what's your biggest regret in life?

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Anonymous wrote:Letting my kodakgallery account go inactive. All of my single fun life in my 20s in NYC was documented in photos saved on kodakgallery that were deleted. I feel like crying every time I think about it.

My kodack gallery was automatically switched to shutterfly a few months ago when kodack shut down. Maybe your pics are still out there

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Not dating a woman in business school who asked me out. It was a timing issue as I had broken up a few months earlier with someone I thought was marriage material. The reality is that we had a lot in common and probably would have been very good for each other.

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Having sex with way too many partners because I had no sense of self worth and thought sex would lead to love. Looking back, I wish I had saved myself for my husband.
Regret #2 - not going to law school

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Anonymous wrote:Not being able to give my virginity to my husband

This just sounds creepy and ultra religious.

Why not romantic and idealistic?

Does it change any if the post was

Not being able to give my virginity to my wife

Yes. Double creepy.

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Anonymous wrote:When I was 15 I snuck out one night and got really stoned off pot with my boyfriend and then snuck him back into my room where we had sex and fell asleep. My dad found both of us naked in my bed the next morning. My parents were devastated and I was extremely ashamed. Rather than talk about it we all just withdrew. I think this ruined the rest of my childhood and much of my adulthood. Now in my 40s I'm just now beginning to feel worthy of the good things I have.

Horrible. Ridiculous. Real parents don't reject their child for something so stupid. You totally need to let yourself off the hook.

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I regret that I ever met the man I later married.

Love the kid, though.

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My biggest regrets are:

1) Getting a freak illness in my teens that has caused a lot of residual problems to this day. My main regret about this is that I knew I had a serious medical issue as a teen but ignored it for weeks, at which point it became a very serious infection.
2) Not getting into medical school when I applied in my late 20's, that was the only career I ever really wanted and felt I was best suited for. After doing a post-baccalaureate pre-med program (intense 1.5 years of taking all the pre-med pre-reqs), working full-time in a hospital, and taking the MCAT twice, I got in nowhere after applying to 25 schools. This crushed my self-esteem to smitherenes and I have never recovered.
3) Not having much career direction (besides med school) in my 20's and being extremely underemployed.
4) Not having a vibrant social life in my 20's or early 30's, I feel that I missed out on girlfriends trips, bachlorette parties, being invited to weddings, having a social circle, etc. This was not for lack of trying, however. I just had difficulty making new friends.
5) Moving here from out of state, and not having any family and only 2 friends here, DH and I feel so lonely here.
6) That my extended family (cousins, aunts, uncles) have no interest in any relationship, and that DH's family is such a dysfunctional mess. I feel like I have very little family to lean on for social support or to spend fun times with.
7) Feeling that I never lived up to my potential professionally. I work full-time in a new career that I like and am good at, but it doesn't challenge me and I am bored a lot. I definitely feel like I never lived up to my potential.

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I have an embarrassing medical condition that I did not get treated until my early 40s. I wish I got it treated sooner, for I would have chosen a career and pursued interests that better suited me. But I'm also excited about all the new experiences I am having now.

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1. Partying too much when I was younger and flailing around directionless for a long time.
2. Not saving any money before I had kids
3. Not standing up to my MIL enough
4. Not picking a career that was more "family friendly"

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Not moving to New Zealand when I had the chance

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Creating a lot of credit card debt

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Not picking parents of greater wealth.

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Anonymous wrote:My absolute biggest regret is my total and absolute failure as a mother to my oldest son. I have failed him by all of my standards. I push him too hard. I'm too demanding. I'm too critical. I have continually failed to meet him where his is academically emotionally, physically--his entire life. I regret that he has me for a mother. He deserves a better, kinder, more forgiving, more accepting mother. I am trying every day to be a better mom to him--but every year, as I look back I feel I have gotten worse and worse. He is only 12. I have tried therapy on and off for years. I will again. I am almost wild with grief that there are only 3 weeks left of summer and then we are back to our eternal battle ground issue: school.

Op, your post made sad-- I can hear your regret and self reproach. Get back into therapy if you can. It's not too late to turn things around with your son. Just let him know you love gym no matter what and that you're trying your best.

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I'm not sure if this is a regret or more of a disappointment. My mother died when I was 14 and it seems like I've never felt a sense of family belonging ever since.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure if this is a regret or more of a disappointment. My mother died when I was 14 and it seems like I've never felt a sense of family belonging ever since.

I'm so sorry for your loss.