My daughter is really disappointed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid would have given their left arm to get into Dartmouth this yr. Both parents went there, sister goes there, has a 4.0 UW, top rigor, 1550, great application. Rejected.
Headed to UVA or JHU.

And this idiot got in. 😡

How is your child handling it? That’s really rough.

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This has to be a troll.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid would have given their left arm to get into Dartmouth this yr. Both parents went there, sister goes there, has a 4.0 UW, top rigor, 1550, great application. Rejected.
Headed to UVA or JHU.

And this idiot got in. 😡

How is your child handling it? That’s really rough.

JHU is so much better!!

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Anonymous wrote:So my daughter’s favorite schools were Yale and Stanford, though even those weren’t perfect in her eyes. She really didn’t like Cornell, Northwestern, Dartmouth, or Vanderbilt for a bunch of different reasons. She did like UVA and Duke (kind of), but didn’t get into those either.

What’s been hardest is getting waitlisted at Harvard, Yale, and UPenn—it hurts a lot because it feels like she *could* have gotten in, just got unlucky. So now she’s taking it as that she’s a stupid failure, even though that’s not really fair. -OP

Why did she apply to schools she really didn’t like? Especially reach schools she really didn’t like?

She applied to 34 schools. All of the top30 plus a few safeties.

How many supplements did she write?

34. -OP

Interesting that all 34 schools required supplements. I thought some you mentioned do not, but regardless, could she go back and look at the "Why Us?" essay for the ones she was accepted to and see if she was telling the truth in any of them? It's weird that she applied to schools where she didn't actually want to attend, yet their applications require a lot of extra work. Were the "Why Us" essays credible at all?

To her, no school is truly perfect—even her favorites have downsides. But most of the schools she applied to have qualities she likes, which is what she wrote about. -OP

Well she's right then. No school is perfect, including the ones she was rejected from/waitlisted at. Time to look at the qualities she liked in the ones she was accepted to, and prioritize which of them are most important. This is part of the process. I'm the PP who wrote about Brown. She should give it a closer look in my opinion. Concerns about "quality of education" are misguided.

She’s just worried about job opportunities coming from Brown because of it being known for an open curriculum. I can try and tell her to look at the positives, but she still feels defeated and worthless because she didn’t get into a top school. -OP

It sounds like you agree with her, that she’s worthless because she didn’t get into Yale? Is that it OP?

I hate that these schools made my daughter feel this way. She’s more than qualified, but now she says she doesn’t want to go to college anymore and just wants to stay home because she didn’t get into the schools she wanted. She’s not being a jerk—it was just the expectation based on her stats. If she had been rejected outright, she probably would’ve felt better by now and have committed to schools like Brown or Northwestern. But the waitlists make her obsess over the 'what ifs,' and that’s why she’s crying every day, even at school. -OP

So let her stay home. She sounds too immature to handle college anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:Is OP cousins with the poster who used to say she would off herself if her kid didn’t get into a school at GWU’s level or better? Because it is giving similar vibes.

That thread was craaaazy

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Anonymous wrote:This has to be a troll.

Of course it is. And to her credit, she hasn't even denied the many troll accusations.

Everything about each thread was preposterous from the beginning: the # of schools, the choice of schools, the student's entitlement and subsequent disappointment, the parent's bizarre attitude of acceptance. But OP was so insistent that people have engaged.

The troll has given herself away definitively at least once. Anyone who has applied to even one Ivy would know that 34 supplements for 34 schools is all wrong. The troll is not even familiar with the process.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I was able to attend my top choice, I never would have met the girl across the hall from me in the dorms at the university we both attended.

We are married and have two kids.

I tell this to people all the time- Sliding doors moment.

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter’s really feeling down right now. She’s been waitlisted or rejected her top-choice schools, and it hurts. She feels angry and like a failure who worked so hard for nothing and is worried her future won’t look the same. She’s been sad, worried, and crying a lot. We’re not sure how to help her through this or what to do next.

Which schools was she waitlisted from? Some of them move. Work with your school-based counselor to develop a strategy for the best opportunity and let that school know in no uncertain terms that you will enroll if offered a spot. Hang in there!

She doesn’t feel very hopeful. She was waitlisted at JHU, Duke, UVA, Harvard, Yale, and UPenn.

I find this very hard to believe.

No, it is possible!
But anyone Waitlisted to all of those should have gotten in to at least one T18. Mine was accepted to 3 on that list plus another T10 and waitlisted at 6 total top15s including some above. Unhooked.

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Oh Oops I fell for it. 34 schools and 34 supplements...that is funny! complete troll post.

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What are her other acceptances?

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Anonymous wrote:What are her other acceptances?

Georgetown
Rice University
Cornell
Case Western Reserve
Emory
Northwestern
Vanderbilt
Brown
Dartmouth
UMich
UCLA
USC
UGA
UMD
UF
University of Rochester
Lehigh
Tufts
Drexel
University of Delaware
Penn State.

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Anonymous wrote:What are her other acceptances?

Georgetown
Rice University
Cornell
Case Western Reserve
Emory
Northwestern
Vanderbilt
Brown
Dartmouth
UMich
UCLA
USC
UGA
UMD
UF
University of Rochester
Lehigh
Tufts
Drexel
University of Delaware
Penn State.

Did any of these schools offer her merit money or named merit fellowships or scholarships?

If so, can you share which schools and how much or which fellowships? That might help us steer you in the right direction.

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Crating every day and feeling worthless are signs of depression. She needs to talk to a professional.

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^cryjng, not crating, sorry

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Anonymous wrote:Is OP cousins with the poster who used to say she would off herself if her kid didn’t get into a school at GWU’s level or better? Because it is giving similar vibes.

That thread was craaaazy

i missed it but i want to read it, link please!