Hot dads, not so hot moms

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she used to be hot.

I don't think DH and I are mismatched but he is now more attractive than I am. When I was 25, I was pretty cute and had an awesome figure. 15 years, 2 kids and other health problems resulting in surgery have done a real number on my body. I went from being 110 pounds to 130 pounds. I had these perfect boobs when I was 25. 2 kids later, they are ok but my mid section is almost the same as my breasts. I was probably 34-25-30 and now 34-30-30. Definitely do not look hot in a bikini. On the other hand, DH's body is pretty much the same. He was always on the lean side.

An ivy league educated girl with a cute face and nice figure was pretty high in demand when she was in her 20's. Now a 40 yo average looking successful man is high in demand. A 40 yo mom with 2 kids who used to have a great career and great figure may not be as attractive.

Possibly. When I met DW she was 26 and hot. I was 28 and kind of geeky. Who knows why she chose me. Today I'm 48 and still in good shape while she weighs 230 pounds. It happens.

That is terrifying

There are worse things. You could find out that your spouse is a superficial asshole. THAT would be terrifying.

I'd probably choos a superficial asshole than a morbidly obese spouse. Sorry. Taking care of yourself should be part of the marital contract. Letting yourself go to the point where, as a female, you're 230 pounds? There is no excuse for that. You can't possibly be serious and think that it's fair for someone to let themselves go to that point.

It's 230, not 500 lbs. Not really morbidly obese.

Sounds like you'd be a good match for a superficial asshole.

You are actually delusional if you think 230 pounds on a woman is a) healthy or b) remotely attractive. If you entered your relationship at a healthy weight and ballooned to 230, and your husband tells you it's fine, I have a wake up call for you. He's lying.

Maybe if you eat something your reading comprehension would improve. I never said 230 is healthy or attractive. Or that it's an ideal situation for any relationship. But it doesn't mean it's a deal breaker either.

Does this 230 look so terrible? Certainly not thin, but not disgusting either. Unless you have some kind of body image disorder.
http://www.mybodygallery.com/photos-35010-body-shape.htm?StartAt=50

Most women are not 5'10"

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It took years for my model built XH to finally gain a small pouch. It sits atop a lot of muscle, but it's there!

Before I piled on the weight, I'd also had all of the responsibilities of caring for two children and a household piled on me. XH (then my somewhat DH) was at the gym daily. Of course he looked amazing. He didn't have a care in the world!

How'd SHE let it get that far? How'd he keep himself free of all responsibility for that long? That's the question I'd ask. The gym was the first thing DH took from me. Sleep was next. If that's not a recipe for weight gain, I don't know what is.

Also a recipe for weight gain: eating like crap. Which you can't blame on him. Bodies are 70% made in the kitchen, 30% in the gym. Blaming your ex only goes so far.

Yeah because someone running an entire household and raising kids on her own has a whole lot of time to plan out super healthy meals. Until they make quinoa salad as easy to prepare as hamburger helper, people like PP are going to have a hard time easily eating healthy.

Lies. People who eat healthy are laughing at the fallacy that it's impossible to do while having to run a house/raise kids/breathe air.

Well, we can be sure that your mom made it a priority. That is why you grew into such a lovely, empathetic person.

Why can't people believe that eating right and being healthy is for YOU not for anybody else! Put yourself first

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Anonymous wrote:Lady I hate to break it to you, but yes, that is very fat and not healthy or attractive at all. I realize it might seem normal looking to you because this is America and you're surrounded by people even fatter than you. Travel a little bit -- this body type is hugely overweight by medical standards and by most of the worlds' aesthetic standards.

BTW, we could already tell you weigh 200+ lbs, there was no need to specify.

-np, on the border of overweight myself at 5'5" and 145, but at least not in denial about it

She is heavy but certainly not "morbidly obese" like PP said. Get a clue.

And not that it matters but my bmi is just over 28.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she used to be hot.

I don't think DH and I are mismatched but he is now more attractive than I am. When I was 25, I was pretty cute and had an awesome figure. 15 years, 2 kids and other health problems resulting in surgery have done a real number on my body. I went from being 110 pounds to 130 pounds. I had these perfect boobs when I was 25. 2 kids later, they are ok but my mid section is almost the same as my breasts. I was probably 34-25-30 and now 34-30-30. Definitely do not look hot in a bikini. On the other hand, DH's body is pretty much the same. He was always on the lean side.

An ivy league educated girl with a cute face and nice figure was pretty high in demand when she was in her 20's. Now a 40 yo average looking successful man is high in demand. A 40 yo mom with 2 kids who used to have a great career and great figure may not be as attractive.

This is a vast simplification. I know a lot of 40 year average looking guys who are considered less appealing/less attractive husband material and can't find a woman to date them seriously. Most women in their 20s and 30s want men around their age, not significantly older. These guys are not reeling in the girls, they are aware of the fact that they'll be older dads (if at all) and they don't like it. If you're talking a law partner, it's a different story.

