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really stupid RSVP question
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Anonymous
She will have to much anxiety to update. It's almost like an RSVP to a stranger! 
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Anonymous
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JUST TEXT HER
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Anonymous
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OR SEND AN RSVP NOTE TO SCHOOL TO GIVE TO THE KIDS PARENT.
geesh! |
Anonymous
Why would I update someone who mocks me for something I can't help? Horrible person. |
Anonymous
OP you can't help the fear, but you can make a phone call. I am an introvert and HATE talking to people on the phone (texting and email as much as humanly possible, even as far as finding doctors where I can schedule appointments online). However if my daughter is invited to a party, and there's an RSVP, regardless of whether I know the parents or not I always suck it up and call. Yes, my palms are sweating and my heart is racing when I make the call, but I do it, then bask in the awesomeness of my achievement lol. OP you got a lot of good info in this thread, especially in the first few pages. As a parent we often need to suck it up and do what we need to do for our children. Period. And yes, you need to drag your DH into therapy with you, your relationship with him is definitely toxic. |
Anonymous
LOL, not expecting YOU to update, silly. You do seem to have a lot of time on your hands, though. Do you work? Or if not, maybe you should fill your time with a hobby instead of interacting with mean nasty people on DCUM. It's clear you're not really looking for any advice, nor an answer to your question. so come on.. tell us your REAL story. We'll be gentle, I promise (well, I will be). What gave you the idea for this scenario? Were you planning it all along, or did you just start with a seed and let it grow and develop as the replies came in? Seriously, it's genius. Take a bow. |
Anonymous
Congratulations on having friends and living in my dream world where everyone is kind, friends are easy to make, and no one moos at you in the parking lot of the grocery store. |
Anonymous
WTF? Who is mooing at you? There are so many issues going on here that you need to list them for your therapist. One you can discard is the RSVP because you will have texted back your regrets already, right? |
Anonymous
Random people mooed at me last week in the parking lot. Just another reason I've isolated myself and have this awful social anxiety. It should help explain why I'm terrified of calling a perfect stranger...people are cruel. |
Anonymous
So are you saying you're obese, got moo'd at as if you are a cow, and it embarrassed you so you're too ashamed to leave the house except for church and therapy and you claim anxiety for what is really embarrassment? If you're not already, you should work on developing a thicker skin with your therapist. People make comments to me, and I shrug them off and go about my day. Why value a stranger's opinion? Why absorb cruelty from a stranger? That's not worth my time. That's how I view it. Think of water rolling off a duck's back. |
Anonymous
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The moo'ing is genius.
Gives the whole thing new legs. Well done. |
Anonymous
| OP you are doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. Your judgement about the social niceties of RSVPing is impaired by your anxiety or Aspergers or whatever is going on, and you can't trust your own thoughts and rationalizations. They are warped. People have told you what the expected behavior is. Do it or don't do it, but at least try to recognize that your perceptions are not trustworthy. Arguing and denying and crying about how miserable you are just feeds the spiral. |
Anonymous
Really? I think she went too far. She was skating the fine trolling line until the mooing comment. She's obviously trying to revitalize the thread, but it was pretty transparent IMO. |
Anonymous
| How did you ever pick what Daycare to send your child too? How do you deal with drop off and pick ups? |
Anonymous
DH does it. In the rare event I do, it's not like I have to talk to anyone. |