insisting on paying, it's because I don't like you. if you're letting me, the feeling is probably mutual.

Sounds like this girl did like you but was offended when she realized you didn't like her back.

I think your thinking is a little confused.

When you say "like" the guy, and therefore, you will "let him" pay for you, what you really mean is that you perceive the particular guy as a person you think you can take advantage of longer term than a single date; and therefore, "letting him pay" is your way of "testing" whether he is actually dumb enough to let you do that. If he isn't dumb enough to let you take financial advantage of him on the very first date, then what's the point of continuing? There's always a more willing sucker out there for you to plunder.

[Anonymous]

If the woman likes the guy she will buy him dinner and then have wild sex with him.

If she's unwilling to do that then she doesn't really like him.

Any woman who has the expectation that men she goes out on casual dates with should pay her way are greedy or delusional. If they were all that they wouldn't be available on the dating market anyway, right? They'd be in a relationship.

I guess they just don't see the connection between their transparent avarice and their inability to actually remain in a long term relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the woman likes the guy she will buy him dinner and then have wild sex with him.

If she's unwilling to do that then she doesn't really like him.

Any woman who has the expectation that men she goes out on casual dates with should pay her way are greedy or delusional. If they were all that they wouldn't be available on the dating market anyway, right? They'd be in a relationship.

I guess they just don't see the connection between their transparent avarice and their inability to actually remain in a long term relationship.

And if she REALLY likes you she will shoot up into the sky and spin around 3 times, then rain fairy dust down on you.

Trust me, dudes- I know women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the woman likes the guy she will buy him dinner and then have wild sex with him.

If she's unwilling to do that then she doesn't really like him.

Any woman who has the expectation that men she goes out on casual dates with should pay her way are greedy or delusional. If they were all that they wouldn't be available on the dating market anyway, right? They'd be in a relationship.

I guess they just don't see the connection between their transparent avarice and their inability to actually remain in a long term relationship.

And if she REALLY likes you she will shoot up into the sky and spin around 3 times, then rain fairy dust down on you.

Trust me, dudes- I know women.

Depends on the kind of women you choose to spend your time with. They aren't ALL greedy hos, you know, just because you're one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the woman likes the guy she will buy him dinner and then have wild sex with him.

If she's unwilling to do that then she doesn't really like him.

Any woman who has the expectation that men she goes out on casual dates with should pay her way are greedy or delusional. If they were all that they wouldn't be available on the dating market anyway, right? They'd be in a relationship.

I guess they just don't see the connection between their transparent avarice and their inability to actually remain in a long term relationship.

And if she REALLY likes you she will shoot up into the sky and spin around 3 times, then rain fairy dust down on you.

Trust me, dudes- I know women.

Depends on the kind of women you choose to spend your time with. They aren't ALL greedy hos, you know, just because you're one.

And some of them CAN fly and WILL rain fairy dust on you. If you play your cards right.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous
I think your thinking is a little confused.

When you say "like" the guy, and therefore, you will "let him" pay for you, what you really mean is that you perceive the particular guy as a person you think you can take advantage of longer term than a single date; and therefore, "letting him pay" is your way of "testing" whether he is actually dumb enough to let you do that. If he isn't dumb enough to let you take financial advantage of him on the very first date, then what's the point of continuing? There's always a more willing sucker out there for you to plunder.

Gets it. Of course, these are the same delusional idiots who truly believe a man insisting on paying for the first date is only interested in paying for food, not greasing the wheels to her vagina. Yes, these people are that stupid.

It's hard to see the blue sky when you're head is jammed so far up your ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I think your thinking is a little confused.

When you say "like" the guy, and therefore, you will "let him" pay for you, what you really mean is that you perceive the particular guy as a person you think you can take advantage of longer term than a single date; and therefore, "letting him pay" is your way of "testing" whether he is actually dumb enough to let you do that. If he isn't dumb enough to let you take financial advantage of him on the very first date, then what's the point of continuing? There's always a more willing sucker out there for you to plunder.

Gets it. Of course, these are the same delusional idiots who truly believe a man insisting on paying for the first date is only interested in paying for food, not greasing the wheels to her vagina. Yes, these people are that stupid.

It's hard to see the blue sky when you're head is jammed so far up your ass.

He can THINK he's doing that. Thats just his own delusion though.

It doesnt IMPROVE his chances of getting sex. However, not paying shuts out any and all chances.

But just cause you paid does not grease the wheels to jack shit, except maybe continuing to talk to her while she figures out whether she wants to sleep with you or not

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Something tells me that the free dinner cadging hos posting the most vociferously that "MAN SHOULD PAY FOR ME!!!" don't bring much of anything to anyone's table.

They rarely do. It's the same women who brag about how their ability to extract money from men is some sort of virtue.

[Anonymous]

Not sure what the fuss is about. OP didn't like her anyways and saved a few bucks and went out with friends to have a better time. He wins here really...

[Anonymous]

I'm a woman, married now with kids, but when dating always preferred to split the check. That way I didn't feel obligated to "put out". I wasn't the type to have sex without being in a promising, monogamous relationship. I believe in equality of the sexes. I understand that dating was different back when females didn't really work, and only the male had money to pay, but it's not like that anymore. Women can and should work, and therefore pay their way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am old fashioned. I think a gentleman that takes a lady to dinner should pay.

HAHAHAHA no.