My daughter is really disappointed

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Anonymous wrote:The people here are insane.

Which ones?

Pretty sure the last several comments answered this question.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter’s really feeling down right now. She’s been waitlisted or rejected her top-choice schools, and it hurts. She feels angry and like a failure who worked so hard for nothing and is worried her future won’t look the same. She’s been sad, worried, and crying a lot. We’re not sure how to help her through this or what to do next.

Didn’t you post this last week or the week before?

Surely she got in somewhere? She will bloom where she is planted.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter’s really feeling down right now. She’s been waitlisted or rejected her top-choice schools, and it hurts. She feels angry and like a failure who worked so hard for nothing and is worried her future won’t look the same. She’s been sad, worried, and crying a lot. We’re not sure how to help her through this or what to do next.

Which schools was she waitlisted from? Some of them move. Work with your school-based counselor to develop a strategy for the best opportunity and let that school know in no uncertain terms that you will enroll if offered a spot. Hang in there!

She doesn’t feel very hopeful. She was waitlisted at JHU, Duke, UVA, Harvard, Yale, and UPenn.

Wow, being WL at any one of these schools is a sign that your DD was extremely competitive among the applicant pool. What is at the top of the ones where she was accepted?

Cornell
Northwestern
Dartmouth
Umich
Brown
Vanderbilt & more

If you’re for real OP, you and your daughter are complete jerks.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter’s really feeling down right now. She’s been waitlisted or rejected her top-choice schools, and it hurts. She feels angry and like a failure who worked so hard for nothing and is worried her future won’t look the same. She’s been sad, worried, and crying a lot. We’re not sure how to help her through this or what to do next.

Which schools was she waitlisted from? Some of them move. Work with your school-based counselor to develop a strategy for the best opportunity and let that school know in no uncertain terms that you will enroll if offered a spot. Hang in there!

She doesn’t feel very hopeful. She was waitlisted at JHU, Duke, UVA, Harvard, Yale, and UPenn.

Wow, being WL at any one of these schools is a sign that your DD was extremely competitive among the applicant pool. What is at the top of the ones where she was accepted?

Cornell
Northwestern
Dartmouth
Umich
Brown
Vanderbilt & more

If you’re for real OP, you and your daughter are complete jerks.

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Anonymous wrote:So my daughter’s favorite schools were Yale and Stanford, though even those weren’t perfect in her eyes. She really didn’t like Cornell, Northwestern, Dartmouth, or Vanderbilt for a bunch of different reasons. She did like UVA and Duke (kind of), but didn’t get into those either.

What’s been hardest is getting waitlisted at Harvard, Yale, and UPenn—it hurts a lot because it feels like she *could* have gotten in, just got unlucky. So now she’s taking it as that she’s a stupid failure, even though that’s not really fair. -OP

Why did she apply to schools she really didn’t like? Especially reach schools she really didn’t like?

She applied to 34 schools. All of the top30 plus a few safeties.

How many supplements did she write?

34. -OP

Interesting that all 34 schools required supplements. I thought some you mentioned do not, but regardless, could she go back and look at the "Why Us?" essay for the ones she was accepted to and see if she was telling the truth in any of them? It's weird that she applied to schools where she didn't actually want to attend, yet their applications require a lot of extra work. Were the "Why Us" essays credible at all?

To her, no school is truly perfect—even her favorites have downsides. But most of the schools she applied to have qualities she likes, which is what she wrote about. -OP

Well she's right then. No school is perfect, including the ones she was rejected from/waitlisted at. Time to look at the qualities she liked in the ones she was accepted to, and prioritize which of them are most important. This is part of the process. I'm the PP who wrote about Brown. She should give it a closer look in my opinion. Concerns about "quality of education" are misguided.

She’s just worried about job opportunities coming from Brown because of it being known for an open curriculum. I can try and tell her to look at the positives, but she still feels defeated and worthless because she didn’t get into a top school. -OP

100% trolling. Just believable enough and with a dash of narcissistic personality disorder to invite rage posting! Well played!

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Anonymous wrote:So my daughter’s favorite schools were Yale and Stanford, though even those weren’t perfect in her eyes. She really didn’t like Cornell, Northwestern, Dartmouth, or Vanderbilt for a bunch of different reasons. She did like UVA and Duke (kind of), but didn’t get into those either.

What’s been hardest is getting waitlisted at Harvard, Yale, and UPenn—it hurts a lot because it feels like she *could* have gotten in, just got unlucky. So now she’s taking it as that she’s a stupid failure, even though that’s not really fair. -OP

Why did she apply to schools she really didn’t like? Especially reach schools she really didn’t like?

She applied to 34 schools. All of the top30 plus a few safeties.

How many supplements did she write?

