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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Of course. I dated a 53 year old man when I was 19. He was attractive and  wealthy, but I didn’t date him for his money. We met at a club in NYC, hit it off immediately, and started seeing each other.

He treated me extremely well. He was very respectul, and chill. We traveled, went to nice events and genuinely had fun. Yes, he bought me expensive gifts (jewelry, bags, etc.) that I kept after we broke up.

Beyond that, he actually made my life better. He encouraged me, helped me mature, introduced me to people, and even helped me network my way into an internship that mattered for my career.
 I enjoyed his company, felt taken care of, and we did have genuine love for each other.[/quote]

Interesting. Why did you break up, if you felt you were getting so much out of the relationship?[/quote]

He adored me so much and wanted to marry me but I was too young to settle. If I was a little older, and he a little younger, we’d probably have gotten married, plus he already had four kids who were in their mid-late 20s at the time.[/quote]

What did the kids think? Why would a 53yo want to marry a college girl?[/quote]

Out of the four kids, two were really nice. The 25 year old was super welcoming and even let me be a part of her wedding, which was nice. The 29 year  was cool too. The 27-year-old, though, was a bit more stand-offish and barely interacted with him. The youngest who was 24, was laid back, nothing special.

It might sound like our relationship was transactional but it was actually normal and equal. He typically didn’t date women that young—his usual pattern was to date women in their 30s if it was for a serious path to marriage, and he didn’t even consider marriage or short-term relationships with women in their 20s. So our relationship was really different for him. Yes, he had a lot of money and would gift me entire closets full of gifts nearly every week, but that wasn’t the foundation of our relationship. It was about companionship.

When we broke up, he really struggled. He thought I was so special that he went into a rut and didn’t get out of it for years, didn’t date. He tried to get me back, but eventually, he remarried a woman in her late 40s with two kids in their early 20s. I guess everything worked out.[/quote]

Sounds his kids each had a fat trust to their name [/quote]

Sounds more like PP in workshopping her novel.[/quote]

Sounds like it’s a fat 50s dude writing an imaginary novel about 19 yo high schooler romance [/quote]

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