really stupid RSVP question

[Anonymous]

Yes, I understand she invited the entire class. I guess my concern is, she expects it to be the person whose spot DC took. It's really awkward for me to call and it be someone she doesn't expect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, X won't be able to make it to Y's birthday party. We have a prior commitment. Thank you for inviting us.

She doesn't know who X is, that's my problem. The teacher wrote his name on the invitation.

It sounds like these kids are young. Everyone in the class gets invited. This is so your child doesn't feel left out. Many daycares have this as a policy. If you're going to have a party and invite any kids from school, you have to invite all of them.

It doesn't matter if your kid doesn't know X. Your kid is probably happy to go to a party and get to know his classmates. If you don't think this is the case, then respond no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I understand she invited the entire class. I guess my concern is, she expects it to be the person whose spot DC took. It's really awkward for me to call and it be someone she doesn't expect.

That is okay, OP. As several of us have suggested, keep it simple, introduce yourself as "Larlo's mom, new to the class, received invite, sorry won't be able to attend....." you don't need to worry about the other child may/may not have been expecting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I understand she invited the entire class. I guess my concern is, she expects it to be the person whose spot DC took. It's really awkward for me to call and it be someone she doesn't expect.

Why are you calling? Is there no email address?

My oldest is now 6 and we have probably attended a hundred parties by now between my 2 kids, family and family friends. I have never called to RSVP. I have hosted 11 birthday parties and had only 1 person call me. Everyone else emails. A few people texted but those are people we already know. I now do evites.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I understand she invited the entire class. I guess my concern is, she expects it to be the person whose spot DC took. It's really awkward for me to call and it be someone she doesn't expect.

She doesn't care about the kid whose spot your DC took. Frankly, she doesn't care about your DC. She's trying to have a party for her kid and she invited the kids in the class (she doesn't know the vast majority of these kids).

She is inviting all the kids in the class (whoever they are) and she just needs to know who is and isn't showing up to plan the party.

"Hi, I'm Y's mom, Sally. Y is new in the class as of last Monday. Y is thrilled to attend. (Or, so sorry Y can't attend.) We'll see you at the party. (Or, we'll see you at dropoff sometime soon.)"

[Anonymous]

She was trying to be inclusive. Inviting the whole class is not unusual for a daycare party. Just let the mom know your kid cannot make it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I understand she invited the entire class. I guess my concern is, she expects it to be the person whose spot DC took. It's really awkward for me to call and it be someone she doesn't expect.

Why are you calling? Is there no email address?

My oldest is now 6 and we have probably attended a hundred parties by now between my 2 kids, family and family friends. I have never called to RSVP. I have hosted 11 birthday parties and had only 1 person call me. Everyone else emails. A few people texted but those are people we already know. I now do evites.

No, there is no email address, just a phone number.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I understand she invited the entire class. I guess my concern is, she expects it to be the person whose spot DC took. It's really awkward for me to call and it be someone she doesn't expect.

Why are you calling? Is there no email address?

My oldest is now 6 and we have probably attended a hundred parties by now between my 2 kids, family and family friends. I have never called to RSVP. I have hosted 11 birthday parties and had only 1 person call me. Everyone else emails. A few people texted but those are people we already know. I now do evites.

I recently got an invitation with a phone number only. I agree it's unusual, but it happens.

[Anonymous]

You are right, that is a dumb question. Yes, you RSVP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I understand she invited the entire class. I guess my concern is, she expects it to be the person whose spot DC took. It's really awkward for me to call and it be someone she doesn't expect.

Why are you calling? Is there no email address?

My oldest is now 6 and we have probably attended a hundred parties by now between my 2 kids, family and family friends. I have never called to RSVP. I have hosted 11 birthday parties and had only 1 person call me. Everyone else emails. A few people texted but those are people we already know. I now do evites.

No, there is no email address, just a phone number.

Try texting then. It is most likely a cell phone number.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you need to rsvp.

So I have to introduce myself as well?

I have AS, and this doesn't make any sense to me. She doesn't know my name or my child's name.

You asked, we answered, and now you're arguing with us because you don't understand. Sometimes you don't HAVE to understand - you just have to do things. We are TELLING YOU that yes, you need to RSVP. More than one person was even kind enough to write out exactly what you should say, minus the proper nouns. Say thank you, listen to us, and go RSVP.

[Anonymous]

This isn't difficult OP - your child was invited, as were everyone else in the class. If you cannot attend you call and say so. "Hi, I'm Larla, Larlo's mom in Miss Lisa's class. Thanks for the invitation but Larlo won't be able to make it."

[Anonymous]

Or use the script examples provided by PP and call during the mid-morning when people are most likely at work.

As an introvert I've learned this almost always allows me to leave a message.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you need to rsvp.

So I have to introduce myself as well?

I have AS, and this doesn't make any sense to me. She doesn't know my name or my child's name.

You asked, we answered, and now you're arguing with us because you don't understand. Sometimes you don't HAVE to understand - you just have to do things. We are TELLING YOU that yes, you need to RSVP. More than one person was even kind enough to write out exactly what you should say, minus the proper nouns. Say thank you, listen to us, and go RSVP.

No, I don't think I will, sorry. I don't call people for social reasons if they don't know me.

I'm pretty sure it's a gift grab though, so I don't feel too badly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I understand she invited the entire class. I guess my concern is, she expects it to be the person whose spot DC took. It's really awkward for me to call and it be someone she doesn't expect.

The script PP posted solves all the problems you've listed. I doubt she cares about the person whose spot DC took, or else she would have written out the children's names herself and included that other child. The fact that she included blank invites means that she is inviting the class, whomever it may be.

Just do this:

Yes, you should rsvp. Just say "this is Larlo's mom. He just started in the toddler room at Sunshine Daycare and we got the birthday party invite. I'm sorry we won't be able to make it!"

I understand it's awkward. I do not have AS, but do have social anxiety and avoid phone calls whenever humanly possible. When I do have to make them, I usually write out a script for myself and/or have notes ready for what I need to say. I promise, the reasons for this call are 100% legit and the other mom will not think you are weird for calling.