34. -OP

Interesting that all 34 schools required supplements. I thought some you mentioned do not, but regardless, could she go back and look at the "Why Us?" essay for the ones she was accepted to and see if she was telling the truth in any of them? It's weird that she applied to schools where she didn't actually want to attend, yet their applications require a lot of extra work. Were the "Why Us" essays credible at all?

To her, no school is truly perfect—even her favorites have downsides. But most of the schools she applied to have qualities she likes, which is what she wrote about. -OP

Well she's right then. No school is perfect, including the ones she was rejected from/waitlisted at. Time to look at the qualities she liked in the ones she was accepted to, and prioritize which of them are most important. This is part of the process. I'm the PP who wrote about Brown. She should give it a closer look in my opinion. Concerns about "quality of education" are misguided.

She’s just worried about job opportunities coming from Brown because of it being known for an open curriculum. I can try and tell her to look at the positives, but she still feels defeated and worthless because she didn’t get into a top school. -OP

It sounds like you agree with her, that she’s worthless because she didn’t get into Yale? Is that it OP?

I hate that these schools made my daughter feel this way. She’s more than qualified, but now she says she doesn’t want to go to college anymore and just wants to stay home because she didn’t get into the schools she wanted. She’s not being a jerk—it was just the expectation based on her stats. If she had been rejected outright, she probably would’ve felt better by now and have committed to schools like Brown or Northwestern. But the waitlists make her obsess over the 'what ifs,' and that’s why she’s crying every day, even at school. -OP

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Anonymous wrote:So my daughter’s favorite schools were Yale and Stanford, though even those weren’t perfect in her eyes. She really didn’t like Cornell, Northwestern, Dartmouth, or Vanderbilt for a bunch of different reasons. She did like UVA and Duke (kind of), but didn’t get into those either.

What’s been hardest is getting waitlisted at Harvard, Yale, and UPenn—it hurts a lot because it feels like she *could* have gotten in, just got unlucky. So now she’s taking it as that she’s a stupid failure, even though that’s not really fair. -OP

Why did she apply to schools she really didn’t like? Especially reach schools she really didn’t like?

She applied to 34 schools. All of the top30 plus a few safeties.

How many supplements did she write?

34. -OP

Interesting that all 34 schools required supplements. I thought some you mentioned do not, but regardless, could she go back and look at the "Why Us?" essay for the ones she was accepted to and see if she was telling the truth in any of them? It's weird that she applied to schools where she didn't actually want to attend, yet their applications require a lot of extra work. Were the "Why Us" essays credible at all?

To her, no school is truly perfect—even her favorites have downsides. But most of the schools she applied to have qualities she likes, which is what she wrote about. -OP

Well she's right then. No school is perfect, including the ones she was rejected from/waitlisted at. Time to look at the qualities she liked in the ones she was accepted to, and prioritize which of them are most important. This is part of the process. I'm the PP who wrote about Brown. She should give it a closer look in my opinion. Concerns about "quality of education" are misguided.

She’s just worried about job opportunities coming from Brown because of it being known for an open curriculum. I can try and tell her to look at the positives, but she still feels defeated and worthless because she didn’t get into a top school. -OP

It sounds like you agree with her, that she’s worthless because she didn’t get into Yale? Is that it OP?

I hate that these schools made my daughter feel this way. She’s more than qualified, but now she says she doesn’t want to go to college anymore and just wants to stay home because she didn’t get into the schools she wanted. She’s not being a jerk—it was just the expectation based on her stats. If she had been rejected outright, she probably would’ve felt better by now and have committed to schools like Brown or Northwestern. But the waitlists make her obsess over the 'what ifs,' and that’s why she’s crying every day, even at school. -OP

OP - I mean this kindly, but YOU should be the one hyping up these other schools, encouraging your child to pick one of her amazing options and instilling in your child a sense of gratitude for the schools that chose her. Not wasting time on DCUM. Love the school that loves you back!

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Guys, this is satire. I mean, come on.

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Is OP cousins with the poster who used to say she would off herself if her kid didn’t get into a school at GWU’s level or better? Because it is giving similar vibes.

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Anonymous wrote:OP: Are YOU disappointed too, or just your daughter? I’m asking because you seem to normalize her drama. Has nobody learned from those tragedies following Ivy Days in the past?

I’m disappointed and sad for her, this just really doesn’t feel fair. Now, my daughter doesn’t feel like going to college at all. -OP

Then don’t. In this time and age, going to college is not necessary.

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Everyone needs to report this as a troll. Jeff will check. Report the other thread as well.

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Anonymous wrote:So my daughter’s favorite schools were Yale and Stanford, though even those weren’t perfect in her eyes. She really didn’t like Cornell, Northwestern, Dartmouth, or Vanderbilt for a bunch of different reasons. She did like UVA and Duke (kind of), but didn’t get into those either.

