really stupid RSVP question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I think you need to stop responding to this thread. It obviously isn't helping you at all and I think now that people are a bit fed up with you, it's only going to get more vicious. If you are really so fragile that you can't bear to interact with anyone, I highly recommend stepping away and finding something constructive to do.

I guess it just proves to me that I've made the right decision to isolate myself. I can't do anything right.

DCUM is my only social outlet, though, and yes, it's made me more bitter and way less likely to meet people in real life. But it's all I have. I've even tried crying out for help on Facebook and no one responds.

are you on meds? you sound like you could use some meds (from someone on meds)

and some marriage counseling or possibly an end to your marriage..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I think you need to stop responding to this thread. It obviously isn't helping you at all and I think now that people are a bit fed up with you, it's only going to get more vicious. If you are really so fragile that you can't bear to interact with anyone, I highly recommend stepping away and finding something constructive to do.

Very true, and excellent/kind advice.

I'd bet April's mortgage though that OP can't resist. This is just entertainment for her.

Ding ding ding!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

She doesn't know me!!! It's rude to put someone in the position to have to call a perfect stranger who doesn't know them either!

Holy lord this just took hysterical up 10 notches.

OP I'm trying to be sympathetic because you seem to have pretty severe anxiety about this. Just don't RSVP. No one's going to come check up you to find out why.

Exactly. Don't RSVP because you have all these issues. But do not call the host "rude" or accuse them organizing a "gift grab." That is just plain obnoxious. Being on the autism spectrum is not an excuse for being an entitled, ungrateful bitch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

She doesn't know me!!! It's rude to put someone in the position to have to call a perfect stranger who doesn't know them either!

Holy lord this just took hysterical up 10 notches.

OP I'm trying to be sympathetic because you seem to have pretty severe anxiety about this. Just don't RSVP. No one's going to come check up you to find out why.

Exactly. Don't RSVP because you have all these issues. But do not call the host "rude" or accuse them organizing a "gift grab." That is just plain obnoxious. Being on the autism spectrum is not an excuse for being an entitled, ungrateful bitch.

Then spell it out for me. Why do you invite people you don't know unless you're after gifts? I honestly do NOT understand that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

She doesn't know me!!! It's rude to put someone in the position to have to call a perfect stranger who doesn't know them either!

Holy lord this just took hysterical up 10 notches.

OP I'm trying to be sympathetic because you seem to have pretty severe anxiety about this. Just don't RSVP. No one's going to come check up you to find out why.

Exactly. Don't RSVP because you have all these issues. But do not call the host "rude" or accuse them organizing a "gift grab." That is just plain obnoxious. Being on the autism spectrum is not an excuse for being an entitled, ungrateful bitch.

Then spell it out for me. Why do you invite people you don't know unless you're after gifts? I honestly do NOT understand that.

You are such an ass. Several PPs have explained this to you. They want their child to celebrate with a group of kids they see every day and are comfortable with. The proper thing to do is to invite the whole class or none at all. The parents want the kids to spend time with the other kids outside of the daycare. They want to celebrate with this community.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I think you need to stop responding to this thread. It obviously isn't helping you at all and I think now that people are a bit fed up with you, it's only going to get more vicious. If you are really so fragile that you can't bear to interact with anyone, I highly recommend stepping away and finding something constructive to do.

I guess it just proves to me that I've made the right decision to isolate myself. I can't do anything right.

DCUM is my only social outlet, though, and yes, it's made me more bitter and way less likely to meet people in real life. But it's all I have. I've even tried crying out for help on Facebook and no one responds.

are you on meds? you sound like you could use some meds (from someone on meds)

and some marriage counseling or possibly an end to your marriage..

We stopped the meds because I was gaining weight. Maybe that wasn't the right decision, but it was causing me to hide away more than I was before. I was ashamed and embarassed and felt like everyone was staring at me - so I stopped going anywhere.

DH won't go to marriage counseling because he says it's all my problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

She doesn't know me!!! It's rude to put someone in the position to have to call a perfect stranger who doesn't know them either!

