Hot dads, not so hot moms

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she used to be hot.

I don't think DH and I are mismatched but he is now more attractive than I am. When I was 25, I was pretty cute and had an awesome figure. 15 years, 2 kids and other health problems resulting in surgery have done a real number on my body. I went from being 110 pounds to 130 pounds. I had these perfect boobs when I was 25. 2 kids later, they are ok but my mid section is almost the same as my breasts. I was probably 34-25-30 and now 34-30-30. Definitely do not look hot in a bikini. On the other hand, DH's body is pretty much the same. He was always on the lean side.

An ivy league educated girl with a cute face and nice figure was pretty high in demand when she was in her 20's. Now a 40 yo average looking successful man is high in demand. A 40 yo mom with 2 kids who used to have a great career and great figure may not be as attractive.

Possibly. When I met DW she was 26 and hot. I was 28 and kind of geeky. Who knows why she chose me. Today I'm 48 and still in good shape while she weighs 230 pounds. It happens.

That is terrifying

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn't it possible to look frumpy/not put together when at the pool playing with kids? Or are women supposed to look as attractive as possible all of the time in order not to be judged.

Uh yeah! I only go to the pool after I get a blow out and a fresh Brazilian. My DH takes slo-mo videos of me perfectly coiffed diving gracefully into the pool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she used to be hot.

I don't think DH and I are mismatched but he is now more attractive than I am. When I was 25, I was pretty cute and had an awesome figure. 15 years, 2 kids and other health problems resulting in surgery have done a real number on my body. I went from being 110 pounds to 130 pounds. I had these perfect boobs when I was 25. 2 kids later, they are ok but my mid section is almost the same as my breasts. I was probably 34-25-30 and now 34-30-30. Definitely do not look hot in a bikini. On the other hand, DH's body is pretty much the same. He was always on the lean side.

An ivy league educated girl with a cute face and nice figure was pretty high in demand when she was in her 20's. Now a 40 yo average looking successful man is high in demand. A 40 yo mom with 2 kids who used to have a great career and great figure may not be as attractive.

Possibly. When I met DW she was 26 and hot. I was 28 and kind of geeky. Who knows why she chose me. Today I'm 48 and still in good shape while she weighs 230 pounds. It happens.

That is terrifying

There are worse things. You could find out that your spouse is a superficial asshole. THAT would be terrifying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she used to be hot.

I don't think DH and I are mismatched but he is now more attractive than I am. When I was 25, I was pretty cute and had an awesome figure. 15 years, 2 kids and other health problems resulting in surgery have done a real number on my body. I went from being 110 pounds to 130 pounds. I had these perfect boobs when I was 25. 2 kids later, they are ok but my mid section is almost the same as my breasts. I was probably 34-25-30 and now 34-30-30. Definitely do not look hot in a bikini. On the other hand, DH's body is pretty much the same. He was always on the lean side.

An ivy league educated girl with a cute face and nice figure was pretty high in demand when she was in her 20's. Now a 40 yo average looking successful man is high in demand. A 40 yo mom with 2 kids who used to have a great career and great figure may not be as attractive.

This is a vast simplification. I know a lot of 40 year average looking guys who are considered less appealing/less attractive husband material and can't find a woman to date them seriously. Most women in their 20s and 30s want men around their age, not significantly older. These guys are not reeling in the girls, they are aware of the fact that they'll be older dads (if at all) and they don't like it. If you're talking a law partner, it's a different story.

On the other hand, I know some smoking hot 40 year old moms who get plenty of attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn't it possible to look frumpy/not put together when at the pool playing with kids? Or are women supposed to look as attractive as possible all of the time in order not to be judged.

Uh yeah! I only go to the pool after I get a blow out and a fresh Brazilian. My DH takes slo-mo videos of me perfectly coiffed diving gracefully into the pool.

Lol!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was out at the pool and saw this attractive dad, relatively good shape, with his kids. There was this very unattractive woman, overweight, frumpy, not well put together with him. I honestly thought it was the babysitter or something, but it was his wife! I couldn't take my eyes off of them, what happened, how could she let it go so far? I feel in general men tend to go "up" in looks, any men who was not as hot as the wife then have a total reversal?

I was out at the pool and the woman sitting next to me kept staring at a nearby family. She couldn't stop staring, it was so rude! After five minutes of this she turned to me and said, "what an odd couple!" with a sort of disgust in her voice. I couldn't figure out what she was talking about. I think something might have been a little off with her, she just kept staring at them. After a minute or so I went to the bathrooms and just picked a different seat when I came out.

Why are people so weird?

[Anonymous]

I've seen many couples who seem to not "match" per say.

It happens.

Since she was at the pool that day, perhaps she let herself be au natural there. Plus she had kids to care for too.

Maybe she was much prettier in her youth, and is now working on getting rid of the residual baby fat left.

Or:
She may look much better all dolled up.
Have you ever saw plain-looking women w/zero make-up on, hair not styled & frumpy clothes??
Then after she dolls herself up, she looks completely different!! Make-up can do wonders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she used to be hot.

