Can older men really attract younger women?

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Anonymous wrote:Of course. I dated a 53 year old man when I was 19. He was attractive and wealthy, but I didn’t date him for his money. We met at a club in NYC, hit it off immediately, and started seeing each other.

He treated me extremely well. He was very respectul, and chill. We traveled, went to nice events and genuinely had fun. Yes, he bought me expensive gifts (jewelry, bags, etc.) that I kept after we broke up.

Beyond that, he actually made my life better. He encouraged me, helped me mature, introduced me to people, and even helped me network my way into an internship that mattered for my career.
I enjoyed his company, felt taken care of, and we did have genuine love for each other.

Interesting. Why did you break up, if you felt you were getting so much out of the relationship?

He adored me so much and wanted to marry me but I was too young to settle. If I was a little older, and he a little younger, we’d probably have gotten married, plus he already had four kids who were in their mid-late 20s at the time.

What did the kids think? Why would a 53yo want to marry a college girl?

Out of the four kids, two were really nice. The 25 year old was super welcoming and even let me be a part of her wedding, which was nice. The 29 year was cool too. The 27-year-old, though, was a bit more stand-offish and barely interacted with him. The youngest who was 24, was laid back, nothing special.

It might sound like our relationship was transactional but it was actually normal and equal. He typically didn’t date women that young—his usual pattern was to date women in their 30s if it was for a serious path to marriage, and he didn’t even consider marriage or short-term relationships with women in their 20s. So our relationship was really different for him. Yes, he had a lot of money and would gift me entire closets full of gifts nearly every week, but that wasn’t the foundation of our relationship. It was about companionship.

When we broke up, he really struggled. He thought I was so special that he went into a rut and didn’t get out of it for years, didn’t date. He tried to get me back, but eventually, he remarried a woman in her late 40s with two kids in their early 20s. I guess everything worked out.

Sounds his kids each had a fat trust to their name

Sounds more like PP in workshopping her novel.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course. I dated a 53 year old man when I was 19. He was attractive and wealthy, but I didn’t date him for his money. We met at a club in NYC, hit it off immediately, and started seeing each other.

He treated me extremely well. He was very respectul, and chill. We traveled, went to nice events and genuinely had fun. Yes, he bought me expensive gifts (jewelry, bags, etc.) that I kept after we broke up.

Beyond that, he actually made my life better. He encouraged me, helped me mature, introduced me to people, and even helped me network my way into an internship that mattered for my career.
I enjoyed his company, felt taken care of, and we did have genuine love for each other.

Interesting. Why did you break up, if you felt you were getting so much out of the relationship?

He adored me so much and wanted to marry me but I was too young to settle. If I was a little older, and he a little younger, we’d probably have gotten married, plus he already had four kids who were in their mid-late 20s at the time.

What did the kids think? Why would a 53yo want to marry a college girl?

Out of the four kids, two were really nice. The 25 year old was super welcoming and even let me be a part of her wedding, which was nice. The 29 year was cool too. The 27-year-old, though, was a bit more stand-offish and barely interacted with him. The youngest who was 24, was laid back, nothing special.

It might sound like our relationship was transactional but it was actually normal and equal. He typically didn’t date women that young—his usual pattern was to date women in their 30s if it was for a serious path to marriage, and he didn’t even consider marriage or short-term relationships with women in their 20s. So our relationship was really different for him. Yes, he had a lot of money and would gift me entire closets full of gifts nearly every week, but that wasn’t the foundation of our relationship. It was about companionship.

When we broke up, he really struggled. He thought I was so special that he went into a rut and didn’t get out of it for years, didn’t date. He tried to get me back, but eventually, he remarried a woman in her late 40s with two kids in their early 20s. I guess everything worked out.

Sounds his kids each had a fat trust to their name

Sounds more like PP in workshopping her novel.

Sounds like it’s a fat 50s dude writing an imaginary novel about 19 yo high schooler romance

[Anonymous]

When I was 55 and newly divorced I had no problem attracting women 35-45. The problem was some wanted children or had young children and I wanted neither. Now at 58 I’m very happy with women late 40s and up. I had a few month relationship with a woman who was 67 and she was great but too MAGA for me.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course. I dated a 53 year old man when I was 19. He was attractive and wealthy, but I didn’t date him for his money. We met at a club in NYC, hit it off immediately, and started seeing each other.

He treated me extremely well. He was very respectul, and chill. We traveled, went to nice events and genuinely had fun. Yes, he bought me expensive gifts (jewelry, bags, etc.) that I kept after we broke up.

Beyond that, he actually made my life better. He encouraged me, helped me mature, introduced me to people, and even helped me network my way into an internship that mattered for my career.
I enjoyed his company, felt taken care of, and we did have genuine love for each other.

Interesting. Why did you break up, if you felt you were getting so much out of the relationship?

He adored me so much and wanted to marry me but I was too young to settle. If I was a little older, and he a little younger, we’d probably have gotten married, plus he already had four kids who were in their mid-late 20s at the time.

Yakis - a 53 yo wanting to marry a 19 yo. Stinks pedophilia. I and all my college friends were complete children at 19. Jesus!