What’s been hardest is getting waitlisted at Harvard, Yale, and UPenn—it hurts a lot because it feels like she *could* have gotten in, just got unlucky. So now she’s taking it as that she’s a stupid failure, even though that’s not really fair. -OP

Why did she apply to schools she really didn’t like? Especially reach schools she really didn’t like?

She applied to 34 schools. All of the top30 plus a few safeties.

How many supplements did she write?

34. -OP

Interesting that all 34 schools required supplements. I thought some you mentioned do not, but regardless, could she go back and look at the "Why Us?" essay for the ones she was accepted to and see if she was telling the truth in any of them? It's weird that she applied to schools where she didn't actually want to attend, yet their applications require a lot of extra work. Were the "Why Us" essays credible at all?

To her, no school is truly perfect—even her favorites have downsides. But most of the schools she applied to have qualities she likes, which is what she wrote about. -OP

Well she's right then. No school is perfect, including the ones she was rejected from/waitlisted at. Time to look at the qualities she liked in the ones she was accepted to, and prioritize which of them are most important. This is part of the process. I'm the PP who wrote about Brown. She should give it a closer look in my opinion. Concerns about "quality of education" are misguided.

She’s just worried about job opportunities coming from Brown because of it being known for an open curriculum. I can try and tell her to look at the positives, but she still feels defeated and worthless because she didn’t get into a top school. -OP

It sounds like you agree with her, that she’s worthless because she didn’t get into Yale? Is that it OP?

I hate that these schools made my daughter feel this way. She’s more than qualified, but now she says she doesn’t want to go to college anymore and just wants to stay home because she didn’t get into the schools she wanted. She’s not being a jerk—it was just the expectation based on her stats. If she had been rejected outright, she probably would’ve felt better by now and have committed to schools like Brown or Northwestern. But the waitlists make her obsess over the 'what ifs,' and that’s why she’s crying every day, even at school. -OP

You failed your daughter if she had any expectation of admission to Yale or any of these schools. They have like 5% admissions rate. It’s a crapshoot whether even the most brilliant and decorated students get in. You should have been making sure that she understood every single one of those applications was a pure coin toss and the results would have nothing to do with her success as a student or her worth as a person. Both of you need therapy.

Make a clean break that the schools didn’t provide. Tell her to drop off the waitlists. Focus on the things she liked about the schools she got into. Reset, and do the parenting job you should have been doing from the beginning.

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Anonymous wrote:So my daughter’s favorite schools were Yale and Stanford, though even those weren’t perfect in her eyes. She really didn’t like Cornell, Northwestern, Dartmouth, or Vanderbilt for a bunch of different reasons. She did like UVA and Duke (kind of), but didn’t get into those either.

What’s been hardest is getting waitlisted at Harvard, Yale, and UPenn—it hurts a lot because it feels like she *could* have gotten in, just got unlucky. So now she’s taking it as that she’s a stupid failure, even though that’s not really fair. -OP

Why did she apply to schools she really didn’t like? Especially reach schools she really didn’t like?

She applied to 34 schools. All of the top30 plus a few safeties.

How many supplements did she write?

34. -OP

All, the troll is a high school student who hasn't even applied to college yet. She thinks that if you apply to 34 top schools, you would have 34 supplements. Nuff said.

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Anonymous wrote:So my daughter’s favorite schools were Yale and Stanford, though even those weren’t perfect in her eyes. She really didn’t like Cornell, Northwestern, Dartmouth, or Vanderbilt for a bunch of different reasons. She did like UVA and Duke (kind of), but didn’t get into those either.

What’s been hardest is getting waitlisted at Harvard, Yale, and UPenn—it hurts a lot because it feels like she *could* have gotten in, just got unlucky. So now she’s taking it as that she’s a stupid failure, even though that’s not really fair. -OP

Why did she apply to schools she really didn’t like? Especially reach schools she really didn’t like?

She applied to 34 schools. All of the top30 plus a few safeties.

How many supplements did she write?

34. -OP

All, the troll is a high school student who hasn't even applied to college yet. She thinks that if you apply to 34 top schools, you would have 34 supplements. Nuff said.

Yeah, this is a good catch.

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Anonymous wrote:One of my kids was like that, even though they were admitted to multiple Ivies (just not to the top three they wanted). Yes, I am bragging but I am also commiserating with OP. It still hurts me to think about. Life is so painful. My other kids have experienced losses and disappointments too, in other arenas. It's hard because you want to tell them the right thing to make it better but all you can do is help them get through to the other side.

Yes, I know this is a "privileged" or entitled problem to have but that doesn't make it any less painful so f-off ahead of time to the haters.

Honestly, you are so gross.