Holy lord this just took hysterical up 10 notches.

OP I'm trying to be sympathetic because you seem to have pretty severe anxiety about this. Just don't RSVP. No one's going to come check up you to find out why.

Lol. I know - it's so rude that someone is including your child and essentially welcoming you to the school.

Grow a pair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

She doesn't know me!!! It's rude to put someone in the position to have to call a perfect stranger who doesn't know them either!

Holy lord this just took hysterical up 10 notches.

OP I'm trying to be sympathetic because you seem to have pretty severe anxiety about this. Just don't RSVP. No one's going to come check up you to find out why.

Exactly. Don't RSVP because you have all these issues. But do not call the host "rude" or accuse them organizing a "gift grab." That is just plain obnoxious. Being on the autism spectrum is not an excuse for being an entitled, ungrateful bitch.

Then spell it out for me. Why do you invite people you don't know unless you're after gifts? I honestly do NOT understand that.

The party is for the kid. The kid sees your kid everyday (or whatever). Kids may already be or will soon be friends/playmates. I'd include everyone who is part of my child's little community of friends. Before my kids were able to make friends on their own I invited every kid in their classes/family.

Also please stop accusing people of playing games or saying hateful things to you and using that as an excuse for your antisocial behavior. You obviously have extreme social anxiety. You should assume that YOU DO NOT understand other people's motivations. YOU are the one started making hateful comments. And your paranoid aspersions about the others parents' motivations really reflect your own thinking about getting to know people. Obviously you only reach out to people for favors/gifts. But that's not how others work. Accept that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I think you need to stop responding to this thread. It obviously isn't helping you at all and I think now that people are a bit fed up with you, it's only going to get more vicious. If you are really so fragile that you can't bear to interact with anyone, I highly recommend stepping away and finding something constructive to do.

I guess it just proves to me that I've made the right decision to isolate myself. I can't do anything right.

DCUM is my only social outlet, though, and yes, it's made me more bitter and way less likely to meet people in real life. But it's all I have. I've even tried crying out for help on Facebook and no one responds.

are you on meds? you sound like you could use some meds (from someone on meds)

and some marriage counseling or possibly an end to your marriage..

We stopped the meds because I was gaining weight. Maybe that wasn't the right decision, but it was causing me to hide away more than I was before. I was ashamed and embarassed and felt like everyone was staring at me - so I stopped going anywhere.

DH won't go to marriage counseling because he says it's all my problem.

There are meds that don't make you gain weight. And I can assure you, this is not all your problem if he is refusing to support you at the expense of both your and your child's wellbeing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

She doesn't know me!!! It's rude to put someone in the position to have to call a perfect stranger who doesn't know them either!

Holy lord this just took hysterical up 10 notches.

OP I'm trying to be sympathetic because you seem to have pretty severe anxiety about this. Just don't RSVP. No one's going to come check up you to find out why.

Exactly. Don't RSVP because you have all these issues. But do not call the host "rude" or accuse them organizing a "gift grab." That is just plain obnoxious. Being on the autism spectrum is not an excuse for being an entitled, ungrateful bitch.

Then spell it out for me. Why do you invite people you don't know unless you're after gifts? I honestly do NOT understand that.

You are such an ass. Several PPs have explained this to you. They want their child to celebrate with a group of kids they see every day and are comfortable with. The proper thing to do is to invite the whole class or none at all. The parents want the kids to spend time with the other kids outside of the daycare. They want to celebrate with this community.

I'm not "an ass". I don't understand. The kids are two, so it's not like they'd recognize another kid on the street!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Also please stop accusing people of playing games or saying hateful things to you and using that as an excuse for your antisocial behavior. You obviously have extreme social anxiety. You should assume that YOU DO NOT understand other people's motivations. YOU are the one started making hateful comments. And your paranoid aspersions about the others parents' motivations really reflect your own thinking about getting to know people. Obviously you only reach out to people for favors/gifts. But that's not how others work. Accept that.