I don't think DH and I are mismatched but he is now more attractive than I am. When I was 25, I was pretty cute and had an awesome figure. 15 years, 2 kids and other health problems resulting in surgery have done a real number on my body. I went from being 110 pounds to 130 pounds. I had these perfect boobs when I was 25. 2 kids later, they are ok but my mid section is almost the same as my breasts. I was probably 34-25-30 and now 34-30-30. Definitely do not look hot in a bikini. On the other hand, DH's body is pretty much the same. He was always on the lean side.

An ivy league educated girl with a cute face and nice figure was pretty high in demand when she was in her 20's. Now a 40 yo average looking successful man is high in demand. A 40 yo mom with 2 kids who used to have a great career and great figure may not be as attractive.

Possibly. When I met DW she was 26 and hot. I was 28 and kind of geeky. Who knows why she chose me. Today I'm 48 and still in good shape while she weighs 230 pounds. It happens.

That is terrifying

There are worse things. You could find out that your spouse is a superficial asshole. THAT would be terrifying.

I'd probably choos a superficial asshole than a morbidly obese spouse. Sorry. Taking care of yourself should be part of the marital contract. Letting yourself go to the point where, as a female, you're 230 pounds? There is no excuse for that. You can't possibly be serious and think that it's fair for someone to let themselves go to that point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she used to be hot.

I don't think DH and I are mismatched but he is now more attractive than I am. When I was 25, I was pretty cute and had an awesome figure. 15 years, 2 kids and other health problems resulting in surgery have done a real number on my body. I went from being 110 pounds to 130 pounds. I had these perfect boobs when I was 25. 2 kids later, they are ok but my mid section is almost the same as my breasts. I was probably 34-25-30 and now 34-30-30. Definitely do not look hot in a bikini. On the other hand, DH's body is pretty much the same. He was always on the lean side.

An ivy league educated girl with a cute face and nice figure was pretty high in demand when she was in her 20's. Now a 40 yo average looking successful man is high in demand. A 40 yo mom with 2 kids who used to have a great career and great figure may not be as attractive.

Possibly. When I met DW she was 26 and hot. I was 28 and kind of geeky. Who knows why she chose me. Today I'm 48 and still in good shape while she weighs 230 pounds. It happens.

That is terrifying

There are worse things. You could find out that your spouse is a superficial asshole. THAT would be terrifying.

I'd probably choos a superficial asshole than a morbidly obese spouse. Sorry. Taking care of yourself should be part of the marital contract. Letting yourself go to the point where, as a female, you're 230 pounds? There is no excuse for that. You can't possibly be serious and think that it's fair for someone to let themselves go to that point.

It's 230, not 500 lbs. Not really morbidly obese.

Sounds like you'd be a good match for a superficial asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she used to be hot.

I don't think DH and I are mismatched but he is now more attractive than I am. When I was 25, I was pretty cute and had an awesome figure. 15 years, 2 kids and other health problems resulting in surgery have done a real number on my body. I went from being 110 pounds to 130 pounds. I had these perfect boobs when I was 25. 2 kids later, they are ok but my mid section is almost the same as my breasts. I was probably 34-25-30 and now 34-30-30. Definitely do not look hot in a bikini. On the other hand, DH's body is pretty much the same. He was always on the lean side.

An ivy league educated girl with a cute face and nice figure was pretty high in demand when she was in her 20's. Now a 40 yo average looking successful man is high in demand. A 40 yo mom with 2 kids who used to have a great career and great figure may not be as attractive.

Possibly. When I met DW she was 26 and hot. I was 28 and kind of geeky. Who knows why she chose me. Today I'm 48 and still in good shape while she weighs 230 pounds. It happens.

That is terrifying

There are worse things. You could find out that your spouse is a superficial asshole. THAT would be terrifying.

I'd probably choos a superficial asshole than a morbidly obese spouse. Sorry. Taking care of yourself should be part of the marital contract. Letting yourself go to the point where, as a female, you're 230 pounds? There is no excuse for that. You can't possibly be serious and think that it's fair for someone to let themselves go to that point.

It's 230, not 500 lbs. Not really morbidly obese.

Sounds like you'd be a good match for a superficial asshole.

You are actually delusional if you think 230 pounds on a woman is a) healthy or b) remotely attractive. If you entered your relationship at a healthy weight and ballooned to 230, and your husband tells you it's fine, I have a wake up call for you. He's lying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she used to be hot.

I don't think DH and I are mismatched but he is now more attractive than I am. When I was 25, I was pretty cute and had an awesome figure. 15 years, 2 kids and other health problems resulting in surgery have done a real number on my body. I went from being 110 pounds to 130 pounds. I had these perfect boobs when I was 25. 2 kids later, they are ok but my mid section is almost the same as my breasts. I was probably 34-25-30 and now 34-30-30. Definitely do not look hot in a bikini. On the other hand, DH's body is pretty much the same. He was always on the lean side.

