Who should pay for a date?
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Anonymous
| Well my son is only in HS but I tell him to discuss this in advance of the date. It's funny because what people tend to say is that if the male is the inviter, he pays and if the woman is, they split. I think that's a ridiculous standard. I've also taught mine that it's fine to pay when you care about someone and want to do something nice. |
Anonymous
| People that lack manners show their class and lack of up bringing. Like letting the woman go first in the restaurant when being shown to your table. Pulling out her chair, opening the car door. If you don't know about picking up the tab, you shouldn't be dating and need to be in Manners class 101. |
Anonymous
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If the date sucked what does it matter? You didn't want to impress her.
If you are on a date that is going really well I recommend paying because it will set a good tone. If date offers to split go with it. |
Anonymous
| Seriously, lol...you don't ask a woman to split the bill. If you're that cheap you need to stop dating and do some career searching. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
That's passive aggressive beta male shit. You said she offered to pay but didn't mean it. Well don't say what you don't mean. Just tell her to pay her portion and be done with it. I can appreciate she said it was bad date and wanted to give it another shot, but she brought it up again. |
Anonymous
Agreed. Are you bringing your team of lawyers on the date with you? Who cares if you did the "right" thing by someone you don't care for? FWIW, if you do care about her feelings...telling all of your friends how boring she was and how awful of a date she was seems so much worse than asking her for $20 to cover her share of the bill. |
Anonymous
OP here. If I was into her it would have been different. I honestly don't care to see her again. |
Anonymous
What does that have to do with anything? Self-entitled much? |
Anonymous
+1, and I don't like you I would vehemently offer to pay half |
Anonymous
| The guy pays period. Doesn't matter whether you see it going somewhere or not. |
Anonymous
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Usually whoever asked for the first date, pays. When the relationship progresses, people take turns.
But usually it's a good idea to keep first dates modest in terms of money and time investment. Go out for coffee. If you end up not liking her (or him), it's like half an hour and 10 bucks. Easy. |
Anonymous
| I would have told him I'll leave the tip, he's paying the bill. |
Anonymous
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OP
Unless you thing she's really hot and has an awesome engaging personality then move on and jave her pay. You've already wasted time, why waste money? |
Anonymous
| DH always paid for meals, I always paid for activities. |