really stupid RSVP question

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I understand she invited the entire class. I guess my concern is, she expects it to be the person whose spot DC took. It's really awkward for me to call and it be someone she doesn't expect.

Why are you calling? Is there no email address?

My oldest is now 6 and we have probably attended a hundred parties by now between my 2 kids, family and family friends. I have never called to RSVP. I have hosted 11 birthday parties and had only 1 person call me. Everyone else emails. A few people texted but those are people we already know. I now do evites.

No, there is no email address, just a phone number.

Try texting then. It is most likely a cell phone number.

I agree texting in this situation is fine.

Same verbiage as people gave you above. If you don't get a response to the text, then you call to make sure the host got the RSVP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, you need to rsvp.

So I have to introduce myself as well?

I have AS, and this doesn't make any sense to me. She doesn't know my name or my child's name.

You asked, we answered, and now you're arguing with us because you don't understand. Sometimes you don't HAVE to understand - you just have to do things. We are TELLING YOU that yes, you need to RSVP. More than one person was even kind enough to write out exactly what you should say, minus the proper nouns. Say thank you, listen to us, and go RSVP.

No, I don't think I will, sorry. I don't call people for social reasons if they don't know me.

I'm pretty sure it's a gift grab though, so I don't feel too badly.

I hate when people call a birthday party a gift grab. We always spend at least $500 for each party, often close to $1000. I buy thoughtful favors and good food. I spent more on the guest than the $20 gift you brought for my child. Just the activity/entertainer probably cost more than $20 per child.

[Anonymous]

No sympathy for you, OP.

[Anonymous]

I mean you could be the rude parent who does nothing, in which case the parent will probably drop you another note asking if you are coming. Better to just bite the bullet and call (or have your spouse call if you're fearful of a short conversation).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, you need to rsvp.

So I have to introduce myself as well?

I have AS, and this doesn't make any sense to me. She doesn't know my name or my child's name.

You asked, we answered, and now you're arguing with us because you don't understand. Sometimes you don't HAVE to understand - you just have to do things. We are TELLING YOU that yes, you need to RSVP. More than one person was even kind enough to write out exactly what you should say, minus the proper nouns. Say thank you, listen to us, and go RSVP.

No, I don't think I will, sorry. I don't call people for social reasons if they don't know me.

I'm pretty sure it's a gift grab though, so I don't feel too badly.

What!!!!! My head literally just hit my desk.

OP, what are you talking about? This can't be real. You are not calling the other parent for social reasons. You are calling to respond to an invitation received for your child. It is rude not to respond. This is going to come up a lot over your child's life. Really. You will need to communicate with other parents that you don't know on behalf of or for your child.

I can tend toward cynical, but a small child's birthday party isn't a gift grab.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you need to rsvp.

So I have to introduce myself as well?

I have AS, and this doesn't make any sense to me. She doesn't know my name or my child's name.

You asked, we answered, and now you're arguing with us because you don't understand. Sometimes you don't HAVE to understand - you just have to do things. We are TELLING YOU that yes, you need to RSVP. More than one person was even kind enough to write out exactly what you should say, minus the proper nouns. Say thank you, listen to us, and go RSVP.

No, I don't think I will, sorry. I don't call people for social reasons if they don't know me.

I'm pretty sure it's a gift grab though, so I don't feel too badly.

What!!!!! My head literally just hit my desk.

OP, what are you talking about? This can't be real. You are not calling the other parent for social reasons. You are calling to respond to an invitation received for your child. It is rude not to respond. This is going to come up a lot over your child's life. Really. You will need to communicate with other parents that you don't know on behalf of or for your child.

I can tend toward cynical, but a small child's birthday party isn't a gift grab.

She doesn't know me!!! It's rude to put someone in the position to have to call a perfect stranger who doesn't know them either!

[Anonymous]

You asked DCUM a question, and every single response has been, "Yes, you RSVP". It's pretty rare for the DCUM population to agree on anything. And yet, you are just going to not RSVP?!?! Why bother asking if you already made up your mind?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You asked DCUM a question, and every single response has been, "Yes, you RSVP". It's pretty rare for the DCUM population to agree on anything. And yet, you are just going to not RSVP?!?! Why bother asking if you already made up your mind?

I thought about it more and it seemed stranger to call her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you need to rsvp.

So I have to introduce myself as well?

I have AS, and this doesn't make any sense to me. She doesn't know my name or my child's name.

You asked, we answered, and now you're arguing with us because you don't understand. Sometimes you don't HAVE to understand - you just have to do things. We are TELLING YOU that yes, you need to RSVP. More than one person was even kind enough to write out exactly what you should say, minus the proper nouns. Say thank you, listen to us, and go RSVP.