An ivy league educated girl with a cute face and nice figure was pretty high in demand when she was in her 20's. Now a 40 yo average looking successful man is high in demand. A 40 yo mom with 2 kids who used to have a great career and great figure may not be as attractive.

Possibly. When I met DW she was 26 and hot. I was 28 and kind of geeky. Who knows why she chose me. Today I'm 48 and still in good shape while she weighs 230 pounds. It happens.

That is terrifying

There are worse things. You could find out that your spouse is a superficial asshole. THAT would be terrifying.

I'd probably choos a superficial asshole than a morbidly obese spouse. Sorry. Taking care of yourself should be part of the marital contract. Letting yourself go to the point where, as a female, you're 230 pounds? There is no excuse for that. You can't possibly be serious and think that it's fair for someone to let themselves go to that point.

It's 230, not 500 lbs. Not really morbidly obese.

Sounds like you'd be a good match for a superficial asshole.

You are actually delusional if you think 230 pounds on a woman is a) healthy or b) remotely attractive. If you entered your relationship at a healthy weight and ballooned to 230, and your husband tells you it's fine, I have a wake up call for you. He's lying.

If you had read the original pp you'd see it was a DH explaining how hogs wife gained weight not a DW claiming her DH didn't care. And since this is an anonymous forum where hating fat people is very popular I can't see why he'd lie about that.

But clearly you are mortally terrified of being fat so whatever, sorry if your DH is a raging ahole.

-208 here with a DH who loves her very much

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she used to be hot.

I don't think DH and I are mismatched but he is now more attractive than I am. When I was 25, I was pretty cute and had an awesome figure. 15 years, 2 kids and other health problems resulting in surgery have done a real number on my body. I went from being 110 pounds to 130 pounds. I had these perfect boobs when I was 25. 2 kids later, they are ok but my mid section is almost the same as my breasts. I was probably 34-25-30 and now 34-30-30. Definitely do not look hot in a bikini. On the other hand, DH's body is pretty much the same. He was always on the lean side.

An ivy league educated girl with a cute face and nice figure was pretty high in demand when she was in her 20's. Now a 40 yo average looking successful man is high in demand. A 40 yo mom with 2 kids who used to have a great career and great figure may not be as attractive.

Possibly. When I met DW she was 26 and hot. I was 28 and kind of geeky. Who knows why she chose me. Today I'm 48 and still in good shape while she weighs 230 pounds. It happens.

That is terrifying

There are worse things. You could find out that your spouse is a superficial asshole. THAT would be terrifying.

I'd probably choos a superficial asshole than a morbidly obese spouse. Sorry. Taking care of yourself should be part of the marital contract. Letting yourself go to the point where, as a female, you're 230 pounds? There is no excuse for that. You can't possibly be serious and think that it's fair for someone to let themselves go to that point.

It's 230, not 500 lbs. Not really morbidly obese.

Sounds like you'd be a good match for a superficial asshole.

You are actually delusional if you think 230 pounds on a woman is a) healthy or b) remotely attractive. If you entered your relationship at a healthy weight and ballooned to 230, and your husband tells you it's fine, I have a wake up call for you. He's lying.

Maybe if you eat something your reading comprehension would improve. I never said 230 is healthy or attractive. Or that it's an ideal situation for any relationship. But it doesn't mean it's a deal breaker either.

Does this 230 look so terrible? Certainly not thin, but not disgusting either. Unless you have some kind of body image disorder.
http://www.mybodygallery.com/photos-35010-body-shape.htm?StartAt=50

[Anonymous]

When we met, I was better looking, a size 4 and really cute. I got 8 hours of sleep every night, exercised almost every day, always had time to get my nails and hair done, etc. 15+ years later, I have had 3 kids, over a year of bedrest for said children, 3 c-sections, and a lot of other things. I am now a size 8, so not overweight, but not the young, fresh thing I was at 25. My husband pretty much looks the same, only with a little gray hair that looks good and a lot more money. Shrug. I do what I can, but I refuse to obsess about it. Luckily, I am pretty sure my husband loves me for more than how I looked at 25. Marriages are hopefully long and no one escapes aging and the eventual physical decline unless they die.

[Anonymous]

Lady I hate to break it to you, but yes, that is very fat and not healthy or attractive at all. I realize it might seem normal looking to you because this is America and you're surrounded by people even fatter than you. Travel a little bit -- this body type is hugely overweight by medical standards and by most of the worlds' aesthetic standards.

BTW, we could already tell you weigh 200+ lbs, there was no need to specify.

-np, on the border of overweight myself at 5'5" and 145, but at least not in denial about it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lady I hate to break it to you, but yes, that is very fat and not healthy or attractive at all. I realize it might seem normal looking to you because this is America and you're surrounded by people even fatter than you. Travel a little bit -- this body type is hugely overweight by medical standards and by most of the worlds' aesthetic standards.

BTW, we could already tell you weigh 200+ lbs, there was no need to specify.

-np, on the border of overweight myself at 5'5" and 145, but at least not in denial about it

Good grief. What is it with nasty people like you? You are the definition of shallow.