On the other hand, I know some smoking hot 40 year old moms who get plenty of attention.

PP here. DH earns a 7 figure income, smart, funny and charismatic. He would do fine in the dating market.

This thread motivated me to look better. I'm 130 pounds, not 200 pounds. I am going to try and drop 5 pounds by May and another 5 by the summer. I can do it!

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Anonymous wrote:I was out at the pool and saw this attractive dad, relatively good shape, with his kids. There was this very unattractive woman, overweight, frumpy, not well put together with him. I honestly thought it was the babysitter or something, but it was his wife! I couldn't take my eyes off of them, what happened, how could she let it go so far? I feel in general men tend to go "up" in looks, any men who was not as hot as the wife then have a total reversal?

I was out at the pool and the woman sitting next to me kept staring at a nearby family. She couldn't stop staring, it was so rude! After five minutes of this she turned to me and said, "what an odd couple!" with a sort of disgust in her voice. I couldn't figure out what she was talking about. I think something might have been a little off with her, she just kept staring at them. After a minute or so I went to the bathrooms and just picked a different seat when I came out.

Why are people so weird?

Should have asked her if she didn't have anything better to do than to judge random people.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she used to be hot.

I don't think DH and I are mismatched but he is now more attractive than I am. When I was 25, I was pretty cute and had an awesome figure. 15 years, 2 kids and other health problems resulting in surgery have done a real number on my body. I went from being 110 pounds to 130 pounds. I had these perfect boobs when I was 25. 2 kids later, they are ok but my mid section is almost the same as my breasts. I was probably 34-25-30 and now 34-30-30. Definitely do not look hot in a bikini. On the other hand, DH's body is pretty much the same. He was always on the lean side.

An ivy league educated girl with a cute face and nice figure was pretty high in demand when she was in her 20's. Now a 40 yo average looking successful man is high in demand. A 40 yo mom with 2 kids who used to have a great career and great figure may not be as attractive.

This is a vast simplification. I know a lot of 40 year average looking guys who are considered less appealing/less attractive husband material and can't find a woman to date them seriously. Most women in their 20s and 30s want men around their age, not significantly older. These guys are not reeling in the girls, they are aware of the fact that they'll be older dads (if at all) and they don't like it. If you're talking a law partner, it's a different story.

On the other hand, I know some smoking hot 40 year old moms who get plenty of attention.

PP here. DH earns a 7 figure income, smart, funny and charismatic. He would do fine in the dating market.

This thread motivated me to look better. I'm 130 pounds, not 200 pounds. I am going to try and drop 5 pounds by May and another 5 by the summer. I can do it!

A teenaged boy just posted this..

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she used to be hot.

I don't think DH and I are mismatched but he is now more attractive than I am. When I was 25, I was pretty cute and had an awesome figure. 15 years, 2 kids and other health problems resulting in surgery have done a real number on my body. I went from being 110 pounds to 130 pounds. I had these perfect boobs when I was 25. 2 kids later, they are ok but my mid section is almost the same as my breasts. I was probably 34-25-30 and now 34-30-30. Definitely do not look hot in a bikini. On the other hand, DH's body is pretty much the same. He was always on the lean side.

An ivy league educated girl with a cute face and nice figure was pretty high in demand when she was in her 20's. Now a 40 yo average looking successful man is high in demand. A 40 yo mom with 2 kids who used to have a great career and great figure may not be as attractive.

This is a vast simplification. I know a lot of 40 year average looking guys who are considered less appealing/less attractive husband material and can't find a woman to date them seriously. Most women in their 20s and 30s want men around their age, not significantly older. These guys are not reeling in the girls, they are aware of the fact that they'll be older dads (if at all) and they don't like it. If you're talking a law partner, it's a different story.

On the other hand, I know some smoking hot 40 year old moms who get plenty of attention.

PP here. DH earns a 7 figure income, smart, funny and charismatic. He would do fine in the dating market.

This thread motivated me to look better. I'm 130 pounds, not 200 pounds. I am going to try and drop 5 pounds by May and another 5 by the summer. I can do it!

A teenaged boy just posted this..

Or a morbidly obese dude in his mother's basement.

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Anonymous wrote:Lady I hate to break it to you, but yes, that is very fat and not healthy or attractive at all. I realize it might seem normal looking to you because this is America and you're surrounded by people even fatter than you. Travel a little bit -- this body type is hugely overweight by medical standards and by most of the worlds' aesthetic standards.

BTW, we could already tell you weigh 200+ lbs, there was no need to specify.

