Are those of you with very arrogant, condescending kids aware of it? Does it bother you?

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Anonymous wrote:We live in an affluent neighborhood with rich and famous people. No one cares about your coat. Our closets are full of nice clothes, but on an everyday basis, we dress comfortably and casually. My kids would never look down on someone else because of what they are wearing. They really wouldn’t know the difference. It’s not like some custom tailored suit is going to have a brand on it or a beautiful dress that cost thousands will have a logo for you to see.

This comparison of a north face vs target type brand is very low class.

Who the hell is famous in DC like DC famous?

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Anonymous wrote:How old are the kids? The example you gave wouldn’t be something I’d notice. The kid is stating a fact (they’re different brands).

If the jackets are both the same shade of green, then they match regardless of brand and it's weird and rude for the second kid to draw a distinction based on the brand.

That's also definitely a learned behavior. The kid is conscious of the brand and the idea that it is nicer/more expensive.Thats coming from parents.

Probably not much of a learned behavior. Kids have access to a ton of information. Group think is strong. Remember what kids were snobby about when you were kids? Did that come from your parents? My parents weren’t aware of all that.

Kids like brands that aren’t remotely relevant to us. They’re capable of following their own group think.

16 yr olds, yes -- brand preferences are influenced more by media and peers. But younger kids are mimicing parents. I also know adults who insist on referring to their belongings by brand -- "I left my Patagonia in the Audi" -- and kids will pick up on that and mimic it as part of language learning. If an elementary school kid is very aware of and vocal about brands, that probably coming from family culture.

I have many jackets and we have four cars. I may describe item with brand. However, I can’t imagine in what scenario I would say this to another person. I may tell DH that I left my black Patagonia or blue montcler in the Lexus. Could he please get it. I may say our son left his Celtics sweatshirt or blue Nikes. I’m not sure how else to describe the item.

Lol if you are needing to specify "blue montcler" to distinguish it from your other montclers, then yes you are a brand snob and your kids are picking up on it and probably copying it. Overconsumption of luxury goods is part of brand snobbery and kids especially absorb that kind of behavior and it becomes normal to them to have, for instance, multiple of the same luxury item in different colors, without any awareness that this is a level of luxury and consumption accessible to less than 1% of the global population.

This is how rich kids become horrible snobs, because they don't even realize what they are doign is snobbery or condescending. They don't understand their own privilege and wealth. It is your job as their parent to give them context and help them understand that your lifestyle is atypical and they need to learn to be thoughtful and self-aware. But then... that requires you to be thoughtful and self-aware. Are you?

Yes, this is a good point. I didn't know what Montcler was so had to google it- you could absolutely describe that in a way that does not involved the brand. But brands are an important marker for you so you use the brand. To some extent a brand can signal higher quality (eg a Patagonia jacket is going to be better for extreme temperatures than a Target branded one) but there are diminishing returns for that.

I don't know the actual brands of coats that my kids have- I just looked and one is North Face and one is Patagonia. If I wanted my husband to get a specific jacket out I would say "can you grab the blue puffy one from the minivan (sedan/ SUV)" because I don't think the distinguishing factor is the brand. Since you do, that makes you brand concious and that likely seeps into your children

This is a stretch. You could just as easily say “my GAP raincoat” or “my blue Burberry trench.” It makes it easier for DH because he can quickly look at the label and see that it says GAP or Burberry. It doesn’t mean she thinks brands are super important.

How many coats are in the car anyway?

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I teach in an elementary school and I see a lot of arrogant behavior and entitled behavior. I was doing a lesson about robotics with robots purchased by the school. I had multiple students ask me why couldn't give them a robot. I had to explain that I can't give away something that belongs to the school and if they want a robot they need to ask their grown up to buy them one as a gift

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Anonymous wrote:We live in an affluent neighborhood with rich and famous people. No one cares about your coat. Our closets are full of nice clothes, but on an everyday basis, we dress comfortably and casually. My kids would never look down on someone else because of what they are wearing. They really wouldn’t know the difference. It’s not like some custom tailored suit is going to have a brand on it or a beautiful dress that cost thousands will have a logo for you to see.

This comparison of a north face vs target type brand is very low class.

Who the hell is famous in DC like DC famous?

I’m laughing at that PP who thinks big law partnership counts toward fame.

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My younger one can have an edge to her but she is our baby and we just try and overlook it. She is smart and can be very caring and sweet but sometimes she is a tad bit bossy and rude.