I would have totally lost it if my 19-year old came home and said she was dating a man older than her dad.

Yeah that is crazy..53?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Of course. I dated a 53 year old man when I was 19. He was attractive and wealthy, but I didn’t date him for his money. We met at a club in NYC, hit it off immediately, and started seeing each other.

He treated me extremely well. He was very respectul, and chill. We traveled, went to nice events and genuinely had fun. Yes, he bought me expensive gifts (jewelry, bags, etc.) that I kept after we broke up.

Beyond that, he actually made my life better. He encouraged me, helped me mature, introduced me to people, and even helped me network my way into an internship that mattered for my career.
I enjoyed his company, felt taken care of, and we did have genuine love for each other.

Interesting. Why did you break up, if you felt you were getting so much out of the relationship?

He adored me so much and wanted to marry me but I was too young to settle. If I was a little older, and he a little younger, we’d probably have gotten married, plus he already had four kids who were in their mid-late 20s at the time.

What did the kids think? Why would a 53yo want to marry a college girl?

Out of the four kids, two were really nice. The 25 year old was super welcoming and even let me be a part of her wedding, which was nice. The 29 year was cool too. The 27-year-old, though, was a bit more stand-offish and barely interacted with him. The youngest who was 24, was laid back, nothing special.

It might sound like our relationship was transactional but it was actually normal and equal. He typically didn’t date women that young—his usual pattern was to date women in their 30s if it was for a serious path to marriage, and he didn’t even consider marriage or short-term relationships with women in their 20s. So our relationship was really different for him. Yes, he had a lot of money and would gift me entire closets full of gifts nearly every week, but that wasn’t the foundation of our relationship. It was about companionship.

When we broke up, he really struggled. He thought I was so special that he went into a rut and didn’t get out of it for years, didn’t date. He tried to get me back, but eventually, he remarried a woman in her late 40s with two kids in their early 20s. I guess everything worked out.

Sounds his kids each had a fat trust to their name

Sounds more like PP in workshopping her novel.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Of course. I dated a 53 year old man when I was 19. He was attractive and wealthy, but I didn’t date him for his money. We met at a club in NYC, hit it off immediately, and started seeing each other.

He treated me extremely well. He was very respectul, and chill. We traveled, went to nice events and genuinely had fun. Yes, he bought me expensive gifts (jewelry, bags, etc.) that I kept after we broke up.

Beyond that, he actually made my life better. He encouraged me, helped me mature, introduced me to people, and even helped me network my way into an internship that mattered for my career.
I enjoyed his company, felt taken care of, and we did have genuine love for each other.

Interesting. Why did you break up, if you felt you were getting so much out of the relationship?

He adored me so much and wanted to marry me but I was too young to settle. If I was a little older, and he a little younger, we’d probably have gotten married, plus he already had four kids who were in their mid-late 20s at the time.

What did the kids think? Why would a 53yo want to marry a college girl?

Out of the four kids, two were really nice. The 25 year old was super welcoming and even let me be a part of her wedding, which was nice. The 29 year was cool too. The 27-year-old, though, was a bit more stand-offish and barely interacted with him. The youngest who was 24, was laid back, nothing special.

It might sound like our relationship was transactional but it was actually normal and equal. He typically didn’t date women that young—his usual pattern was to date women in their 30s if it was for a serious path to marriage, and he didn’t even consider marriage or short-term relationships with women in their 20s. So our relationship was really different for him. Yes, he had a lot of money and would gift me entire closets full of gifts nearly every week, but that wasn’t the foundation of our relationship. It was about companionship.

When we broke up, he really struggled. He thought I was so special that he went into a rut and didn’t get out of it for years, didn’t date. He tried to get me back, but eventually, he remarried a woman in her late 40s with two kids in their early 20s. I guess everything worked out.

You won.

[Anonymous]

I don't often meet women within five years of my age (so fifties) who are still very hot. When I do, they are either not interested in me or too dumb and superficial to date. Finding someone very hot in her thirties is easier for me. Finding a medium attractive woman in her fifties is pretty easy, but then I get texts from women fifteen or twenty years younger asking me how I'm doing, and when it's time to make weekend plans, well...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't often meet women within five years of my age (so fifties) who are still very hot. When I do, they are either not interested in me or too dumb and superficial to date. Finding someone very hot in her thirties is easier for me. Finding a medium attractive woman in her fifties is pretty easy, but then I get texts from women fifteen or twenty years younger asking me how I'm doing, and when it's time to make weekend plans, well...

Why do you think hot younger women are interested in you when hot 50s are not ?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't often meet women within five years of my age (so fifties) who are still very hot. When I do, they are either not interested in me or too dumb and superficial to date. Finding someone very hot in her thirties is easier for me. Finding a medium attractive woman in her fifties is pretty easy, but then I get texts from women fifteen or twenty years younger asking me how I'm doing, and when it's time to make weekend plans, well...

Why do you think hot younger women are interested in you when hot 50s are not ?

I think it's probably a few things.

First, some younger women are very attracted to my experience. That's less of a big deal for women my own age.

