Hot dads, not so hot moms

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe he likes bigger women gasp.

+1

I've met more than one buff guy who likes curvy women. Bless them.

Curvy does not equal overweight and unattractive.

Some people find fat attractive. Everyone is different.

True, but curvy and fat are not the same thing.

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It's sweet. He loves her. I wish I could find I man that would love me with all my flaws.

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Anonymous wrote:It's sweet. He loves her. I wish I could find I man that would love me with all my flaws.

It helps if you learn to love them yourself. Cheerful women who are content with themselves are sexy.

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honestly I only see the frumpy wife and the attractive dad thing going on in when they are white couples. If they are other race couples or mixed race couples I don't see this. White girls don't always age well.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she used to be hot.

I don't think DH and I are mismatched but he is now more attractive than I am. When I was 25, I was pretty cute and had an awesome figure. 15 years, 2 kids and other health problems resulting in surgery have done a real number on my body. I went from being 110 pounds to 130 pounds. I had these perfect boobs when I was 25. 2 kids later, they are ok but my mid section is almost the same as my breasts. I was probably 34-25-30 and now 34-30-30. Definitely do not look hot in a bikini. On the other hand, DH's body is pretty much the same. He was always on the lean side.

An ivy league educated girl with a cute face and nice figure was pretty high in demand when she was in her 20's. Now a 40 yo average looking successful man is high in demand. A 40 yo mom with 2 kids who used to have a great career and great figure may not be as attractive.

Possibly. When I met DW she was 26 and hot. I was 28 and kind of geeky. Who knows why she chose me. Today I'm 48 and still in good shape while she weighs 230 pounds. It happens.

That is terrifying

There are worse things. You could find out that your spouse is a superficial asshole. THAT would be terrifying.

It doesn't matter if she gained 10 pounds or 100 pounds. Guys are less attracted to their wives after 20 years.

I'd probably choos a superficial asshole than a morbidly obese spouse. Sorry. Taking care of yourself should be part of the marital contract. Letting yourself go to the point where, as a female, you're 230 pounds? There is no excuse for that. You can't possibly be serious and think that it's fair for someone to let themselves go to that point.

It's 230, not 500 lbs. Not really morbidly obese.

Sounds like you'd be a good match for a superficial asshole.

You are actually delusional if you think 230 pounds on a woman is a) healthy or b) remotely attractive. If you entered your relationship at a healthy weight and ballooned to 230, and your husband tells you it's fine, I have a wake up call for you. He's lying.

If you had read the original pp you'd see it was a DH explaining how hogs wife gained weight not a DW claiming her DH didn't care. And since this is an anonymous forum where hating fat people is very popular I can't see why he'd lie about that.

But clearly you are mortally terrified of being fat so whatever, sorry if your DH is a raging ahole.

-208 here with a DH who loves her very much

I'm the PP who said his DW was now 230 after 20 years of marriage. For the record she was probably 140 or so when we married. She's 5' 8". I'd be lying if I said she looked as physically attractive to me today as she did then, but then who does? Weight or not. I still adore her and we are perfect together. We try to eat right but it's just more difficult for some people to remain slender. Everyone is different.

It doesn't matter if she gained 10 or 100 pounds. Guys are less attracted to their wives after 20 years.

Sadly, this is true for all relationships after so many years. Men are also very visual. I'm a younger thin woman and it's unbelievable how many dads hit on me at school, little league, pool etc. It's all harmless because they'd never leave their wives after so many years, kids, split their money, sell their homes etc. I think they just want attention and yes, the ones with out of shape wives are the worst.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's sweet. He loves her. I wish I could find I man that would love me with all my flaws.

It helps if you learn to love them yourself. Cheerful women who are content with themselves are sexy.

+1

Some women will never be happy, no matter who they are with. Men know this.

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What made the wife look frumpy in the pool? LOL

OP, if you are a straight female, you are not obligated to find other females attractive. Breathe easy.

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Anonymous wrote:honestly I only see the frumpy wife and the attractive dad thing going on in when they are white couples. If they are other race couples or mixed race couples I don't see this. White girls don't always age well.

So everyone ages better than white women? Including all people of color, men and women, as well as white men? Huh??

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Anonymous wrote:honestly I only see the frumpy wife and the attractive dad thing going on in when they are white couples. If they are other race couples or mixed race couples I don't see this. White girls don't always age well.

So everyone ages better than white women? Including all people of color, men and women, as well as white men? Huh??

Generally. Yes.

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I know a few couples where the husband is a lot more attractive than the wife - and started out that way. It's unusual - I think we're more used to either couples being very evenly matched or the wife being more attractive. But in the cases I know, the wives all have seriously kick-ass personalities. You might look at them and think, "meh" but after talking to them for 15 minutes, you 100% get why the husband chose her.

My brother is thin and in very good shape; he's always liked his women on the bigger side, and he married a heavier woman. She's actually thinned down somewhat after having a couple of kids, and looks pretty good.

I think my looks are fairly average, but I've dated some very attractive guys. They seemed to think I looked just fine, and they liked my personality.

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One man's frumpy is another man's sexy. Despite what DCUM seems to think, attractiveness is (*gasp*) subjective.

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Anonymous wrote:honestly I only see the frumpy wife and the attractive dad thing going on in when they are white couples. If they are other race couples or mixed race couples I don't see this. White girls don't always age well.

So everyone ages better than white women? Including all people of color, men and women, as well as white men? Huh??

Generally. Yes.

It's like saying white women are *generally* more attractive

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Anonymous wrote:honestly I only see the frumpy wife and the attractive dad thing going on in when they are white couples. If they are other race couples or mixed race couples I don't see this. White girls don't always age well.

So everyone ages better than white women? Including all people of color, men and women, as well as white men? Huh??

Generally. Yes.

It's like saying white women are *generally* more attractive

You want what you don't have hence blacks wanting white wimmin

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Anonymous wrote:honestly I only see the frumpy wife and the attractive dad thing going on in when they are white couples. If they are other race couples or mixed race couples I don't see this. White girls don't always age well.

So everyone ages better than white women? Including all people of color, men and women, as well as white men? Huh??

Generally. Yes.

It's like saying white women are *generally* more attractive

They're attractive until they're 25 and then *poof * the magic is gone. I don't know what happens.

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Anonymous wrote:What made the wife look frumpy in the pool? LOL

OP, if you are a straight female, you are not obligated to find other females attractive. Breathe easy.

I'm confused why everyone thinks going to the pool immediately means you should look disheveled and unkempt. Big difference between wearing a cute suit and being generally fit and wearing some monstrosity with a skirt and clomping around in men's flip flops and bad sunglasses. nobody says you should have a blowout and gown on at the pool but it's still very obvious who is frumpy and who is not.