No, I don't think I will, sorry. I don't call people for social reasons if they don't know me.

I'm pretty sure it's a gift grab though, so I don't feel too badly.

What!!!!! My head literally just hit my desk.

OP, what are you talking about? This can't be real. You are not calling the other parent for social reasons. You are calling to respond to an invitation received for your child. It is rude not to respond. This is going to come up a lot over your child's life. Really. You will need to communicate with other parents that you don't know on behalf of or for your child.

I can tend toward cynical, but a small child's birthday party isn't a gift grab.

She doesn't know me!!! It's rude to put someone in the position to have to call a perfect stranger who doesn't know them either!

Do you have a job? Do you have to call people you don't know for your job? Have you ever called a handy person or electrician/plumber to come fix something in your home? Have you ever called a doctor's office to make an appointment? Is it rude that these people have put you in the position of calling them when you don't know them? No, it's just the way things work.

Sometimes phone calls are transactional. This is a transactional phone call. It's not social. Maybe thinking of it that way will help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you need to rsvp.

So I have to introduce myself as well?

I have AS, and this doesn't make any sense to me. She doesn't know my name or my child's name.

You asked, we answered, and now you're arguing with us because you don't understand. Sometimes you don't HAVE to understand - you just have to do things. We are TELLING YOU that yes, you need to RSVP. More than one person was even kind enough to write out exactly what you should say, minus the proper nouns. Say thank you, listen to us, and go RSVP.

No, I don't think I will, sorry. I don't call people for social reasons if they don't know me.

I'm pretty sure it's a gift grab though, so I don't feel too badly.

What!!!!! My head literally just hit my desk.

OP, what are you talking about? This can't be real. You are not calling the other parent for social reasons. You are calling to respond to an invitation received for your child. It is rude not to respond. This is going to come up a lot over your child's life. Really. You will need to communicate with other parents that you don't know on behalf of or for your child.

I can tend toward cynical, but a small child's birthday party isn't a gift grab.

She doesn't know me!!! It's rude to put someone in the position to have to call a perfect stranger who doesn't know them either!

I have been on this site since its inception. I have never, ever said this to anyone before now.

BUT.

I feel sorry for your children.

Good luck, OP, and don't you dare ever come here to complain that the DC area is horrible and unfriendly.

[Anonymous]

Do you suffer from social anxiety, OP?
Because you are seriously making a mountain out of a molehill. Stop being such a drama queen.

Who the F cares if your kid is new to the daycare, or that your child took up a spot. The parent is inviting the entire class so no one will feel left out.

[Anonymous]

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She doesn't know me!!! It's rude to put someone in the position to have to call a perfect stranger who doesn't know them either!

Holy lord this just took hysterical up 10 notches.

OP I'm trying to be sympathetic because you seem to have pretty severe anxiety about this. Just don't RSVP. No one's going to come check up you to find out why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you need to rsvp.

So I have to introduce myself as well?

I have AS, and this doesn't make any sense to me. She doesn't know my name or my child's name.

You asked, we answered, and now you're arguing with us because you don't understand. Sometimes you don't HAVE to understand - you just have to do things. We are TELLING YOU that yes, you need to RSVP. More than one person was even kind enough to write out exactly what you should say, minus the proper nouns. Say thank you, listen to us, and go RSVP.

No, I don't think I will, sorry. I don't call people for social reasons if they don't know me.

I'm pretty sure it's a gift grab though, so I don't feel too badly.

What!!!!! My head literally just hit my desk.

OP, what are you talking about? This can't be real. You are not calling the other parent for social reasons. You are calling to respond to an invitation received for your child. It is rude not to respond. This is going to come up a lot over your child's life. Really. You will need to communicate with other parents that you don't know on behalf of or for your child.

I can tend toward cynical, but a small child's birthday party isn't a gift grab.

She doesn't know me!!! It's rude to put someone in the position to have to call a perfect stranger who doesn't know them either!

I have been on this site since its inception. I have never, ever said this to anyone before now.

BUT.

I feel sorry for your children.

Good luck, OP, and don't you dare ever come here to complain that the DC area is horrible and unfriendly.

It's rude to put someone in this position. And what's a strange comment. She's certainly not doing it to be friendly. She's not even making it easy by including an email address.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you suffer from social anxiety, OP?
Because you are seriously making a mountain out of a molehill. Stop being such a drama queen.

Who the F cares if your kid is new to the daycare, or that your child took up a spot. The parent is inviting the entire class so no one will feel left out.

They're two. How would they even know they're not going to a party.

And yeah, I think it's really strange to call someone to RSVP when they don't actually know they've invited you.

[Anonymous]

I very rarely call troll, but I think this has to be a troll.

Has to be. The OP's insisting responses back can't be real.