Second, there are very few women in their fifties I find to be actually hot, as opposed to just fairly attractive, and those really hot women are in great demand. They have a lot of options, including a lot of other guys like me and also younger guys. I think that's the main reason.

Another possibility is that the older women notice flaws in me that younger women don't notice or are willing to ignore. But I don't think that's it since I get a lot of interest from so so looking somen my own age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another one is Jimmy Kimmel. He's almost 60. He was not a good looking man when he was young. He's lost weight, grown a beard, improved his haircut, and probably gotten work done. He's also less abrasive than he was when he was young..I'm sure he would be able to date women 20 years younger if he wanted.

He’s also super rich and successful. So there’s that. (I do agree he’s much more attractive than when he was on, say, the Man Show. Although he’s always been charming.)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't often meet women within five years of my age (so fifties) who are still very hot. When I do, they are either not interested in me or too dumb and superficial to date. Finding someone very hot in her thirties is easier for me. Finding a medium attractive woman in her fifties is pretty easy, but then I get texts from women fifteen or twenty years younger asking me how I'm doing, and when it's time to make weekend plans, well...

Why do you think hot younger women are interested in you when hot 50s are not ?

I think it's probably a few things.

First, some younger women are very attracted to my experience. That's less of a big deal for women my own age.

Second, there are very few women in their fifties I find to be actually hot, as opposed to just fairly attractive, and those really hot women are in great demand. They have a lot of options, including a lot of other guys like me and also younger guys. I think that's the main reason.

Another possibility is that the older women notice flaws in me that younger women don't notice or are willing to ignore. But I don't think that's it since I get a lot of interest from so so looking somen my own age.

Can you provide examples of some famous 50s women who are super hot, in your view ?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't often meet women within five years of my age (so fifties) who are still very hot. When I do, they are either not interested in me or too dumb and superficial to date. Finding someone very hot in her thirties is easier for me. Finding a medium attractive woman in her fifties is pretty easy, but then I get texts from women fifteen or twenty years younger asking me how I'm doing, and when it's time to make weekend plans, well...

Why do you think hot younger women are interested in you when hot 50s are not ?

I think it's probably a few things.

First, some younger women are very attracted to my experience. That's less of a big deal for women my own age.

Second, there are very few women in their fifties I find to be actually hot, as opposed to just fairly attractive, and those really hot women are in great demand. They have a lot of options, including a lot of other guys like me and also younger guys. I think that's the main reason.

Another possibility is that the older women notice flaws in me that younger women don't notice or are willing to ignore. But I don't think that's it since I get a lot of interest from so so looking somen my own age.

Can you provide examples of some famous 50s women who are super hot, in your view ?

DP-versus just fairly attractive.

[Anonymous]

Here is a list of some women who are or we're still super hot in their fifties, based on photos and movies, in my opinion: Halle Berry, Viola Davis, Jennifer Lopez, Salma Hayek, Katie Couric, Tilda Swinton, Annie Lennox, Dolly Parton, Lucy Liu, Michelle Yeoh...

But photos don't tell anything close to the whole story. When you meet a woman in person, she can look beautiful without giving off an alluring or enticing sexual aura. A lot of post menopausal women (especially white women) look or seem a little dried out or masculine up close. There are some women who are still beautiful, who give you the sense that they are still having very strong sexual feelings, and who look and smell like someone great to have sex with. There aren't that many of these women in their fiftire and there are even less in their sixties. They do exist but many, many men want to be with them (at least for a while--they break a lot of hearts and also can get their hearts broken by handsome men who also have a lot of options). When it works out, it's great!

Over my many years after divorce, I've met more very attractive women in their thirties and forties who were super into me than women in their fifties. All those women on DCUM who say that women in their thirties and forties are mostly disgusted by men in their fifties and sixties are probably right, but that describes the majority of women in their thirties and forties, not all of them. All those people who say women in their fifties lose their sex drives and beauty are also probably right about many of them, but that doesn't describe all women in their fifties, and the hottest ones do very well when they date.

[Anonymous]

My wife was a model in her 20s when we met, and she was an absolute stunner. Twenty-five years later, after four kids, I love her more than ever, and we have so much history together. That being said, she is maybe one-hundredth as attractive as she was in her 20s when we first got married. Even my wife would admit that.

There are zero attractive women in their late 40's or 50s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife was a model in her 20s when we met, and she was an absolute stunner. Twenty-five years later, after four kids, I love her more than ever, and we have so much history together. That being said, she is maybe one-hundredth as attractive as she was in her 20s when we first got married. Even my wife would admit that.

There are zero attractive women in their late 40's or 50s.

It’s just you are bitter and upset about your wife losing her looks that drastically that you generalize that hidden resentment into all women.
People age at different pace. It depends on lifestyle, weight loss/gains, stress throughout life etc. Both men and women get less attractive with age. In fact, there are more overweight men after age 45 than women.
I went on dates with 40-50s men who looked sexually repulsive (big bellies, face jawline gone, partially bold). They all claimed to have dated younger women before, and when I asked about detail - indeed the men were essentially financing all expenses. Like, travel only paid by him, helped her get education, helped with rent etc.

If you look sexually repulsive but create a sense that you’ve got cash as a man, yes- younger women will be texting you