-np, on the border of overweight myself at 5'5" and 145, but at least not in denial about it

NP who weighs just over 200. I guess you should go tell my husband who just had crazy sex with me that he's crazy and I'm ugly and he shouldn't find me attractive. He's lean and athletic too! I know I'm chubby but I have a husband who loves me (and loves to eff me), a loving baby, good friends and a good life. I measure myself by more than my waist size.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she used to be hot.

I don't think DH and I are mismatched but he is now more attractive than I am. When I was 25, I was pretty cute and had an awesome figure. 15 years, 2 kids and other health problems resulting in surgery have done a real number on my body. I went from being 110 pounds to 130 pounds. I had these perfect boobs when I was 25. 2 kids later, they are ok but my mid section is almost the same as my breasts. I was probably 34-25-30 and now 34-30-30. Definitely do not look hot in a bikini. On the other hand, DH's body is pretty much the same. He was always on the lean side.

An ivy league educated girl with a cute face and nice figure was pretty high in demand when she was in her 20's. Now a 40 yo average looking successful man is high in demand. A 40 yo mom with 2 kids who used to have a great career and great figure may not be as attractive.

This is a vast simplification. I know a lot of 40 year average looking guys who are considered less appealing/less attractive husband material and can't find a woman to date them seriously. Most women in their 20s and 30s want men around their age, not significantly older. These guys are not reeling in the girls, they are aware of the fact that they'll be older dads (if at all) and they don't like it. If you're talking a law partner, it's a different story.

On the other hand, I know some smoking hot 40 year old moms who get plenty of attention.

PP here. DH earns a 7 figure income, smart, funny and charismatic. He would do fine in the dating market.

This thread motivated me to look better. I'm 130 pounds, not 200 pounds. I am going to try and drop 5 pounds by May and another 5 by the summer. I can do it!

A teenaged boy just posted this..

No, I'm the pp who said DH was more attractive than me now. I had a great figure in my 20's but not so much now that I'm pushing 40. This thread motivated me to drop 5-10 pounds.

DH does earn 7 figures. That is a fact. I was just responding to the person who said she knows 40 yo men who aren't appealing. I know that DH, with his 7 figure income, would be appealing to many women.

[Anonymous]

Pierce Brosnan seems perfectly happy with his wife.

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Anonymous wrote:Pierce Brosnan seems perfectly happy with his wife.

not on the inside

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Anonymous wrote:I only know one couple mismatched in that direction. the vast majority of mismatched couples, the DH is ugly and the DW is attractive. But who knows what draws people together.

Money

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she used to be hot.

I don't think DH and I are mismatched but he is now more attractive than I am. When I was 25, I was pretty cute and had an awesome figure. 15 years, 2 kids and other health problems resulting in surgery have done a real number on my body. I went from being 110 pounds to 130 pounds. I had these perfect boobs when I was 25. 2 kids later, they are ok but my mid section is almost the same as my breasts. I was probably 34-25-30 and now 34-30-30. Definitely do not look hot in a bikini. On the other hand, DH's body is pretty much the same. He was always on the lean side.

An ivy league educated girl with a cute face and nice figure was pretty high in demand when she was in her 20's. Now a 40 yo average looking successful man is high in demand. A 40 yo mom with 2 kids who used to have a great career and great figure may not be as attractive.

Possibly. When I met DW she was 26 and hot. I was 28 and kind of geeky. Who knows why she chose me. Today I'm 48 and still in good shape while she weighs 230 pounds. It happens.

That is terrifying

There are worse things. You could find out that your spouse is a superficial asshole. THAT would be terrifying.

I'd probably choos a superficial asshole than a morbidly obese spouse. Sorry. Taking care of yourself should be part of the marital contract. Letting yourself go to the point where, as a female, you're 230 pounds? There is no excuse for that. You can't possibly be serious and think that it's fair for someone to let themselves go to that point.

It's 230, not 500 lbs. Not really morbidly obese.

Sounds like you'd be a good match for a superficial asshole.

You are actually delusional if you think 230 pounds on a woman is a) healthy or b) remotely attractive. If you entered your relationship at a healthy weight and ballooned to 230, and your husband tells you it's fine, I have a wake up call for you. He's lying.

If you had read the original pp you'd see it was a DH explaining how hogs wife gained weight not a DW claiming her DH didn't care. And since this is an anonymous forum where hating fat people is very popular I can't see why he'd lie about that.

But clearly you are mortally terrified of being fat so whatever, sorry if your DH is a raging ahole.

-208 here with a DH who loves her very much

I'm the PP who said his DW was now 230 after 20 years of marriage. For the record she was probably 140 or so when we married. She's 5' 8". I'd be lying if I said she looked as physically attractive to me today as she did then, but then who does? Weight or not. I still adore her and we are perfect together. We try to eat right but it's just more difficult for some people to remain slender. Everyone is different.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she used to be hot.