You're wrong. DC hasn't ever had a birthday party (or baby shower) because I don't have any friends and didn't want people thinking I was inviting them just to get gifts. The only gifts I get are from my husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

She doesn't know me!!! It's rude to put someone in the position to have to call a perfect stranger who doesn't know them either!

Holy lord this just took hysterical up 10 notches.

OP I'm trying to be sympathetic because you seem to have pretty severe anxiety about this. Just don't RSVP. No one's going to come check up you to find out why.

Exactly. Don't RSVP because you have all these issues. But do not call the host "rude" or accuse them organizing a "gift grab." That is just plain obnoxious. Being on the autism spectrum is not an excuse for being an entitled, ungrateful bitch.

Then spell it out for me. Why do you invite people you don't know unless you're after gifts? I honestly do NOT understand that.

You are such an ass. Several PPs have explained this to you. They want their child to celebrate with a group of kids they see every day and are comfortable with. The proper thing to do is to invite the whole class or none at all. The parents want the kids to spend time with the other kids outside of the daycare. They want to celebrate with this community.

I'm not "an ass". I don't understand. The kids are two, so it's not like they'd recognize another kid on the street!

Actually 2yo would recognize each other. They may not interact or run up to each other or play together or greet each other, but it's very possible they'd recognize each other.

You seem very self-centered and self-involved and don't understand that others are not like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Also please stop accusing people of playing games or saying hateful things to you and using that as an excuse for your antisocial behavior. You obviously have extreme social anxiety. You should assume that YOU DO NOT understand other people's motivations. YOU are the one started making hateful comments. And your paranoid aspersions about the others parents' motivations really reflect your own thinking about getting to know people. Obviously you only reach out to people for favors/gifts. But that's not how others work. Accept that.

You're wrong. DC hasn't ever had a birthday party (or baby shower) because I don't have any friends and didn't want people thinking I was inviting them just to get gifts. The only gifts I get are from my husband.

Right, but what I'm saying is that you obviously think that building any relationship is all about getting favors/gifts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

She doesn't know me!!! It's rude to put someone in the position to have to call a perfect stranger who doesn't know them either!

Holy lord this just took hysterical up 10 notches.

OP I'm trying to be sympathetic because you seem to have pretty severe anxiety about this. Just don't RSVP. No one's going to come check up you to find out why.

Exactly. Don't RSVP because you have all these issues. But do not call the host "rude" or accuse them organizing a "gift grab." That is just plain obnoxious. Being on the autism spectrum is not an excuse for being an entitled, ungrateful bitch.

Then spell it out for me. Why do you invite people you don't know unless you're after gifts? I honestly do NOT understand that.

You are such an ass. Several PPs have explained this to you. They want their child to celebrate with a group of kids they see every day and are comfortable with. The proper thing to do is to invite the whole class or none at all. The parents want the kids to spend time with the other kids outside of the daycare. They want to celebrate with this community.

I'm not "an ass". I don't understand. The kids are two, so it's not like they'd recognize another kid on the street!

Actually 2yo would recognize each other. They may not interact or run up to each other or play together or greet each other, but it's very possible they'd recognize each other.

You seem very self-centered and self-involved and don't understand that others are not like that.

I don't have any friends, of course I am self-centered. No one else gives a shit about me, and hasn't in a very long time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Also please stop accusing people of playing games or saying hateful things to you and using that as an excuse for your antisocial behavior. You obviously have extreme social anxiety. You should assume that YOU DO NOT understand other people's motivations. YOU are the one started making hateful comments. And your paranoid aspersions about the others parents' motivations really reflect your own thinking about getting to know people. Obviously you only reach out to people for favors/gifts. But that's not how others work. Accept that.

You're wrong. DC hasn't ever had a birthday party (or baby shower) because I don't have any friends and didn't want people thinking I was inviting them just to get gifts. The only gifts I get are from my husband.

Right, but what I'm saying is that you obviously think that building any relationship is all about getting favors/gifts.

No, you said I reach out to people for favors. I never reach out to anyone. Ever. I sit in my house and cry because I know no one will every be social with me.