really stupid RSVP question

[Anonymous]

DC started a new daycare today and already had a birthday invitation. It had his name on it, so I assume the parents just brought in a bunch of blank ones and the teacher labled them with everyone else's name.

It says to RSVP. We won't be going, so do I have to RSVP? Normally I'd say absolutely, but there's no way the parents even know my name or my child's name since he's brand new. I feel silly calling and saying we're not coming when they have no idea who I am. Help!

[Anonymous]

Yes, you need to rsvp.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you should rsvp. Just say "this is Larlo's mom. He just started in the toddler room at Sunshine Daycare and we got the birthday party invite. I'm sorry we won't be able to make it!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you need to rsvp.

So I have to introduce myself as well?

I have AS, and this doesn't make any sense to me. She doesn't know my name or my child's name.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, X won't be able to make it to Y's birthday party. We have a prior commitment. Thank you for inviting us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you need to rsvp.

So I have to introduce myself as well?

I have AS, and this doesn't make any sense to me. She doesn't know my name or my child's name.

See response 11:24.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, X won't be able to make it to Y's birthday party. We have a prior commitment. Thank you for inviting us.

She doesn't know who X is, that's my problem. The teacher wrote his name on the invitation.

[Anonymous]

What is AS? Asperger's?

It is customary to RSVP yes and no. Even if the parent doesn't know you or your child, the parent invited your child and needs to know whether your child is attending to plan accordingly (activities, food, etc.).

This is very typical. A lot of times you won't know the other parents when you get invited to the party. You still RSVP.

[Anonymous]

She doesn't know you or your kid, but she knows how many people she invited. You have to let her know that your child won't be attending. That's just common courtesy.

If making a phone call is what is panicking, you, then write a note and leave it in her kid's daycare cubby.

[Anonymous]

Your response, regardless of what it is, is requested.

op -- have you never had to plan for a party? You need to be prepared for the number of guests.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, X won't be able to make it to Y's birthday party. We have a prior commitment. Thank you for inviting us.

She doesn't know who X is, that's my problem. The teacher wrote his name on the invitation.

The host doesn't care who X is. They probably invited the whole class. You are overthinking this. I do appreciate no's though. It allows you to plan for food and favors and not constantly wonder close to the date if X and the other 4 kids who did not RSVP will come.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you need to rsvp.

So I have to introduce myself as well?

I have AS, and this doesn't make any sense to me. She doesn't know my name or my child's name.

See response 11:24.

This is how she will learn your name & your child's name. Introductions outside of work environments, in social situations, are often more casual, like this would be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you need to rsvp.

So I have to introduce myself as well?

I have AS, and this doesn't make any sense to me. She doesn't know my name or my child's name.

The teacher probably told her about your dc and that your dc just started.

[Anonymous]

Yes, please RSVP. We just had a party for our twins and several families didn't bother to respond. I don't really understand that..even if you can't make it, please respond and let the host know. I know that you are new to this daycare, but they invited everyone int he class probably and it helps to know how many people are coming to the party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, X won't be able to make it to Y's birthday party. We have a prior commitment. Thank you for inviting us.

She doesn't know who X is, that's my problem. The teacher wrote his name on the invitation.

But she knows that there are certain number of kids in the class and expects certain number of RSVPs. Not sure what is so difficult in this situation. It is an occasion to introduce yourself and make a good impression.