I don't think DH and I are mismatched but he is now more attractive than I am. When I was 25, I was pretty cute and had an awesome figure. 15 years, 2 kids and other health problems resulting in surgery have done a real number on my body. I went from being 110 pounds to 130 pounds. I had these perfect boobs when I was 25. 2 kids later, they are ok but my mid section is almost the same as my breasts. I was probably 34-25-30 and now 34-30-30. Definitely do not look hot in a bikini. On the other hand, DH's body is pretty much the same. He was always on the lean side.

An ivy league educated girl with a cute face and nice figure was pretty high in demand when she was in her 20's. Now a 40 yo average looking successful man is high in demand. A 40 yo mom with 2 kids who used to have a great career and great figure may not be as attractive.

Possibly. When I met DW she was 26 and hot. I was 28 and kind of geeky. Who knows why she chose me. Today I'm 48 and still in good shape while she weighs 230 pounds. It happens.

That is terrifying

There are worse things. You could find out that your spouse is a superficial asshole. THAT would be terrifying.

It doesn't matter if she gained 10 pounds or 100 pounds. Guys are less attracted to their wives after 20 years.

I'd probably choos a superficial asshole than a morbidly obese spouse. Sorry. Taking care of yourself should be part of the marital contract. Letting yourself go to the point where, as a female, you're 230 pounds? There is no excuse for that. You can't possibly be serious and think that it's fair for someone to let themselves go to that point.

It's 230, not 500 lbs. Not really morbidly obese.

Sounds like you'd be a good match for a superficial asshole.

You are actually delusional if you think 230 pounds on a woman is a) healthy or b) remotely attractive. If you entered your relationship at a healthy weight and ballooned to 230, and your husband tells you it's fine, I have a wake up call for you. He's lying.

If you had read the original pp you'd see it was a DH explaining how hogs wife gained weight not a DW claiming her DH didn't care. And since this is an anonymous forum where hating fat people is very popular I can't see why he'd lie about that.

But clearly you are mortally terrified of being fat so whatever, sorry if your DH is a raging ahole.

-208 here with a DH who loves her very much

I'm the PP who said his DW was now 230 after 20 years of marriage. For the record she was probably 140 or so when we married. She's 5' 8". I'd be lying if I said she looked as physically attractive to me today as she did then, but then who does? Weight or not. I still adore her and we are perfect together. We try to eat right but it's just more difficult for some people to remain slender. Everyone is different.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she used to be hot.

I don't think DH and I are mismatched but he is now more attractive than I am. When I was 25, I was pretty cute and had an awesome figure. 15 years, 2 kids and other health problems resulting in surgery have done a real number on my body. I went from being 110 pounds to 130 pounds. I had these perfect boobs when I was 25. 2 kids later, they are ok but my mid section is almost the same as my breasts. I was probably 34-25-30 and now 34-30-30. Definitely do not look hot in a bikini. On the other hand, DH's body is pretty much the same. He was always on the lean side.

An ivy league educated girl with a cute face and nice figure was pretty high in demand when she was in her 20's. Now a 40 yo average looking successful man is high in demand. A 40 yo mom with 2 kids who used to have a great career and great figure may not be as attractive.

Possibly. When I met DW she was 26 and hot. I was 28 and kind of geeky. Who knows why she chose me. Today I'm 48 and still in good shape while she weighs 230 pounds. It happens.

That is terrifying

There are worse things. You could find out that your spouse is a superficial asshole. THAT would be terrifying.

It doesn't matter if she gained 10 pounds or 100 pounds. Guys are less attracted to their wives after 20 years.

I'd probably choos a superficial asshole than a morbidly obese spouse. Sorry. Taking care of yourself should be part of the marital contract. Letting yourself go to the point where, as a female, you're 230 pounds? There is no excuse for that. You can't possibly be serious and think that it's fair for someone to let themselves go to that point.

It's 230, not 500 lbs. Not really morbidly obese.

Sounds like you'd be a good match for a superficial asshole.

You are actually delusional if you think 230 pounds on a woman is a) healthy or b) remotely attractive. If you entered your relationship at a healthy weight and ballooned to 230, and your husband tells you it's fine, I have a wake up call for you. He's lying.

If you had read the original pp you'd see it was a DH explaining how hogs wife gained weight not a DW claiming her DH didn't care. And since this is an anonymous forum where hating fat people is very popular I can't see why he'd lie about that.

But clearly you are mortally terrified of being fat so whatever, sorry if your DH is a raging ahole.

-208 here with a DH who loves her very much

I'm the PP who said his DW was now 230 after 20 years of marriage. For the record she was probably 140 or so when we married. She's 5' 8". I'd be lying if I said she looked as physically attractive to me today as she did then, but then who does? Weight or not. I still adore her and we are perfect together. We try to eat right but it's just more difficult for some people to remain slender. Everyone is different.

It doesn't matter if she gained 10 or 100 pounds. Guys are less attracted to their wives after 20 years.